would you fall for someone who is not your ideal man?

@djmarion (4901)
Philippines
June 24, 2007 5:24am CST
we all have our ideal men in our minds and for sure we all want to meet them and be their partner. but what if your ideal man happen to be out of sight and reach and there goes a good person who is so into you, you feel the attraction but still he is not your ideal person, he is imperpect and has some qualities and ideals which you really oppose. but the person is really persistent and he did everything to win you. would you give in and try a relationship with him or would you stick to your ideal man rule and just ignore the feeling you're starting to feel toward him?
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
I really don't have an ideal man. I just have a few traits that I consider when choosing a guy. I have chosen the right one. Me and my boyfriend will be celebrating our 5th anniversary this July 13. I'm happy to be with him and we have a great relationship.
@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
26 Jun 07
really, then you are lucky congrats my friend :) and keep him :)
@disvachic (10123)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I've been in this situation 1 year ago where i gave a guy a chance to get it together.I mean he was very nice,sweet made me laugh but financially he was not together.He would be from job to job.He would starto one job and then quit.The longest he would stay on a job would be 2 months and then he would be without work then would be searching again.He would constantly ask me for gas money or money in general.I seen him trying to bring me down right with him because the money i was giving him i really needed.I didnt need that for me and my three children.I've always said i can do bad by myself.I gave him a chance.Til this day he is still doing the same thing.I just dont know what it is but i cant see myself being with him anymore.
@disvachic (10123)
• United States
24 Jun 07
That was fast!lol but thanks for BR!tAKE care
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
Ideal man is just an ideal..no one had ever married to her ideal man..that tall, dark and handsome had just exist in our dreams. We settle for a man just because of his character and not his looks, agree? Sometimes its funny that girls got the exact oppossite of her ideal man.
@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
true, i had this siter and she never like a dark man, too bad she ended up with a dark man.
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• Philippines
29 Jun 07
yes of course, actually my ideal man is just simple, one who will love me as what i am and what i used to be. so its easy to be found. :-)
@cmsk2005 (1770)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Hi friend No no not anymore...that was the thing used to do at the age of 12-13 to 16, then realized the fact that nothing is there as ideal partner or ideal man. To be honest am I idel for someone? I dont think so...and this is life where we have to adjust to find our idel man inside the person we met. So think it is ideal what i have now and be happy.....
@gloria777 (1678)
• India
25 Jun 07
If you fall for a man who is not your ideal ,then definitely you are going to hurt yourself. So we should control ourselves. Finally "prevention is better than cure".
@kawaii24 (520)
• Australia
25 Jun 07
well, yes...my last boyfriend is the exact opposite of my ideal man. as long as you love some one then I guess tehre is no problem in being with him. :)
@batpig (99)
• China
25 Jun 07
yes, certainly i will...sometimes we need to be practical...if cannot reach the ideal, why not give yourself a chance to accept someone is nice...
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
Have you heard the cliche "love comes in th emost unexpected places, time and person?" We can fall for the person who is not our ideal man. It happened to me. I fell for the man whos got the characteristics that I hope I wont find in the man I love. Falling in love doesnt mean falling for the person we find ideal but simpy falling in love with the person who has captured our hearts.
• United States
25 Jun 07
I always end up settling for the person that I don't trully want..however, I end up telling him that it won't work and I end up leaving him..I also end up explaining to him that no matter what he did, he isn't the type of man I want..I would try to make it work, I might even try to make the things I don't like about him something for him to work on..but I don't waste a lot of time...
• Canada
24 Jun 07
As children we all imagined what type of person we would be with when we got older but I believe that as we grew older we realized that there is no perfect or ideal man . An ideal man to me is the person who cares about me for who and what I am and that I feel the same way about them .
@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
24 Jun 07
If I was attracted to him, I would go out with him. A person tends to know by the third date if there is any possibility of a future with someone. My husband was not my ideal man. I was attracted to him and figured I would date him and see what happened. Before I knew it, I was in love with him and couldn't imagine myself spending the rest of my life with anyone else. I also discovered that the ideals I had for Mr. Perfect weren't that important. When it came down to it, the important stuff wasn't even on my list of qualities that Mr. Perfect needed to have. So, I did fall for someone who was not my ideal man. But the man I got is so much better than I could have hoped for. We have our ups and downs, but the really important stuff is what matters.
@shenfei (188)
• China
24 Jun 07
This dicscussin is the same as that you choose the man you love or the man who loves you.Sometimes you don not meet a man you love him and he loves you ,too.I'll choose the man who loves me.I know ideal man doesn't exist in the world,he just exists in my mind.Even though there is really a ideal man,he dose not love me. So I can't stick to my ideal man,I can try my best to love the man who loves me.
• United States
24 Jun 07
I really don't have an ideal man, I tend to get to know people and if theres an attraction I'll see what happends. I think that is why I find it so hard to meet people, I don't have a type to look for!
@jershey (71)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
yes definitely.. sometimes we tend to set standards on our mind for our ideal man, yet eventhough this standards are not met...we still tend to fall in love... ideal man is just ideal...if you stick on the idea that you should fall in love only if your standards are met..i guess you'll wait for a lifetime looking for your ideal man...
@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
24 Jun 07
On a serious note, if we're all waiting for some ideal individual then we are going to die very lonely people. On another serious, but halfway comical note... To answer your question, I'd rather not fall for my "ideal man" but rather my ideal woman, thank you. Yuk yuk. I know this post was meant for ladies. Just remember, no one's perfect--unless it's a Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan movie...
@tantal25 (839)
• United States
24 Jun 07
yes! coz ideal is only ideal, u don't always get what you want. you personally would break all the characteristics of the ideal person you want once you fall in love.
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
24 Jun 07
I married my ideal man and i am proud of it. I dream to marry a guy that is God-fearing, loving, caring, older than myself and i can depend on. I am not really regreting about my decision because i consider it just like winning lotto. hhehee
• Malaysia
24 Jun 07
a model guy - a model guy posting
Most girls love to have a few requirements for guys. As said, Love is blind. When women falls in love, they forgot all the rules. My current bf is not my ideal man, I just gave a try few years ago, and suprisingly, both of us get along really well, he is a nice and kind man. Although we do not share a lot of interest, but it doens't matter. I myself is not an ideal woman, so why ask for an ideal man?
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
24 Jun 07
i had an ideal man but i never fall inlove with him... maybe because...love is not just a choice nor a feeling... but a combination of both of them... even if you found the perfect Guy but you dont have the feeling...the relationship still wont work...or even vice versa...