being a good mother and grandmother

United States
July 9, 2007 6:06am CST
i am from indiana but never liked it there i moved to colorado was there 4 years and happy there my kids still lived in indiana and chose to stay they did not want to move there few months ago my daughter had my first grandchild and needed my help so i moved back to help her but still not happy living there but am happy to be there with her and my grandson watching him grow i cant get her to move and am torn about what i should do,is there any advise out there for me
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• Malaysia
10 Jul 07
I am sad to hear your story. I understand your situation of not being happy living there. I guess there must be something which make you don't want to live there. I suggest that you keep on persuading your daughter to move. This may take time, but if you talk to her slowly I am sure she will understand and she will move out of the place. I wish you good luck.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
10 Jul 07
hi! welcome! Sounds as if you have some really tough choices to make. I stay where I am because of my girls and grandchildren. I also have some very wonderful friends here and that keeps me from moving away. You sound as if in your heart that you really would like to move. I will tell you that my gram lived in another state and came to stay with us a couple times a year. We also travelled to visit her. The distance did not make us any less close. In fact, maybe we were closer as a result. I do know that we always looked forward to her visits and appreciated all the time we did have with her. In between visits,there were always letters and phone calls. Now its even easier with e-mails. Good luck and keep us all posted on what you decide.
• United States
10 Jul 07
I know you desperately want to be with your Grandson as he grows up, however you only went back to Indiana to help your daughter with her new baby. Maybe its time to go home Grandma. Not Indiana, the new home you made for yourself. You can still visit them and they can visit you too. It is most common in a military family to live in another state, sometimes country than your children and grandchildren. Its not the way we would like it, but we make the best of it with lots of pics,phone calls, tapes and visits. Now with computers it is even easier. if you both get cameras for your computers you can visit and see each other in real time. The final choice is one only you and your family can make though. I wish you luck and God Bless you, oh BTW, I should say congradulations on your new grandbaby.