Rough Language .... Abusive Talk!! Do you really hate to use??

@aliasad (1567)
Pakistan
July 28, 2007 8:03am CST
This is my next desk colleague who is using very rough language on phone. This really makes me annoyed and now he is abusing .... oh my God!! It really made me to write about this discussion. Temperament varies person to person and loose tempered people very frequently use such abusive language, like above. What do you feel about it? Do you think it is good to use such words .... in the anger? Is it really effective in reducing the anger?? I don't think so.
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22 responses
• United States
28 Jul 07
no,I don't . I hate to hear some of the words being used,mainly from young people.I wonder if they knew how trashy or ignorant it makes them look. I dont' know why people have to use that language all the time
@AmbiePam (49883)
• United States
28 Jul 07
You got it. Trashy. It makes people look trashy.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
30 Jul 07
There are certainly factors making one frequently using the loose talk. Do you know from where one learns the norms of life? I think there is also some factor of "bringing up the child" too. Do you think so? Thanks for response.
• Philippines
28 Jul 07
well i myself have soe words that i dont ever want to hear because it really ruins my day . . i cant tell you what it is iits in our visayan langguage so maybe you wont understand it
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@GardenGerty (101748)
• United States
28 Jul 07
No, it does not reduce anger, and often it is a bad habit, and they do not know how awful they sound. It is certainly not appropriate or professional. I am sorry you have to listen to that all the time, it would get discouraging, for sure. People can be more intelligent and choose other words. Like I said, he probably does not even hear himself. He just has a really bad habit.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
30 Jul 07
Yes GardenGerty. But one who utters such words would never realise the "intensity" of those ugly words. If he would have to listen his own "recorded" language, I hope it would be shameful for him too. Thanks for your rich comments.
@AmbiePam (49883)
• United States
28 Jul 07
I don't use abusive language. I have called my sister a name on the rare occasion of a fight, but even that wasn't vulgar. I don't like fighting, and it rarely happens. But these are words we can't take back. And I don't need to feel guilt over something that I can obviously control. So I just don't talk in an abusive way. Heck, I don't even curse. I just really want to treat people the right way, even though I sometimes fail.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
30 Jul 07
Good to learn that you dislike such language. Well, really words can never be taken back, once spoken. Yes, one must try to be polite. I hope your such action would contribute alot in your life. Wish you best of luck. Thanks for rsponse.
@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
28 Jul 07
I think that you colleague lacks professionalism that is required to work with the public in any manner...there is no reason for a person to use that type of language in an office setting or most anywhere else for that matter. I would probably speak to him if he is a friend of yours...otherwise I would probably report it to the supervisor as it could cost your company money ....people do not like to be treated with such disregard. I am sure that it is difficult for you to sit there and listen to his use of abusive language....and anger is no excuse.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
30 Jul 07
Hi Madam! Well, surely it makes me irritated too. Also such behavior would tarnish the organization image. Professionalism ..... I would never term him a professional like u. I would try to discuss him about the same, may be. Thanks for response.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
5 Oct 07
I am with you. I hate bad and rough words, actually I hate all kinds of rough behaviours. The fact is that abusive talk is so diffuse and common nowadays that you can hear people saying such awful things everyday and in each moment no matter if they are angry or not..just because now it is a sort of fascion. Well, I hate this fascion. I think that there is no need to abuse our language and use bad words if they were ordinary ones...sometimes it may happen when you are very very angry to speak rough language..oh it is better not,but bad words are meant for bad people so in some occasions they made be needed!!!
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
6 Oct 07
Hi friend. Well, yes, you are right people have made the fashion of uttring bad words. Being with me ... I am thankful to you. So nice of you. Thanks for a nice input indeed.
@naadia (830)
• India
30 Jul 07
i never used abusive talk or rough language..i really hate to use it.i think boys are more using this abusive language(honestly i am not familiar with much rough language)
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
31 Jul 07
Hi Naadia! The credit goes to boyz ... oh no lol Anyway, thanks for the response.
• United States
29 Jul 07
Hello Aliasad, I feel that abusive talk just damages both parties, the one useing it and the one who hears it. It builds more anger and does not solve a single thing. When one is angry he losses control of what he says and does. Many times saying things that later they are sorry for. I really hate abusive speech and it degrades any individual who uses it.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
31 Jul 07
Hi Jadona! Yes, it would really damage. But this is the one case where the words were uttered in anger. There are certain people even using the same while in daily life. They frequently use to speak even don't feel that what word is appropriate! Thanks for response and have a good day.
