Why forgive when you can't forget?

I believe that in order to forgive we must not forget. It is in the remembering that we can gauge if we have forgiven. We should always remember. If you remember and still feel the hurt then you have not forgiven. If you remember and does not feel hurt about it then that's you have really forgiven in heart and mind.

For me I can forgive most things and forget them easily. I have some things in my past that have hurt me bad enough that I can not forget them but have forgiven the person. Somethings that happen to you affect your whole life and can't just be forgotten. They do become less prominent but you never quite forget. It does help to forgive the other person though so that you can be free of the grudge and the anger and hurt you may feel. I think if you were hurt bad enough the other person should understand that you may not be able to forget what they have done as it will always affect your life. I hope this makes sense to you.

Because, we have heart and memories. Heart for forgive, and memory for memorise! So we can forgive, but we might not forget!

It is true that it is easier to forgive than to forget. When someone ask for forgiveness and i am ready to forgive him, i will not hesitate to do so and therefore forget the past. But reality comes that eventhough you said let's forget the past, it will comes into your mind on the later time. I think after forgiveness let the wholething be charge into experience and learn from the mistakes made.

Hi neon2000! There are times in my life that when people ask for forgiveness, I tend to give it to them so easily but I could not really forget especially when I am really hurt. However, when I forgive them it means I am giving myself and the other person the cahnce to mend the broken relationship but I would definitely never forget so that I will never fall on the same trap or situation again. I don't want to forget and I don't want the other person to forget so both of us would learn from the mistake of the past. So I usually tell them, "let us start all over again but let us never forget what had happened so we can avoid the same mistake again but in the meantime let us give each other some space for awhile." Have a nice day and take care.

Some things are just impossible to forget and we shouldn't. remembering things about certain people helps prevent us from getting burnt twice by them. When you forgive what you are really doing finding peace with the situation...it is what it is. If you forgive, then you are not being plagued daily by whatever wrong was done to you. Forgiveness does not always mean that you are going to want that person in your life still. every situation is so different that its really hard to give a simple answer to this question.

People think forgiving and forgetting are the same thing but they are not. To forgive means not to hold a grudge, whereas to forget means not to remember the insedent happened at all. It is important to remember those things, in order to prevent them from reoccuring. It is also important NOT to hold a grudge, or it will be as if those things are happening again and again and again. Forgive, but you don't necessarily need to forget.

You Know God never says to forget only to forgive, God knows we can not forget God is the only one that can forget so this is way but we forgive cause he forgives us.

Forgetting something, especially if it caused us too much pain and shame is really a hard task You can forgive the person easily but healing really takes time. At least, forgiving the person starts forgetting what they have done. Forgetting aches is like forgetting love, its too diffucult to especially if you don't really wanna do it. As they say, there are two things we can't ever forget, the one that we love to remember because we love it or something that we hate to remember but we can't forget because we always remember how we hate it.