What do you do when someone is rude to you?

@laridbz (1287)
China
July 27, 2007 4:19pm CST
I'm not very good at dealing with angry and rude people. I'm never rude to anyone, and you got to do something really bad to see me angry. So, I don't really know what to do if someone is rude to me. I usually just don't say anything, walk away and forget about it. I know it's probably not the most effective way of dealing with this situation. What do you do when it happens to you? Are you rude to people at times? What's the best way to go when it happens? Thanks, guys! :)
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@sandwedge (1341)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 07
sarcasm is the best antidote for rude people.
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@gabs8513 (48712)
• United Kingdom
27 Jul 07
Well I have to be honest here most of the time I will walk away but if the Person is very rude to me then I will say something I try not to be rude back but that is hard sometimes, I walk away when I have had my Say even though the Person is still shouting abuse for no reason, I will not shout and make a fool of myself
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
27 Jul 07
I usally just get tired of it and inore them espically in here in mylot. i have had a few rude replies more then a few times I have replied maybe once or twice then after that I stop I don't reply any more. I have had it happen before I just don't see arguing over something online espically with people I really don't know and where does it get me?
• United States
27 Jul 07
I actually think what you do is handling it well, anyways. I think it's best not to stoop to their level. I will usually walk away, too and ignore them. Sometimes, I have to say something, but I always says it politely but forcefully and loudly. Let them know where you stand, or call them out on their rudeness loud enough for other people to hear, which embarasses them. It also lets them know you won't be walked on. But don't get rude or use vulgar words yourself, or you both end up looking bad!
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@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
27 Jul 07
Sometimes i comment back to the person telling them that was rude and than yes walk away cause I know if I were to stay standing there I'd get into a conversation with them and it might turn out ugly.. I am not the type of person to be rude towards people though.. I always try and say things in nice ways as best as I can but sometimes people tend to take things the wrong way kind like vice versa.. I often do that too... I think most of the time people don't intend to be rude they just say what they think!!
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
27 Jul 07
It depends on my mood when people are rude to me. I either ignore them or I let loose with a tirade containing many vulgar words. If it is a fellow shopper in a store I will just keep following them around and making extra loud comments about them until they are embarrassed and leave the store. I know I should just turn the other cheek but sometimes I just can't.
• United States
27 Jul 07
I think I probably react like you do! Depending on who the person is and the kind of mood I'm in, I might tell them they are being rude, or I will just walk away and refuse to speak to rude people. Now if it was in a business setting, I think you need to remain professional, and not be rude back.
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@firumon (501)
• India
30 Jul 07
Hi friend, I am also not good to deal with angry persons... I also not show rude to others.. But we want to face such situations in our life.. According to me its better to give excuse as maximum as we can.. If we also start shouting to anyone, it will be last in big fightings... Also try our maximum to avoid such conditions.. Mutual understanding can avoid many many big problems... Even if a war can be stopped by mutual understanding.. Thats all dear friend, thank you....
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@laridbz (1287)
• China
30 Jul 07
Yep, I agree with you. I was just wondering if there's a better way to treat rude people not getting equal to them, but being sure they got the message, you know? Not that I'm having problems with someone. I was just wondering about it. :)
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@firumon (501)
• India
31 Jul 07
Thank you dear friend.... I am extremely happy that you have taken my comments into account... Once again thank you for spending some of your valuable time on commenting upon my response... Take care...
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• United States
28 Jul 07
It all depends on how rude they are..if it's not too hurtful ..I will ignore it..if it's really hurtful then I will probably cry. I am a very sensitive person. I try to be nice everyone.
@laridbz (1287)
• China
28 Jul 07
Nooo! Don't cry! :) I might be very upset too if the attack was too personal, but it rarely happens. Actually it's really difficult for someone to be rude to me, but when it happens, I usually don't care.
• United States
30 Jul 07
Normally, I'm just as rude or even moreso right back, but I'm working on that. Nothing gives me attitude faster than some jerk getting an attitude with me. ...might be a redheaded thing, but hey, at least I'm working on simmering my temper down a bit, lol.
