How jealous are you?

@sedel1027 (17868)
United States
August 23, 2007 8:35pm CST
I don’t think of myself as a jealous person. Both my husband and myself have male and female friends. I don’t care if he looks at other women. Something that does work under my skin – his ex-girlfriend, his “first love” who crushed him years ago. They broke up about two years before we met and she really didn’t care about him until he met me. So we had a short “battle” of sorts with her the first month of two we were together and we have not heard from her since. That was four years ago. He is contemplating going back into the military and we were going through all his old stuff from 6 years ago. There are letters people from when he was in boot camp. There are quite a few from her, now he has no clue they are in there, he didn’t even look at the pile. In fact, he has not touched the stuff until tonight from when he originally packed it away 5 ago. The letters and cards are all about how much she loves him, never wants to leave him, etc etc etc. That just gets under my skin. Why am I jealous? He is married to me. He didn’t keep the letters intentionally all this time, he doesn’t even know he has them (probably doesn’t remember getting them), he doesn't like her as a person and doesn't talk to her. Are you like this, or am I the only insane one?
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@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
24 Aug 07
I used to be kind of jealous like this. In my twenties, which this emotionally disturbed man I used to go out with, dropped me for another woman, I would tell her things about him. I don't bother noawadays. When my hubby wanted to have a few drinks with his work mates after work, he had the good manners to let me know, & I was fine with it.
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@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
25 Aug 07
I am not a jealous person. I used to be more so when I was younger, but not now. I guess I just feel it is a waste of time. If the person loves you, then they love you. If they are constantly making you feel jealous, then maybe something is wrong. I guess I just had to learn for myself, through my own experience that jealousy is time wasted when you could spend it having more positive thoughts. It took me a while to get to this point of thinking.
@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
25 Aug 07
I don't feel jealous all the time. It is just this one thing that bothers me. As I stated above, we both have friends of the opposite gender and I could care less is he hangs out with female friends. I don't know why his ex's letters bother me so much. I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that she mistreated him at the end and then decided she wanted him back when we had been together for awhile. He doesn't like her as a person and hasn't had contact with her in close to 4 years.
@wisedragon (2331)
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
I don't think you should worry about it. He hasn't been looking at them all these years. In fact he didn't even realize that he had them. He doesn't even like her. They have no communication. There's really nothing for you to be jealous about.