Would You Buy A Wedding Dress Off EBAY?

@megs85 (3145)
Australia
July 19, 2007 3:32pm CST
We have set the wedding date for November 3rd 2007 (later this year but before bubs number 2 comes!). As I am going to be pregnant and we are concentrating on saving for a house at the moment, it is going to be a small intimate affair. Simple. Probably with a good old aussie barbie out the back to celebrate after the ceremony which will be relatively traditional. My question is in regards to buying my wedding dress. As I am going to be heavily pregnant, to get a custom made dress is going to cost a fortune, and extravagance I don't feel the need for. I have been looking on ebay and have seen some really nice maternity wedding dresses on there and am wondering... 1. Has anyone ever purchased a wedding dress off ebay? Or know anybody else that has? What was your/ their experience? 2. Regardless of whether you have or not do you think it is a good idea? Why/ Why not?
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@latsmom (824)
19 Jul 07
I have personally ever purchased a wedding dress from e bay but have seen some beautiful ones on there, I think it woudl be a good idea as you could save a lot of money, plus if you get bigger then you could always have it altered locally, the downside could be misinterpretation though or having to claim back money you have spent if all is not as it seems or item does not arrive.
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@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
20 Jul 07
Thats the only hesitancy I have really... whether the dress is described accurately :) It's hard to work out ho wbig I will get in later pregnancy so I would always buy a bigger size as it is much easier to take a dress in rather than trying to match and add the fabric...
• Netherlands
4 Aug 07
You can ask them for more pics. I did that once. I asked them if they had a pic in real lighting from the sun and they took another for me and sent it.
@arcidy (5016)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I would say no mainly because im a guy and I wouldnt where a wedding dress when I have my wedding lol. But if I was a female I would still say no because ive heard from people that have had bad experience buying clothes online like they the clothes would be a size or two to small or to big and I wouldnt want that happening with a wedding dress I would have to try it on and see if it fits or not.
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@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
19 Jul 07
Forgot to mention that when I try anything on at the moment I am unhappy as I am pregnant and nothing looks flattering on me... LOL... where is this glowing pregnant body everyone keeps talking about? LMAO
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Well it doesn't sound like you have your expectations set too high at all!! I would just be careful. Make sure you see that the dress in New with tags and that you Pay thru paypal so you will be protected. ALso get the proper measurements!! I think its a good idea if you are looking to save money because most people just want to get rid of them on there because something sour happened!! Good Luck and Congrats!!
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@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
20 Jul 07
Yeah, paying using paypal is a really good idea. I am looking at a dress from the US at the moment, so I always tend to ue paypal anyway when buying internationally...
@redmike (153)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
yeah you are right! And also paying thru paypal is so easy.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I think it could work as long as you get all the measurements and give yourself room to grow. You can always get it altered if it's too big and dry cleaned if it isn't clean or is overly wrinkled. As long as you're buying from an experienced seller I doubt you'll run into any problems like getting scammed or anything. The biggest thing I would worry about is getting the size right buying it so far ahead of time but you'd have that problem buying it at a store too.
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@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
20 Jul 07
Yeah, the sizing thing has me a little worried, as I mentioned in response to the above post, I would always overestimate how big I am going to be as it is easier to take it in, rather than try to let it out, or add fabric... The person i am looking at has thousands of feedback and it is 100% positive, and they are from the US so they appear to be a reputable seller. It is hard to know if it will suit me or not without trying it on, but I suppose if worse come to worse I could alwya s resell it on ebay and buy another :)
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
1 Aug 07
i have purchased many dresses off of ebay.just make sure you know approximately thr right size.try to get a size bigger,so you have room to breathe.you know sometimes the most simplist things turn out to be the most beautiful things.simple is always better.ebay you can find a great deal.i have bought one dress that still had tags on it and it said retail $350 and believe it or not i only paid $42.so i guess it depends on which one you bid on.i think its a wonderful idea to do this because you will save alot of money.so nice talking to you.thanks for everything.
