what if you fell inlove with your friend's boyfriend?

@rexiemay (402)
Philippines
July 24, 2007 12:49am CST
in that case you must distance yourself from him. no man is worthy to wreak your relationship with your friend. there are so many guys out there, so better be away from him.
5 responses
@alnilam (969)
• United States
24 Jul 07
well one can not control it's heart, so if you fall n love in your's friends boyfriend there is nothing wrong about it---to have the feelings is not a crime... but if you cross the line and start flirting and stuff that is wrong!!! i think you do not need to distance yourself from him as long as you are in control of yourself (i was in love with my friend's boyfriend, we still hanged out, i just knew where my place is, i never tried anything with him, or flirted, but i guessed if i would distance myself, my friend would get the feeling something is wrong wit her or him---and guess what the emotion passed over the time)... Other than that you never know what may happen in the future, they might break up (in a friendly way9 and then you can hook up with him (if this is ok with your friend---it works some times, depends on a person)
@rexiemay (402)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
i agree with you. you cannot control what you feel but you can always control your actions. thank you.
4 Nov 12
Yes, it's a really terrible thing. If you keep the distance at first, you may not receive the sadness now. But friend is much more important.
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I agree with all of them. It's a big NO NO to fall inlove with a friend's boyfriend and it's better if I'd stay away from him. I had a similar predicament years ago. I have been having a crush on one guy, he was so cute and manly. We know each other because we were seatmates in college. And since I was the 'head' of the class for our Practicum or On-The-Job Training class, it was my duty to monitor students thus I frequently sent him messages and reminders about school stuff (so it was natural, not flirty hehe). Anyways, sooner or later he courted my good friend (the friend knew I liked the guy) so she tried staying away. But soon I felt she really liked the guy too. So I heeded and stayed away from them. At one point, she asked me if I still loved the guy, and I lied and told her 'not anymore' but it was painful. So that's it. If ever this happened to me, I wouldn't go near the person. It's always friends first. Maybe sooner or later when they've separated and after a few years that our paths cross, then maybe that would be ok, but for now, no thanks. =)
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Thats a big NO! I mean, thats stepping on someones teritory. And as you said, there are a lot of guys out there.
@talida09 (51)
• Romania
24 Jul 07
You are right.friendship is more important then a man.