Breaking up

United States
July 14, 2007 4:26pm CST
What do you do when you are tired of your partner and his or her ways? What if your other doesn't want to let you go? What if they told you that they would hurt anyone that talk to you. What happens when he or she breaks into your home to see if you have someone there? what do you do?
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@SweetTrix (1071)
• United States
14 Jul 07
I don't know your total situation, but I would be scared if I was told that anyone I talked to would get hurt. I think its a little psycho to break into your home to see if someone is there, I would definalty second guess the relationship, no one should live in fear of their partner. If you are having problems breaking up and that person doesn't want to let you go you should at least tell a close friend or relative about the problems you are having. In my opinion if I was in that situtaion (which I have been before), I would explain to my partner why I want to break up with them (you might want to have your good friend or sibling to be with you just incase). Breaking up with some one is very hard, its even harder when that person won't let go and threatens you or people you talk to. If the breakup doesn't go well and he continues to bother you, you might want to look into getting a restraining order. The restraining order may sound kinda extreme, but its better safe than sorry.
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• United States
14 Jul 07
Thanks but I have tried the restaining order and it doesn't work. The cops keep missing him when I call. They can't catch him? What else can I do and I have kids but their not his. How can I get away?
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@SweetTrix (1071)
• United States
15 Jul 07
you should inform the police that he is continueing to visit you even when he has a restraining order. Let them know that you are fearful of your children and yourself. I would think the police could do something about him since he is violationg his restraining order that you have against him, he could get jail time (maybe not for long, but maybe long enough to get away). This is horrible that he is stalking you and making you feel the way you do. I really hope there is something the authorities can do.
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• United States
16 Jul 07
Yeah that sucks. And i know how you feel when calling on the authorities. Its like no one wants to work anymore. They (police) are starting to act like they dont get paid enough to respond so quick like that. Its also a shame because you dont live to far from a police station. But i got ya back. I bring my big thick baby phat belt and we belt him out there!
@Amstardam (1348)
• United States
14 Jul 07
You move across the country and don't tell them where you are going. I've had to do that twice now! It's horrible how stalkerish people can get in relationships. It's over when it's over, it doesn't matter if one person still wants to be in the relationship. If one person is over it, then the other person needs to accept that fact.
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• United States
14 Jul 07
But what happens when they follow you and there every where you go. They are like a pet. How can I be free. How can I get him to understand that IT's OVER! I am going crazy. How can I get him to move out. He doesn't pay for anything but living there for free. How can I get rid of my trash???
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@Amstardam (1348)
• United States
14 Jul 07
At that point I would put a restraining order on them. If they follow you after you move, that is considered stalking and is illegal. That's a bit extreme. Do what you can to get the law involved and maybe they can help you get this person away. I'm sorry you have to go through that!! That's so scary.
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• United States
16 Jul 07
But what if the baby daddys dont let you move? Then what happens?
• United States
16 Jul 07
I would call the police. I would tell them my situation. Explain to them how things have just gotten out of control and that you want to make sure that its documented incase anything happens. That is a tough situation to be in. Very stressful as well. I would probably after putting in a report of this with the police, try to catch him in breaking into my house and then call the police again. I wouldnt talk to anyone for a while. I would wait about at least 6 months or more. If he gets another girl friend, i would slowly try to establish a relationship with someone else. But this time go slow and make sure that they are not crazy. You should most definately kick him to the curb. No one needs this kinda trouble. Its never cute. Be careful in the men you choose. Make sure they have goals and have also accomplish some already. Life is too short sometimes and we only get 1. Try to make ever moment the best moment. Its hard to do and easy to say, but try try try. If you have kids its even worse on them. You dont want your kids picking those bad nasty habits. Take time out to know what you want in a mate and stick by it. If its not on the list than its not for you. Take time out for self to. There is a lot of stepping back and looking at where things went wrong. Doing this will insure that next time will be different and possibly better than this time. But you have to take your time with everyone.