How much do u mind about ur bf/gf's ex?

yeah i do. it makes me paranoid especially when i see her view my bf's profile..or leave a comment that contains their past.. its freaking me out.. sometimes i want to pull her hair..

I don't actually mind at all. For me its part of the past already why bother about it. Not unless if they're still seeing each other. That I would be bothered. But I don't criticize you for doing or feeling like that. Sometimes we do that out of curiousity and to boost ourself in our own way. Like you compared your achievements or personality with her without actually noticing it. But better if you refrain from doing it because she might think that you're affected or affected by her.

Don't feel terrible about it. I am the same with you too. Actually I am a jealous person too. I do mind about my husbands' ex. He had three previous relationships before he met and that makes me his number fourth. And because of that definitely I am not his first love. First love is always the best love and of course I am being jealous about this. So, don't worry if you bother about your boyfriend's ex. It's normal for us to feel jealous. Just don't overjealous, that's all. Have a nice day!

Does he know this insecurity? What does he do about it? Actually, I did have the same problem with my partner now. The EX has always been the topic of our fights. He always tells me that he doesn't feel anything about her anymore and that he loves me. But I can't help but act up when the name comes up or if she messages him. It's natural for women to feel this way I guess. But it would not be normal if we keep this thing intact in our minds ~ It simply ruins the magic between us and our men. I told my partner about this and told him about my fears and insecurities. He now does something about it, by being careful not to mention the name and avoiding the circumstance of them talking or meeting. And he always shows me that it's me who he loves. In your case, talk to your boyfriend about it. Plus let her go. Stop looking at her blogs and searching all information about her, just think of her as past. Looking at her blog isn't healthy at all. You are making yourself more insecure about the person by getting to know her. Go talk to your boyfriend but make sure the talk is serious and not just out of jealousy, tell him to help you get through the insecurity. If he loves you, he'll avoid you being hurt. Good luck to you.

It bothers me, probably as much as it bothers you. Ha, well im one of the most jealous people ever - thats my problem lol. I tell myself its the past but its hard to accept i know, but yeah you should just enjoy what you have and try not to let it bother you too much- it may lead to arguements and upsets. Thankfully me and my boyfriend have made it this far so yeah we hope to spend the rest of our lives together, which i know we will. Good luck with everything :)

I had been in your shoes once..and I admit, until now. For me, I guess I just want to know how the ex cope with her life. In my case, it would be more of a bit of conscientious act because I stole her bf away from her.

No, of course it is not normal. But it is really not simple not to mind about the ex's. I did not check your age, but I suppose you are quite young. When I begin to be thinking about other girls and my boyfriend, it allways turnes into a quarrel. But if you know why do you care with that girl, you can forget about her easier. Well, you do not have enough SELFTRUST. So, first you should realize, that your boyfriend is with you. ANd he will be with you till you will be the best for him. So, yes, we have to work for the men continously. The men like us first of all our KINDNESS, SEXUALITY, and yes they love to eat too. So, till you nice with him, and give special experience in the bed he will stay with you AND YOU WILL BE HIS QUEEN. So, just TRUST IN YOURSELF. (it is not always easy, I know!!) My other wisdom from my age. The men wants us, till they belive, that we are not theirs totally. As soon, as they realize, that we are hanging on them they do not need us anymore. So let a little private life for yourself, without him. And trust in yourself :) Good LUCK!

I guess it is because humans are possessive, what's mine is mine, and seeing his ex still posting pictures of them together makes you feel uneasy. The thought of knowing they had a history makes it uncomfortable because you really never know how deep their relationship was. But then, you are with him now, and you can make the best out of the time you spend together, the past is gone and it is time for you to write your story and make history together. Therefore, loosen up and enjoy his company, I know it is inevitable to be checking out his exes profile from time to time, but that doesn't matter as long as you don't make any unnecessary actions towards it.

hey if u want ur boyfriend back then make a ur bf new and make him mind i will sure he will be back to u.first he will ask u somethink or he will get enger but if u want him back show urself better than his x gf.then he will back to u.

I don't really mind about them. Past is past and if he doesn't care about them anymore why should I? He is not in contact with them anymore and even if he was, he is with me, not with them. Maybe if she was still after him or interested in him I would care but she has moved on with her life and already has a new boyfriend so I don't really care about her.

I guess its normal, but you should try to play it down over time. Trust is necessary in a healthy relationship. Instead of spending so much time on your bf's ex blogs and friendster, dream up something nice and romantic to do with your bf. I'm sure that will improve your relationship.

i never mind about girlfriends as i dont have any nice joke na! but its true never mind for that listen if u dont have any girl friends u can peep on any which u want but if u have one then she doesnt let u to see anyone accept her so be careful.

I think were the same... i used to view her friendster account and her friends account to view some of their pics... bec she keeps on texting my bf even f were already together and to think they're just neighbors. it did get to my system...and yes im jealous of it. even now if shes already married now i still do view her account from time to time. i just can't help it though... some of their friends actually joked that her baby looks like my bf! and that thought made me suffer in paranoia! but my bf assures me that he is mine now...

I think your just being paranoid not being possesive cause its a different meaning you know? being possesive is being jelous but being paranoid is being suspescious. I think your just afraid that your bf would go back to his ex gf,but being x literary means its the past you should not bother thinking of it and just trust your bf on your new relationship.Good Luck!

you're a girl? sorry. i talk so much about i had pee in my grandmother's kitchen in your another's discussion. i am really sorry. if you mind your boyfriend's ex, it mean you love him. if you never mind about that, you don't love him. but don't mind too much about that. he had ever in love with other girl just you have not turn on. once you appear in his sight, he is yours.