When is the right time to move out of the nest (your parents home)

United States
August 13, 2007 1:44am CST
Hi i have a question that i think pertains to everyone. When do you think is the right time to leave your parents or families home to start off on your own? i have a 20 year old nephew that was forced out by his mother but she still pays for his living accommodation's and expenses. Personally i think the longer an adult (anyone over 20) stays at home the more damage they are doing to them selves in the future if they intend to leave one day, but there are always extenuating circumstances so give me your opinion?
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@magikrose (5429)
• United States
13 Aug 07
In my opnion it really depends on where you live and your culture. For me I moved out when I was 19. I got tired of my mom treating me like I was 6 all the time so I left. For everyone it is diffrent and it depends on the parents and the person in question. The coice is yours and yours only.
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@rohit55_56 (2297)
• India
13 Aug 07
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hu.....in my opinion Kids are very bright nowadays. They know their parents are divorced and although they may want the traditional family life, I think most kids would prefer their parents NOT be together if they dislike one another. Adults need to be adults and just be honest with the kids and tell them what the deal is. Children having custody of the parents is just plan ridiculous. We give children way too much power and control. They are not adults, they are CHILDREN! That is why the world is out of control, everyones trying to make sure the child is treated with more consideration than the parents. True divorce is hard on kids but it is hard on everyone and it is a fact of life. ........................
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Aug 07
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@Haisum (35)
• Pakistan
13 Aug 07
well i think it all depend upon the child....v should just give him a warning and tell him the side effects and i think then after that if somthing happend to him then v wo'nt b responsible for that.....then after v shud just allow him what he wants to do and he will easily experience his own life
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• Singapore
14 Aug 07
As long as you think you can be independent alone and making a good living and do not need your parents to worry much, its time to find your own space outside. I would want to find my own privacy space so that i can create a environment of my very own. i would want to move out ideal at the age of 26 years old.
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13 Aug 07
in china ,a adult(man) will be encouraged to live with their parents .but now more and more adults are going out to start a independ life .after you became a adult ,you still live with your parents ,others will look down with you .i think a man should learn to live on his own ,but they should take care of their parents ,and they should not do it on the excuse of liveing out .
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@Far525 (37)
• China
13 Aug 07
Personally speaking, it all depends.If you are not an independent person, leaving family is a kind of suicite.By opposite,living with parents, you will get more experence and support from the family.You will get enough preperation before you leave the family.And to be independent not decides on leaving or not family.Although you leave the family, you have no money to support yourself but accept parents' help. Then there is no differnce between leaving the family or not.Living with parents, you will have the chance to take care of them.
• United States
14 Aug 07
I am 22 and I am still living with my mom, but my mom does not care since she lost my brother.
• Canada
13 Aug 07
I left home when I was 20, my sister was around 16. It really depends on the individual, and what is right for them. There is no right or wrong age to leave home. All that matters is that the one leaving is ready to leave, and is mature enough to live the way they want to live.
@healer (1779)
• India
13 Aug 07
I stayed with my parents till the age of 15 but after that i went out to a different state away from my parents for furthur studies and i learned a lot after that, i saw people struggling to live and it was a pain to depend on my parents so, i started work as a part time data entry in a company and that saved some pocket money for me. We should try to settle on our own when we cross 16 and we learn what life is and how life has to be lived.
• United States
16 Aug 07
glad to see some people understand that to get the realilty of how hard life could be you have to stick it out on your at a point.
@tonixxx (358)
13 Aug 07
I think that people should be encouraged to saave some money whilst they are young so that they can get on the property ladder when they are ready to move out. I don't agree with parents throwing their kids out aand throwing them out before they are capable of being self suffiecient defeats the object. On the same token i don't agree with adults staying withy their parents, i think that they are taking advantage and should consider that there comes a time when their parents need to be aable to concentrate on themselves, their finances and relationships. Its a difficult one but i think that 20 is definately old enough if you have been tought how to look after yourself and are able to take care of your own finances rather then relying on your parents.
• United States
13 Aug 07
Hi, In my opionion. I believe that people should move out of their parents home with they have established great finances for themselves. I believe also that if your parents agree with you that you should take as much time to consider staying in their home until you can see further in the future that you have planned for yourself. Do not take drastic methods until you are sure that you can support yourself finance completely. Carolyn