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@anonymili (3138)
20 Jul 07
I think you can buy a wedding dress from anywhere you choose to. Whoever has to sell their wedding dresses on ebay must be doing so because they need the money and you need a wedding dress so by you buying a dress from them you are helping out someone who needs the money and helping yourself by not paying a small fortune which you really don't need to do by having a custom made dress made for you. At the end of the day, it's your day and you will be as bright as beautiful as you deserve to be as it's YOUR special day. If you don't want to tell your guests you're wearing a dress you bought on ebay you don't have to, it's no one's business but your own. But personally I don't think there is anything at all to be ashamed about it and once you're done with it, you can sell it on again to someone else so they can get good use out of it too. That's one thing about buying expensive wedding dresses which I don't like, it's not like you can wear them down the pub or to a party or to someone else's wedding, they're unique and really can only be worn on the one day! Good luck, hope you find the dress of your dreams hun. xx
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
20 Jul 07
The only thing I have bought from ebay was a small album made with tapa cloth on the outside. If the seller is a good one, you can tell by their ratings and comments then I don't see why not. Congratulations and good luck in finding the dress you want :)
@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
20 Jul 07
Hello Megs85, Congratulations on both your 'bundle of joy' and your forthcoming nuptuals. Wow, you've certainly got your hands full. I see no problem with purchasing a wedding dress from Ebay. It is no longer a garage sale site, most of the vendors are dealing with reputable manufacturers. And, even if you were particularly fond of an individual's dress being sold on Ebay, I think it's really ok. The dress is really just kind of a formality, since you and your beau have already committed to your life together. The one word of caution I would suggest is to make sure that if you use Paypal, that you use your own personal credit card to pay through Paypal. That way, if there's a problem you can contact your own credit card company to withdraw the payment. If there is a problem and you rely on Paypal to straighten it out, it can be many months, and still end up with the resolution decision made in favor of the seller. Remember that Paypal only gets paid by the seller, not the buyer. I am speaking from personal experience. The only time I've ever had a problem with Ebay, Paypal ended up being zero help to me as the purchaser. With a single phone call to my credit card vendor (after five months), I had the charge reversed in a matter of days. I have made quite a number of purchases from Ebay, and only had a problem once. So, I think it's a wise choice -- if you use your own credit card company through Paypal. As far as sizing goes, I would make sure to ask where the dress was manufactured. This will give you a better indication of true measurements. For example, items manufactured in the Far East tend to run a size or two smaller. I would also have a back-up plan in mind, just in case there is a problem with shipping, or the Ebay purchase. For example: local newspapers and second hand stores will often have nice back-up options. A good dry-cleaning will always remove any previous use soil. The good thing about a wedding dress is that it's only worn once. And, you don't seem to be terribly committed to a designer name -- although you can often find them on Ebay. Oh, and I would suggest that you find a good seamstress, and let her know (in advance) that you'll be asking for her help in alterations -- so that she's prepared for any last minute emergencies. You might even offer her a retainer fee, so as to make sure that she'll put your dress as her highest priority. Plus, inviting her to the wedding is always a good idea. That way she's more committed to you looking great on your special day, because she'll be bragging that you look so beautiful because of her skill and effort! Good luck! May you and you love have many, many happy years together. And, please do let us know how your special day goes, OK?
@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
8 Aug 07
Hello Megs85, I haven't been online much lately, so I missed your having awarded Best Answer designation to me. Thank you! I apologize that I didn't thank you earlier. I've been very, very busy lately -- as I'm sure you have as well. Wedding planning can be quite time consuming. Anyway, thanks again for the BA, and best wishes to you and your family.
@ky1119 (699)
• United States
20 Jul 07
There is nothing wrong with buying a dress on Ebay. You're only going to wear it once, right? I looked at dresses on Ebay when we were planning our wedding, as it turns out, we ended up just going to the courthouse. Way cheaper. I say go for it, save where you can.
@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
20 Jul 07
Well thats right. Why pay thousands of dollars on something you wear once? Plus, we are having such a small casual wedding I could get away with a white cotton beach dress if I really wanted to... LOL
@jogie_bien (1103)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
well for me when about the dress, i prefer to buy personally so that you can fit it, and it will be sure no doubt of it before buying.
