What is the formulea of happy married life?
July 23, 2007 10:51pm CST
What is the formulea of happy married life? Do you believ in this that a couple can be live happily.I have seen many couples who had spent many times of their life by quarrling with each other.How they be should happy.I dont know.As I am not yet married.please share your thoughts.Thanks.
25 Jul 07
In my opinion, quarrel between a husband and wife is a part and parcel of their happy married life. It kind of provides the icing on the cake or you can say adds spice to the life. I really do not believe that quarrel shows signs of unhappy married life because I too quarrel with my wife but we are happily married. But yes if it is very frequent then it definitely is a sign of unhappiness between the husband and wife. Here are some tips, 10 to be specific, that could go a long way in making a happy married life. These, you can call, are the learnings that I have had from my blissful married life. 1. In the first place, try to accept that your partner is like this only. Don't be bothered by thinking how he or she should have been - it will only leave you disgruntled and will lead to differences, and then clash and gloom. Still, if you feel that your partner has certain very obnoxious habitudes, you can seek to reform him or her gradually, but you should maneuver the whole thing with such shrewdness that your loved one doesn't feel hurt. 2. Don't expect a drastic change. You must realize that the old dispositions happen to be die-hard more often than not. It's wiser to try and change those habits first, which seem less obstinate and would give way easily. 3. Never try to force your viewpoint on your spouse lest he or she should feel offended. Say your piece in an affectionate way. The best time to express your viewpoint is when your partner is in a good spirit. In case you feel that conversation is on the verge of transforming into an heated argument, shrewdly change the topic of discussion and wait for a better moment to express yourself. 4. Don't assume yourself to be a know-it all. We are often wrong when we are cocksure about being right. Always be considerate about your mate's point of view. Sometimes, it may be you yourself who is in the need of learning a thing or two from your mate. 5. Never ever try to change the attitude of your spouse by humiliating him or her. This will only result in clash of egos - the biggest menace to a peaceful and happy married life. 6. A point may come when the two of you my become so accustomed to each other that you may take each other for granted and thus start neglecting each other. The married life in such a situation becomes monotonous. To keep off such a situation, you should always make your partner feel special. Express your emotions; never assume that they'll be understood anyway. Try going for outings as often as possible. Celebrate special occasions like birthdays and especially your marriage anniversary. The idea may sound too obsolete; but believe us, it works miraculously!7. When an anxiety or an apprehension hangs heavy on you, share it with your partner. He or she may not come up with a ready solution, but you'll feel lighter. And once you are at ease, you'll feel all the strength in the world to have a go at anything!8. Watch your word if at all a brawl breaks. The sudden burst of animosity will pass soon, but your words; if too bitter, will be etched in the memory of your partner forever. Later you'll realize that you didn't mean what you actually said in a gush of exasperation, but it might be too late. 9. Be more cognizant of the harmony of your relationship if both of you are working. A clash of egos is inevitable when you try to compete with each other. What's more threatening is that most working couples develop a rivalry without being conscious of it. So better be watchful. 10. Finally, always be headstrong and show perseverance in the face of hard times. Always be sure when faced with an affliction that this epoch will pass too, and sooner or later, the good times will be there again!So while you embark on the journey of a lifetime, treasure our pragmatic travel tips, which will prove more than handy when your journey becomes tumultuous, and the jolts begin to pester you. We wish you the Best of Journey!
7 Aug 07
Thank you my dear.I know this is right absolutely.Love and understand between couples will extends happy marraige life's period. But I also agree with this opinion that quarall between couples is a part of life and obviously happy marriage life.But this should be in certian limit and with love.
• United States
24 Jul 07
Truly happy couples put the other first and listen and communicate together to attain common goals and work towards a future together. If you allow the outside world to much influence and lose contact with your spouse you lose your marriage.
24 Jul 07
I read so many discussions about that here in mylot, in fact i've posted a topic about rules of a happy marriage, and here it is: 1. Never both be angry at the same time. 2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. 3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate. 4. If you have to criticize do it lovingly. 5. Never bring up mistakes in the past. 6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other. 7. At least once everyday try to say one kind or compliment word. 8. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it. It takes two to make a quarrel and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking. But the relationship between you and your partner is the most important and depend on you on how you deal with the problem and arguments. Give and take is the most important and of course have always time for each other, discuss every night before going to bed all the things that happen in both of you the whole day. Just always have time to communicate that is the most important in a relationship.