Can someone PLEASE tell me why you men just play games .....

@braided (698)
Canada
July 4, 2007 8:58am CST
Is it because you dont know what you want? or because you arent confident or because there are so many fish (metaphor) in the sea you want to harvest a stock of them? I am giving up on ever finding a relationship ....
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
well, i hope you don't put it as a general character for men. not all men are like that. there are still a few of us who are more than serious in regard to having relationships.. but just to answer your question, its more of machism than anything else.. some men think having a collection of fish (as you put it) defines them as macho. they think this kind of character makes them better men. needless to say i agree with you if you think most men are like that, because they really are.. you know, i've got a lot of female friends who've encountered the same.. and sometimes i find it funny when a group of them comes to me and complains about the same guy.. and i tell all of them the same thing.. i guess i'll just make it as a suggestion for you.. . "don't look for love. let it find you." c',) . and while it hasn't found you yet, just enjoy life.. sometimes its better that way coz theres no one to tell you what to do. c',)
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@braided (698)
• Canada
4 Jul 07
good advice .. makes me feel better ... thanks oh by the way .. i really like your dancing penquin too it makes me smile .. thanks for the comment ... smilin
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
you're welcome! c",) i hope your knight in shining armor finds you real soon.. don't worry, i'll keep Mumble dancing to keep you happy. c',)
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@stealthy (8189)
• United States
5 Jul 07
I don't. In return can you tell me why women always fall for the bad boy lier types rather than the nice guys like me. Well both are stereotypes that are only true for a part, a small part I hope, of the population. I'm looking too.
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@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Seconded. And thank you for mentioning it.
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
4 Jul 07
Well, you KNOW I'm student and observer of the human relationship dynamic... and whereas I am sure there are lots of game-playing men out there, I also think you're looking at a two-way street here. Sure, there's a segment who's simply shallow and callous and "chase women" as a sort of sport... but the flipside is that there's a huge number of women out there who have horrible self-esteem and a poorly developed sense of self. They go on ONE date with a guy, he's nice to them... and they are already at "when's the wedding?" in their heads. Then when they see the guy with some other woman, he's labelled a "game player." Of course, just like not ALL men are players, not ALL women have horrible self-esteem. Another thing that's relevant is that women seem to make faster intuitive judgments as to whether they like/don't like someone. Many men-- including even game players-- have either been taught that, or naturally feel that, it's wrong/bad to hurt women's feelings. Here the MEN's poor self esteem comes into play... they can't handle saying "I'm just not that into you" to a woman who clearly is VERY into them so they say nothing and hope the "problem" will just go away by itself. Which, of course, it doesn't. Of course, I can understand the above from the perspective of how I remember life in my 20's. It does puzzle me (and I have no good answer) why such patterns persist for people who are in their 40's, 50's and beyond.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
5 Jul 07
Once again we fall in SEXISM. I don't know what is wrong with many women who accuse all men in mankind of their bad experiences with men! it's incredible. I know many mean women you know? and i don't go around saying: hey all women play games and are idiots etc. It's utterly unfair and i don't feel alluded at all by your comment, even though I am a man. A bit of prudence when we make comments, please.
@braided (698)
• Canada
6 Jul 07
Its a free country and I can say what i feel ...
@braided (698)
• Canada
6 Jul 07
If you dont like it dont read it
@braided (698)
• Canada
6 Jul 07
If you had read it properlly then you would have realized I asked why men play games ... i didnt say all men ... i just asked a question that centred around those men who do play games .... you have become quite defensive ...mmmm me thinks you protest too much mmmmm well if the shoe fits then wear it
@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Well there could be multiple reasons. On one hand they could be players just out to use and abuse. On another hand they could be players because they got played by a woman(or women) On yet another hand they could not want a committed relationship (plenty of reasons) And I'll add the statement, some women play plenty of games, especially mindgames. Others aren't even aware they start mindgames or in other circles its testing. It happens, but some of the games go way too far and people (both women and men) get hurt for no good reason. I'll say this. Good luck in your future relationship attempts. I do want people to be happy, I want you to be happy too Braided! Personally, I could careless if I find someone again or if I remain single.
@braided (698)
• Canada
3 Nov 07
you are right when you said i didnt say some men ...i apologize ... i should have definitely said that but your comments are well taken ... thank for your insite .... peace
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@liyan97 (2128)
• Northern Mariana Islands
5 Jul 07
Hello there Braided! I honestly can’t give an explanation to why men play games, maybe because we women do to! lol… It is pretty typical for a woman to say that a man plays games, I know I often do but in retrospect, are they really playing games or are we taking things too seriously? It is a stereotype that has been around since the beginning of time! How do we stop a man from playing games? Well my answer to that is not to allow it to begin with! I have been in several relationships before and I have come to realize that it is I who ultimately allows me, to be played. Simply because even after noticing the signs I still choose stay and play the game which is love! If am man begins to play games with a woman, we are usually quite fast at catching on, if we choose to stay and see the ending then I guess there is no one to blame but ourselves. We women play games too and it is unfair that we should pin point only the men. If you think about it although we have different genders we all share the same emotions, it is just harder for some of us to come out and show it in any relationship. And what we consider to be overly protective of our emotions, most partners take it as us playing games:)
@braided (698)
• Canada
11 Jul 07
good point ... thanks for the imput ...
@gullu1562 (216)
• India
2 Nov 07
I personally feel "once beaten twice shy" is the case with you and now u r on wrong side of your age Life is full of life and live it to the fullest. Don't complain but take it as it comes to you and enjoy. Me too feel that women are not trustworthy but then one has to see the brighter side of life. Best of luck to you for a brighter and stronger life ask for any help u need