How Far Would You Help An ON-LINE Friend Out
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
June 29, 2007 11:41am CST
If for example an on line friend needed HELP and needed to escape, would you be prepared to help them? Or if an online friend needed you to write them a letter which is totally legitimate but a lie to help them out, would you do it?
How far would you go to help an on line friend? Bearing in mind you have never met them, BUT you have a great rapport with them, you feel close to them and there is a very good relationship between you.
You trust them and you know they are honest and would never put you in a situation which would get you in deep deep trouble.
Would you have to think twice about helping them, would you feel embarrassed into agreeing but secretly have doubts or would you bend over backwards to help them in everyway you could?
And what help could you NOT give? What would be something that you would say straight away NO WAY!
Think about it, this is kind of hypothetical in a way, not being too cloak and dagger here, I just want to know how you would feel in this situation
Thanks xxx
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15 responses
@weemam (13372)
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29 Jun 07
I would help any friend as much as I could , the thing is though that I do not have a lot of spare time neither do I have a spare room , I wouldn't lie for anyone pal , I think I have said this so many times ,
I just hate lies ,
I don;t think they would be a true friend if they asked you to lie for them anyway ,
I know it sounds silly to say I would help them but I suppose all I could help them with is support to listen and maybe advize ,
take care pal xx
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
29 Jun 07
What an interesting discussion. Since I live and work in an online world I have actually had this happen to me before, and even though I have a big heart, it still pains me to not be able to lie or deceive anybody, even if it is for a friend in the real world or the online world. Most times being truthful and turning them down does take some tact and consideration to their feelings but I would rather be honest with them about what I can and won't do for their friendship. Now I have many friends from myLot want me to join certain sites and I have no problem with that, but sometimes it can be too much, especially with so many friends. Enjoy my friend!!
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Truth is always easy when it is behind a computer and you don't have to face the person or look into their eyes. I can easily tell someone No online more than I will to their face, bad isn't it?
@rhinoboy (2129)
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2 Jul 07
This being the first online community I've been really involved with, I'm still quite cautious. I certainly wouldn't willingly lie for anyone who wasn't family (or close enough friends to BE family) and I probably wouldn't even lie for half of those.
It would depend entirely on the situation. If there were definitely no comebacks to me or mine, then I'll tell anyone you want that pigs fly and the moon is made of cheese. If there's the slightest risk of legal or financial effect on me, you don't have a hope in hell!
@rosie_123 (6113)
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29 Jun 07
Well I think it would depend on the situation, but I admit I would feel very uncomfortable about doing certain things - especially involving lying, writing "fae" letters, or doing anything that could be even vaguely illegal. As for what help would I NOT give - well - I wouldn't ever have someone to stay in our house that my partner had never met, and didn't know anyting about. It just wouldn't be fair on him. Cheers!
@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
2 Jul 07
I would do anything that i can in order to help any of my friend.
it does not really matters if it is an online friend or a real life friend.
The moment i choose to define this person as my friend, i will help him or her in any way that i can.
That is one of the reasons that there ar friends for, for the enjoyable parts and the troubled parts.
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
30 Jun 07
This is a hard one, I do have a very very close friend online and i don't think i would go that far lieing no matter how close we are. Nore would i ask him to do that for me... i'm not really sure what your situation is though but i would just have to say is think about it and if it gets you into trouble than don't... I do wish you and your friend the best..
@budsr03 (2350)
• Canada
29 Jun 07
I think i would help! I don't see many things or situations that are considered unlawful. Sometimes the laws made by man are not the best!
Take care Wolfie.
@billabadmash (1011)
• Pakistan
29 Jun 07
I think i can give him the best advice that i have to share can help him by telling him the solution of the problem he/she is facing and if possible i will meet him and will try to get his problem done.
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
30 Jun 07
It's hard to trust anyone anyone online and you can never really be sure as far a flying across sea I would not do it but as long as I would not get into trouble then I probably would do it considering how long we have know each other online
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
Hello wolfie. This is a very interesting thread. As far as I'm concerned, I always help my online friends BUT only if its within my capability. The fact that I'm very selective with online friends also help a lot.
My answer will still DEPENDS on the situation. I would be lying if I said I didn't go to the extra miles to support a friend because I have. But I won't involved myself if the situation are like any one of the above you mentioned.
@mummymo (23706)
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30 Jun 07
Good Question! I think it would depend on the friend and the situation - but I would always be honest with them! I am a great believer in not judging a situation til you are in it - cos no matter how you think you would react , you just don't know until you are in that situation! I would try to help out in any way I possibly could though - that much I know for a fact! xxxx
@minijumbuk (514)
• Australia
30 Jun 07
I would help an online fried as long as it does not require me to spend any money. I surely would give them advice on anything i know and help them with homework, games, etc..... i have a few really good online friends which i have met in online games and are still very good friends now, even we don't play that game anymore. I have another online friend who is very kind to me! He paid for something for me which is in total worth $20 USD and i have not even met him once in real life, i don't know how i will ever repay him for his kindness towards me. I said thanks to him tens of times but i still feel like its not enough! This friend is so good to me!!!!!!!!
@abiesm (373)
• Vietnam
1 Jul 07
I don't have many friends online, but when one of them get into trouble , I'll try to help them for sure .
maybe it's just giving them some advices but I think they can help them
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
If I can give something, then I'd go and lend a hand. Otherwise, if the person doesn't want the offer that I've been giving, then it's better to stay out of other peple's business.
I know I've helped some here and on other sites I've been to, though some are not in person. I always try to consider other things, before giving them my best suggestion. Knowing something from their background is also a good way of measuring things up, to understand more about them and their predicaments.
