Praise (words) or (candy, toys, field trips) treats?
August 19, 2007 11:10pm CST
What do you do for your children when they have done their chores, especially if they did them before you ask (and I don't mean asking them the question about who took over your child's body lol). Also, if they see that you are a little run down and want to do more tham their normal chores, say they also vacuum and do laundry (I'm using these as examples since kids of different ages have different chores. I was just curious if rewarded them with something special for it (even just by letting them pick out what will be for dinner. Maybe let them buy a book, magazine or oackage of basketball cards or something next time you go to the store? I don't mean you should do this all of the time, as then they will expect it, but If you have a really hectic day and the kids did help out around the house for you, without parental prompting, what would you do? Money? Let them have a small party on a weekend? A sleepover with some friends? Take them to the pool or beach?I'm just curious as to what others use for positive re-enforcement without the child getting so tired of hearing nothing but "thank you" so that the words sound hollow after a while, but not to give them something every time they chase a bug outside for you and expect a reward. It's a fine line that I don't want to cross, so I thought I'd see what others had to say.
• Boston, Massachusetts
20 Aug 07
I think it depends on the age of the child, but kids smarten up early to the how-to's of shopping and so I think money is a great motivator. Especially if you can take them to a store where they can pick out something and buy it with their own money. It also helps them learn why you say "no" when something is too expensive, they can find out just what they can get for their $1 or $5 or whatever.