Is it wrong to hate your mother but still love her because she's you're mother?
By xelissa
@xelissa (776)
New Zealand
July 8, 2007 4:48pm CST
I've been with my mother all the way since child hood. Everything I've done she's always bought out the negative. Say when I won a scholarship, she would be like now we have a study freak or a spending machine. If I ever came first in a competition she would say it's luck. She would verbally abuse me from when she gets home from work (5pm) to about 11pm if she feels in the mood. I really do hate her and I'm not sure if its wrong. Any positive emotion I feel towards her only that I have to remind myself that I love her because she is mother. Otherwise I have no other feelings towards her. If she said she'd always pick me up, she'd be at least an hour late, or if I asked her to buy something from the store, she'd say she forgot and if I told her to do something for me (like she'd tell me to clean my room) she'd do the exact opposite.
I don't really know where I stand with her, she has always compared me to my siblings, or she will compare them to me to make us feel superior. She really hasn't done much encouragement and really her voice is louder than a dog barking - really.
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@rsa101 (37966)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
The way you describe your mother is something a bit different from the mother that I usually know. I would suggest to continue what you think is good for you and your well-being. Ignore all the negative thoughts that your mother is imposing but instead look on the positive side that those things being thrown at you challenge you more to excel more in your life. Mothers are supposed to guide us not put us aside. Sooner or later she'll realized that in herself. Just don't confront her and do what your supposed to do as daughter to achieve what you want in life and never absorbed those negative feelings you are receiving. If you entertain/absorbed those ill feelings it may become a part of your system and you may soon become what you hate "your mother". So starting today say to yourself that you will not become like your mother but instead be the opposite for her.
About loving her, love her unconditionally, there is a saying that if you continually do the postive things in life it will attract positive in your life but if you dwell in negativitiy then negativity will dwell in you as well so choose wisely.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
9 Jul 07
I think I know what you are saying. There are all different kinds of love. I think what you are talking about is just enough respect possibly love, to remember that this woman is your mother, but not enough love to really be close to her. People like that are best kept at arms length.