• Pakistan
29 Jul 07
I hate that when people do this. You're a fellow of mine and the being of same country where I live. You know better than me maybe, what type of language even children of age 10 or smaller use, following there elder's path. The most used and common is BC. You know the abbrevation, right? Their elder's also do not stop them or even forbid them to use as such words but instead they don't even comment whe nthey do this. In my locality, adults play football, they use the greatest abusing language even when people are going to mosques to pray. And such are our elder's that they don't even stop them from doing these things. Makes me sick, totally sick. :@
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
31 Jul 07
Well, Omer! Yes, this is the point. The responsibility of elders is surely to keep the children away from such things. Surely the grown ups would tend to think before speak if there is some check, isn't it? But do you think that while being a part of society, one would remain un-affected all the times? Do you think that elders can execute their powers at all stages of life lol. Thanks for your real life observation like me & sharing the same freely.
@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
28 Jul 07
I don't care for it when people feel the need to use rough language all the time. It's just not necessary. Sometimes I think people do it because it draws attention to themselves, and as they say, even if it's negative attention...it's still attention. I don't swear, but I won't put down other people who do, I guess really it's their right if they want to come off that way. I don't thing swearing and talking that way reduces anger, either. If anything, a person swearing a blue streak will often change a person's opinion of them...can you imagine if your Dr or nurse, or a judge were to let off a stream of bad words like that?! If they did, your confidence and trust in them for being fair and non-judgemental would totally be gone. No matter what kind of work you're in, I see it as unprofessional, and it would scare clients (as well as fellow workers) away.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
30 Jul 07
Negative attention! May be the intention behind the all would be so. Liberty to speak is always welcomed but don't you think that there are norms of every place? What one has to use at which place? Yes, you are right that it weakens the very image of a person and the trust is also shaken. Thanks for a nice input.
• India
6 Oct 07
it depends on people we r dealing i wont talk bad words with girls but when im with my friends always to use bad words it will be fine for chatting with words
@Mithoo (255)
• Pakistan
5 Oct 07
Hello Dear Aliasad! Abusive talks are, I don't think represent well behaved person at all. But sometimes, very frankly, we hear such words would really fall in abuse but due to sense of feeling the depth would remain un-attended. I hope you get it!
@stvasile (7317)
• Romania
1 Aug 07
I try using as little bad words as possible. I use bad words only with certain friends that I know use them as well. I just returned from a summer school and one of the participants used bad words more often than prepositions... IT was very disturbing...
@cassidy22 (2975)
• United States
31 Jul 07
In the work place? Abusive and rough language is REALLY not appropriate. I am not sure it's appropriate anywhere, but still. in the workplace, this is called creating a hostile environment. In the US there are laws against that, as this is considered harrassment. You could talk to your boss, or to HR to report it and have them discuss it with him. This behaviour should be stopped. if he is talking to customers or clients that way, it can hurt business, adn it certainly seems to impact you in a negative way, so it shouldn't be tolerated.
@subathra (3519)
• India
30 Jul 07
Defintly i will not use abusive language against anyone no matter how angry iam.I hate people talking like that..but when we ask them they just simply reply that thay were in angry mood and pin point the error of the other person which made them use such language. people using this languages never realise how it hurts someone and words once spelled cannot be taken back and hence immense care should be taken before uttering anything like this which might ruin the reputation even if they are good in character.
@aissha (2036)
• India
30 Jul 07
things bug me and i can be considered as short tempered also but i don't use abusive language,no i don't
@gberlin (3836)
29 Jul 07
I do not use rough language even if I am angry. Rough language makes a person sound uneducated.
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
29 Jul 07
i don't like to use rough and abusive language and i don't like to hear people saying them as well... it just shows to me how uneducated the person is... educated people won't talk in a rough and abusive manner and i always look down on people who use those language...
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
29 Jul 07
Hey. Personally I have heard others use this foul way of talking and its sounds so vulgar and disscusting, especially when its use on children... I am guilty of using this foul language back in the day, growing up, I have chidren now and no way will I speak to them like that, nor would I like any else too either... If only a person could record his/her voice and see just how disscusting there mouths are... I dont like this talk, but it out there everywhere, even in music that our kids so seem to like...
@abroji (3247)
• India
29 Jul 07
I too don't think using abusive language will reduce anger, on the contrary it will increase anger and hatred and will further deteriorate the situation. But what can we do. Some people are like that. I have learned one lesson from life. If we get into the influence of anger and quarrel with somebody, there ends the chances for settling a dispute in sone easy ways. Things will get tougher and tougher. For this reaon I control my temper to great extent, as far as possible. Thank you aliasad