the differences between children spoiled and really sick?

@prily9 (568)
Indonesia
July 19, 2007 10:44pm CST
last night my oldest daughter complained that she's got stomache, first I thought she only spoiled but I still rub her stomach with oil, and when my husband came home she woke up and talked that her stomach still not well and my husband did the same like me end up holding her until morning. around 4.30 am my daughter threw up and the first thing came to my mind she is really sick so today before I went to office I took her to my father's home ( he is a pediatrician ). I've been wonder how can I know the differences between just spoiled or real ? sometimes my daughter done both. could you tell the differences when your child done that, sharing with me?
3 responses
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
22 Jul 07
I'm really not sure how to distinguish the 2 but rubbing her belly with oil wont make her any better if she really is sick, it might sooth her a little bit it wont make the sickness or soreness go away. I think you'll find if she complains during the day or at night she's probably telling the truth but if you find her doing it in the morning before school, then it might just be her faking (i don't think it's being spoiled at all).
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
23 Jul 07
the sickness is still there. anyway I didn't think about the differences about complaining in the morning and night, this is new for me. thanks for your suggestion
@dexter5 (297)
• India
20 Jul 07
1st get to know your daughter well. if she complains of beiing sickk, check out if there is any homework or school assignment which is pending. most of the times kids pretend being sick to avoid tests at school. sometimes mental disturbances also make children feel sick, like crushes or something like that!
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
23 Jul 07
yeah, somehow I thought about that but it means I have to pay more attention at her. thanks
@patgalca (14416)
• Orangeville, Ontario
20 Jul 07
My daughter had this problem. She would get lots of stomach aches and I would get fed up while her father babied her. Eventually we sought the help of a psychiatrist who diagnosed her with anxiety and put her on a very low dose of Prozac. She also went to a family therapist for counselling for about a year. Eventually she just stopped taking the Prozac (because she kept forgetting) and hasn't had anymore problems. She was 11 at the time and is 14 now. I didn't know how to tell the difference either. I was getting frustrated that I had no alone time with my husband because she always got these so-called stomach aches at bedtime. I tried talking to my daughter but she wouldn't open up to me. She didn't like counselling, speaking to a stranger, but she did it and learned how to deal with life's situations and school. I am currently reading Jay McGraw's "Closing The Gap: A Strategy for Bringing Parents and Teens Together" and I realize that my daughter is what he calls "high maintenance". My daughter is willing to read the book when I am finished as it is for both parents and teens to read. You don't say, however, how old your daughter is. I hope you find a solution for her and that it is not too serious.
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
23 Jul 07
My daughter is 8 years old, that makes me confused because sometimes she said that she get headache & stomachaches just to get my attention. I hope your daughter will be more open with you just like what I hope with my daughter so I will know if she's sick. thanks alot