@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
20 Jul 07
As I mentioned, to get aperfect fit, being that I am pregnant and all, I would have to wait until the day before the wedding to buy a dress to ensure how it looks and fits... :)
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
19 Jul 07
Hey megs, I've made a few purchases off ebay express-I feel like if you check out the sellers feedback & it's good you should be fine. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials |:D +'s |:)
@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
20 Jul 07
Thanks for the congragulations meme :) The seller I am looking at appears reputable as they have over 10,000 feedback and its 100% positive...
@itkasp (266)
• Australia
19 Jul 07
For me personally, I don't see any problem of buying a wedding dress through ebay. However, it might be important that you get the correct measurement and give it a plenty of time before your wedding so you can make a proper adjustment given that you will be heavily pregnant by then.
@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
20 Jul 07
Thats one of the reasons I have started thinking baout it already as I know international postage can take awhile, plu sI need to allow myself time to get it altered if need be, or to find a suitable alternative to purchaseif I hate the one I buy...
• Canada
19 Jul 07
I personally wouldn't buy a wedding dress off of eBay, because I would want to make sure it fits me and looks good on me before doing that. Also, when I get married I want a neighbour of mine to make my dress for me. I also want to wear red instead of white.
@megs85 (3145)
• Australia
20 Jul 07
If i had someone that could make the dress for me, without ripping me off, then I would... however myself, my family and my friends are all terrible sewers (is that even a word lol)... so buying one is the way to go... Given that I am pregnant, and will be heavily pregnant by the time the wedding comes round... it's going to be hard to work out what will loo good on me, other than waiting til the day before th e wedding and buying something, which isnt all that practical for me...
@redmike (153)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
even if im not a girl, yes i would - if that dress urges me to buy it... why not!
@venshida (4837)
• United States
1 Aug 07
I did and regret it. The dress did not fit correctly. It was dirty. I did not get married so the dress is just sitting in my closet. I tried to sell it, but have not had any success yet. I think you are better off just going to the store and buy one or have someone make it.
@soleya (1102)
• Latvia
20 Jul 07
Congratulations! I have not purchased my wedding dress on ebay or even a special store, because I was not able to find anything which I really like. That is why I desided to make it. I found a very good desiner which created a dress of my dreams, and it costed me even less than the same dress in the store. But taking into account your situation I think that buying a dress on ebay is not a bad idea. Just be sure that you really like what you see. If I were you, I would better search in regular stores, to be sure that what you are buying is perfect for you.
• United States
20 Jul 07
Hi I just got married on June 30 and I purchased my gown off from ebay. It was a beautiful Alfred Angelo gown. What I did was try it on at a local shop to see if I would like it. I then purchased it on ebay. It was beautiful and I saved around four hundred dollars. I was very pleased with it. I would just like to reconmend paying through paypal.
• United States
20 Jul 07
I've never bought a dress off of ebay, but I'd say go for it. It's much cheaper this way, and since it's a simple wedding that your having, I wouldn't worry about having the most glamorous dress out there. You do run the risk of it not fitting properly, but I don't see a problem with buying a wedding dress online. Good Luck and Congrats on getting married!
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
20 Jul 07
i think good idea, especially if your trying to save for a house etc etc. a friend got one off ebay and it looked lovely. she did all the measurements up so she got one she knew would fit, and then when she got it, it fit really well, but she wanted few aleterations so a friend did it and didnt cost her much at all. (my boss at work even went to a cheap second hand shop and got her wedding dress and i wouldnt of known if she didnt tell me it was second hand)
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
20 Jul 07
I haven't bought a wedding dress off e-bay but I have purchased clothing. I wouldn't reccomend it. First I had a problem with size. Even though I had my right measurements and they listed the correct sized label, the clothes didn't fit. One which was 12 was too big and the 14 was too small.??? Sizes are all different and you don't really know until you try it on. I also bought shoes which had the same problem. Second most of them have a can not return policy and all sales are final. So you can risk losing even more money if you can't fit the dress. Size is going to be hard to know with you being pregnant, secondly even if they let you return it, it would cost a lot to ship back to US and your still out of a dress on the big day. I would look at locally for sale listings in newspapers or radio. Even a trift shop. Even if you go to a discount store and get someone you know to dress up a plain dress with material from a dollar store. Be creative on a low budget. I do shop on e-bay for many different things but never ever clothes again! Just my experience with it. Vicki