Mothers' Unwanted Advice

United States
August 1, 2007 9:43pm CST
How much say do you think your family and friends ought to have in how you raise your child? Y'all know mothers and grandmothers and aunts WILL give you unwanted advice, but when do they cross the line? When has your family ever crossed that line? And does too much "advice" undermine your role as a parent? Blessed Be
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Hi ladydulce. Sometimes my aunt gives unwanted advice. I listen but sometimes i dont pay her attention. I'm sorry but her advice never be on point.If i listened to her then my kids would be not have any freedom.
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• United States
3 Aug 07
Yeah, if I listened to my granny, my son would be a wuss. She nags at me about tossing him around, giving him tasty food rather than bland raw crap, slap boxing, funny pet names, need I go on? Arghhhh!
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@disvachic (10125)
• United States
4 Aug 07
hahahaha:)
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• Canada
2 Aug 07
Unless people really have reason to believe that the children are in danger, they need to get the heck out of your business, and leave you alone, to raise your children the way you see fit. It's not just in parenting, it's in everything else. People need to mind their own damn business!!!!
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• United States
3 Aug 07
THANK YOU!!! Raising children is a personal thing, right?
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
4 Aug 07
I got ALLLLLLLLL kinds of advice I didn't ask for when my kids were little but I believe parents should bring their children up as they see fit (unless, of course, they are abusing their kids). I discarded the advice and did what I thought was best and my kids are 21 and 16 and never have been in ANY trouble, both are intelligent, respectful, and very close to me and their father. The way I see it is, if you are taking good care of your kids, it's your personal business how you raise them. Times change and people all think they know best. Well, now I am a parent of grown kids and I keep my lips zipped when I listen to my sister or my friends talk about their young kids and issues they have. It's their personal business. If they ASK, I will give advice. Otherwise, it's none of my business - unless I think a child is in real danger and I don't.
@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
2 Aug 07
only if they insist on doing it in front of your children. :) I would simply say thanks for your opinion and do it my way anyways. ;)
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• United States
2 Aug 07
Look at it this way. As long as it isn't said in front of your kids no harm is really being done and they feel like they are helping you because they have been there and done that. You don't have to follow their advice. Simply tell them "Thank you, I'll think about it" If they become insistent about you doing something their way. Tell them "You raised yours,now I will raise mine,back off."
• United States
3 Aug 07
Yeah, but when it's constantly the same thing, over and over and over, it starts to wear you down and eventually you start questioning your own parenting ability. Especially when all you're getting is negative feedback. I figure my son's still alive, he's happy, he's progressing, so I'm doing alright.
@Calais (10905)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
I think that everyone just wants to help....I alway think that you can always listen to advice it dosnt hurt or cost anything, but it dosnt mean that you have to take it...But you never know you just might one day down the track and remember something that someone had told you..