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@mummymo (23707)
30 Jul 07
It depends on how high my temper already is and how rude the person is! I usually try and point out that they are being rude without being obnoxious myself! If they continue I will just let them know that they are not only being rude they are now behaving in an ignorant way and I would rather not deal with that attitude - I will then walk away from the situation if possible! xxx
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@anousha (406)
• Mauritius
28 Jul 07
I'm not a very rude and angry type of person but when someone I don't know personally is rude to me then I'm rude to him as well. And when I'm angry I say everything that comes to my mouth whether that person likes it or dislikes it. However if a friend of mine has been rude to me and said things he should have then, I can even unveil his secrets in front of everybody coz I never give up a fight until I've not win it. So by hook or by crook I'll definitely make that person agree that he made a mistake being rude and say sorry to me and never have the guts to start again...
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
28 Jul 07
Ususally I try to laugh it off unless I am in not so good mood or then something might hit the fan . The one thing I hate is for someone to cut in line in front of me when I have been there waiting pateintly all that time then someone trys to get in front now to me that is rude and I tell them get to the end of the line which is way behind me somewhere.
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@Madona1 (2099)
• Gibraltar
28 Jul 07
For rude people, it only reflects their poor education and manner. If they are rude to me, I just ignore them as there is no point to argue or dispute with them. And it will waste the time to guide them, who may never change their attitude.
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@youless (96943)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Jul 07
I won't be happy to it, but I won't be rude to this one, too. It's a very stupid behavior. We are all adults, so we should not be rude to each other. I'm a nice person most of the time. If there is such a stupid person yells at me, it's OK, you can keep on abusing but I will walk away. I feel it wastes my time to argue with such a fool.
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• China
28 Jul 07
Just like you, I'm not good dealing with angry and rule people. During my daily life, I keep polite to others as possiblly as I can. I even don't know how to quarrel with others. Of course, there's seldom anyone who is angry or rude to me. But I think the best way to deal with angry and rude person is to say nothing, and silmply walk away, just like what you did. Most people do stand to sense and are not importunate, they know it's important to be polite to others.
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@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
28 Jul 07
I usually just ignore the person. The rule of thumb to remember is how people treat you is a reflection of how they feel inside, not how they really feel towards you. So maybe they are just having a bad day. Ignore their bad behavior, and then go on with your day.
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@sid556 (31000)
• United States
28 Jul 07
I am like you. It takes alot to get me going. Rude, mean people ....I tend to just walk away from too. When it comes to people that are close to me tho, it really hurts. I tend to come across as angry when really I am hurt. I usually try to walk away from it until I am able to talk to the person (usually its one of my girls) in a calm manner.
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@vinzen (1022)
• India
28 Jul 07
I can well understand your situation, having been like you once upon a time, but then i reaslied that if we are always quite and let the other person get away with their rudeness, we shall always remain like that, and people too are quick to understand our kinds and know that theyt oo can get away with their rudeness, so they too never change and will continue being rude to us. I think we need to change ourselves a little too. Incase someone is rude with me, At first i do try and reason with the person and let them know that they are being rude, and if they still carry on, without stopping, then i too let them have it. And i have reaslied that after a while they understand that we will not take it lying down either. I did try walking away from the situation too, but that did not help me much as i kept thinking about the whole situation even when i left the place, so preferred to stay on, fight it out, forget about it, and move on!
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
28 Jul 07
It depends who is rude to you and where. On myLot... the best policy is to ignore them, report them and walk away. In the real world however... it is another matter. Some people will be rude to you in order to provoke you into doing something stupid in order to put you in the wrong. You have to be aware of those people and don't fall in their ambush. Besides all that... you cannot afford to ignore someone who is rude to you if it is someone you have to deal with everyday or every week. Ignoring it is an open invitation for that person to do it to you over and over again. You might as well hang a sign around your neck saying "Walk all over me". You have to retaliate with all your might to get that person to understand that you will not tolerate its rudeness. Or you have to wipe it out of your life by never seeing it again and never have anything to do with it again. Life is too short for letting some little weasel upsetting you and your life. You have to make them crawl back into their hole where they belong.