Being Given The Cold Silence

Philippines
July 9, 2007 3:27am CST
I can't really say that I'm a perfect daughter. Of course I have short comings.. But isn't that the job of a parent to understand and correct my mistakes? I used to be so close to my mother. But now she's giving me the cold silence because we had an arguement, and my opinions never really coincide with hers. It's been a while since she last spoke to me. It really hurts, and I can't stop crying every night.. I wish I'm brave enough to tell her how I really feel. But whenever I try to talk to her, I always get discouraged because she refuses to look at me.. And I don't know how to write her a letter because I don't know which words to choose and I'm afraid of offending her.. I just don't know.. I'd rather she scolds me rather that being given the cold silence..
1 response
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
11 Jul 07
hi. You are right. silence can hurt deeper than words. I am a mom and I know that when my daughter and I argue and words get exchanged, I am very quiet for a while. It takes me alot longer to bounce back than it does her. She will be wanting to be close again in 10 mins and I need a bit longer...usually an hour or less depending on the nature of the argument. I would write her a letter and tell her how much you miss the closeness you once shared. Tell her how her silence makes you feel unloved and that makes you feel very sad. I don't know just what you did or said but im sure its forgiveable. I'm sure she loves you and is hurting too. Hand her the letter with a hug and tell her you love her. mom's don't just stop loving their daughters!