do you think you are a good mother?

Philippines
July 20, 2007 9:55am CST
what do mothers have to do to be a good mom? does it make a difference if you are a single mom or not?
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@bearfan (63)
• United States
20 Jul 07
I think that I am a good mom and I don't feel that if you are married or with someone that you are a better mom. I am married and am a stay at home mom of four teenagers. If you love your kids unconditionally and accept them as different individuals and give them love and attention then I think your a good mom
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
6 Aug 09
to be a good mother have to do is be patient and understanding towards children. single mom or not there are certain differences.
@coferbox (298)
• United States
20 Jul 07
I always tried to be a good mother. I think being a good mother means knowing that you can't always be your children's friend. I think to many people try to be friends with their kids and it just doesn't work. They have friends their own age - what they need is an adult to guide them. I'm not saying my daughter and I didn't do things together or enjoy each others company but she always knew I was the one in charge and had the final decision on everything. I also tried to always listen to her and make sure she knew her opinion counted and if I had to say no I made sure she understood why I was saying know. I tried to not be one of those "because I said so" type of parents. But as I stated before I did have the final decision on everything, I just explained why I made the decision I did. I hope it would help her to think things though also. Now that she is married and a baby of her own she has told me that I was a good mother - and that I am a nice person. So I must have done something right.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
21 Jul 07
I don't think it makes a big difference if you are a single mom or not. I have been both. I think I am a very good mother, at least I am doing the best I can do. I am certainly not perfect, but I do love my daughter and I teach her everything that I have learned and want her to learn. All we can do as moms is hope that they take these lessons we teach them and use them when they go off on their own.
@Nardz13 (5055)
• New Zealand
23 Jul 07
Hi there. Yes I think Im a good mother, although every mother has there off days... I find myself to be a great mother, I often wonder if Im being to over protective at times too lol... I have patience and take the time to really listen to our children, and I always let them know to speak there minds and for them to talk to me... There is never a time where our children are shut out and made to be silenced and not say anything... I think a mother needs plenty of good rest, definetly a new mom... Also I give our children both the same amount of love and attention too...
@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
It doesn't make a difference that you're a good mom because you have a husband or not. It just doesn't work that way. I would like to think that I'm a good mom, of course. Nobody wants to be labeled a bad mother. I firmly believe that being a good mom means you have never regretted, not for a single second, that you have borne your children. You always try your best to make them feel that you appreciate even the tiniest things that they can positively do. You never forsake them for the mistakes that they have done. But that you can find it in your heart to understand that they are only human. I would like to think that I'm a good mom. I try so hard to take care of my son and teach him the good and bad things in life. But then the best judge to say that we are good mothers, are our own children.
@soccermom (3198)
• United States
20 Jul 07
I made the choice to be a single mom after I had my first daughter because I wanted to be a good mom. So being single has nothing to do with it. Better to have one parent that is stable and devoted to their child than two who can't get their act together. Being a good mom is hard work. It takes devotion, dedication and a good ear. Sometimes what kids say and what they are telling you are two different things. I don't think I am a good mom, I KNOW I am! LOL My kids and I don't always get along, but they know when they go to bed at night that they are loved, protected and that I'd do anything for them, and that's what counts.
• United States
20 Jul 07
I think being a good mom is just devoting yourself yo your kids and making sure they are provoded for and taken care of. Whether your single or not really does not matter.
• India
20 Jul 07
being a good mom is not very difficult-you just need to be focussed,and realise that your kids are totally dependent on you for emotional and physical support.so just go all out of your way and shower all the love that you can give them,be patient and always be there for them.being a married or a single mom just doesn't matter.