finding love...

@dsmmsd (71)
Canada
June 22, 2007 4:21pm CST
I just recently got out of a 4 year long relationship, it ended pretty suddently... the girl went out to a bar one nite.. met a guy and dumped me the next day.. so that hurt quite a bit for a while.. but im on here today to see what other people do to meet that special someone? ... what are your stories how did you meet? did you know right away? or are you still looking? im not super anxious to jump right back into a relationship but it would be nice to know that good ones do exist :) haha or if your not having any success with relationships at this point in time why do u think that is... and what are you looking for?
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@Nykkee (2524)
• Canada
22 Jun 07
Ok seriously, go sign up for www.lavalife.com that's where I met my husband, and at the point that I met him I was so fed up with men that I had made this list of requirements in my "looking for" section of my profile there with preferences as specific as "Between 5'3" and 5'7"" and somehow he managed to fit it all and I grew up int he same town as him and never knew him and never would have if not for that dating program. Do try it.
@dsmmsd (71)
• Canada
22 Jun 07
so lava life worked for you huh? i always thot you could meet some real sketchy people on the dating sites.. because they hide behind the computer.. i could be wrong?
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@Nykkee (2524)
• Canada
22 Jun 07
In my personal experience I found it betterm beause you are able to talk more candidly and stuff safe at home in from of your computer than you would face to face so it lets you get to know each other better. You can try to get around the worry of sketchyness by useing web cam and having the person call yo or calling them to help confirm they are who they are saying they are. Also when you find someone you like, if you are communicating online at first it takes away the tension caused by one person wanting to move faster than the other, because all you have here is words so all you can do is talk, so I think it helps to make sure that the realitionship is developed properly intellectually before it develops physically.
@dsmmsd (71)
• Canada
22 Jun 07
yeah i guess this is the year 2000 and things liek that are becoming a lot more popular... i dont know if i want to pay for a service like that? is it expensive...
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• United States
22 Jun 07
When I met my husband I wasn't looking for a relationship with anyone. We met one night before Christmas while I was at work. I worked at Wal-mart in the toy department and he was looking for porcelian dolls for his daughter. I helped him find some. I saw him again after Christmas at the local Waffle House on my lunch break ( I worked the night shift so my lunch break was at 2am). He told me how much his daughter loved the dolls. He started coming by everynight that I worked to hang out with me for lunch and things just went from there. We've been together for almost five years now and been married for a little over a year now. And we are very happily married!
@dsmmsd (71)
• Canada
22 Jun 07
thats a really heartwarming story.. im really glad u shared that.. sounds like such a cool story to tell ur grandkids or something haha..
@DFolan (11)
23 Jun 07
Heya dsmmsd! The saying, 'It arries when you least epect it!' is soooo true! I split with my Ex back in June 2006 - I had been with him 5 yeas and we were planning on getting married. Unfortunately, toward the end he started making me hate him, soley by the way he was treating me. Up until then, I could have sworn that I had 'been in love!' I picked mysef up after the split, fought him to get the house, got a new job and was genuinely a better person in myself! I wasn't planning on getting with anyone, my main aim was success, money and happiness! Out of the blue I met a guy through a mate of mine. I can, at last, hoenstly and truthfully now say, I have experienced 'love' and I have been happy because of it! It will reach you eventually babe, but when you're least expecting it. Concentrate on yourself in the meantime! Good luck. xx
@dsmmsd (71)
• Canada
30 Jun 07
thats soo true!!!!!! i know thats what happened to me last time and i really appriciate all those kind words u had for me thanks soo much
@bobbyjoe143 (1287)
22 Jun 07
i too was in a relationship that had lasted for 4 years, it was me that ended it though (after 4 years, he still would see me no more than 2 nights a week, and that just isn't commitment). i stayed single for just over 2 years after that relationship, i just didn't see the need for another one, i have spent my time devoted to my son instead (my son is from a previous relationship). last year i did start seeing someone, and we were together for 9 months roughly, but it just wasn't the right relationship and we broke up in january. again i am single, but as before, i am quite happy to be single, it means more time devoted to my son :)
@dsmmsd (71)
• Canada
22 Jun 07
its really awesome that your such a devoted mother.. there are many children who dont get that.... and i know what u mean about not wanting to be with someone kinda deal.. hang in there.. everything will turn out awesome :) for sure
• United States
23 Jun 07
Have you thought about a dating site. My girlfriend uses yahoo personals and she seems to have some sucess. I actually met my husband on yahoo.
• United States
23 Jun 07
Have you thought about a dating site. My girlfriend uses yahoo personals and she seems to have some sucess. I actually met my husband on yahoo.
@raijin (10380)
• Philippines
23 Jun 07
I too have been suffering from my previous failed relationship, been a couple of weeks ago since she left me. I am now slowly recovering from that setback, but I guess I am not yet that ready to find or look for another one. We met here, on the net. Chat our ways around and decided to meet, we fell for each other after knowing each other. But I guess she's just a sad being looking for affection, that she haven't felt from her own parents. She came from a broken family, with her the only child. Living alone on their home, with his father working abroad and her mother settled somewhere in a province. After having a rough and tough time of taking care of her, she just disappeared without even letting me know what has gotten into her.. Well with some help from my friends, I don't think more of her anymore. I just hope that she knew what she has done, because some day, what she did to me might get back at her (BIG TIME!).. LoL