Teenagers

teenager are difficult to live with when those hormones start raging. Some how you find your self with a different creature. one that you never knew existed. Do you realize it is your job to be unfair, make her life misserable? It's also your job to ruin her life. and when you start listening to her about these things then you really will be ruining her life so stop second guessing your self. When she starts with the your ruining my life just agree with her and tell her it's your job. The same when she starts iin with it's not fair. You have good reasons for the decissions that you make concerning her don't you? Believe me no matter what it's not fair. You just need to stop listening to her or him and just walk awy until they calm down and you can reason with them. You really can't talk to an angry teenager.

do you remember the terrible 2s, Well it passed and this too shall pass. You got to find your sense of humor and laugh, Laugh, laugh or they will drive you nuts. The other thing is pick your battles. Which is more important. Her belly button showing or her getting a tattoo or tongue ring? Oh by the way about tattoos if your child insists on the there are place on the net that you can get temporary ones. They last longer than the ones you get in bubble gum but still are not permanent like those needle ones. When she starts the life’s not fair just agree with her the same way with the other quotes, your ruining my life, and so forth. These are the drama years. Just remember that in a few years you will get even. She will have a daughter and be going through the same thing. That’s called Pay backs. Go talk to your mom and see if she didn’t go through the same things with you.

snap the problem is you dont say no enouogh. that girl has gone crazy. she aint nothin like the innocent girl she used to be. haha thats the truth too. lol! but yea idk, maybe she will straighten up or something. shell figure it all out. shes almost 18 shell realize life aint always a party im sure.

I have a almost 11 year old daughter and the drama already starts- I hear--- you're not fair more than once a week-- It drives me crazy! So I guess it will get worse huh?? I'm hoping to get along with my daughter - I try to be fair- so I think if you are fair- then she will grow out of it- My mom and I butt heads alot too growing up- and we are great friends and very close now!

I find that teenagers respondbetter when treated a little older, at least for boys I have seen this to be true, I have two boys one 17 and the other 14, and occasionly I give them certain privlages as a adult would have like cerfewa and things like that and in return they are asked to do household work, I explained that if they want to be treated like adults then they will work like them, so I said they could either get a part time job, or help around the house, it has worked great so far, it has really seemed to mature them well. I have not had to gorund them for anything major in nearly 3 years, and would at least give it a try if I were you.

Very good topic. What helps with my 15 year old is allow her to see both sides of her decisions she makes. You are the PARENT not her friend. You are to teach and guide her into a productive young adulthood. Give as little energy in her foolishness or madness. Some undisciplined teenagers think they now more than the teachers (parents)tough love I say. If you want a productive young adult and not a menace to society. Children learn how to act by those whom lead them, so watch your emotions. We as parents have to stick together. There is a very good book I read about raising a difficult child/teenager; let me know if you are interested.