What will I do with my life here in this lonely world here in Australia!

@joice86 (1079)
Philippines
August 24, 2007 9:31am CST
Now that I am in Australia for more than 2 months now, I feel that it has been a long long time already. I already have a job after more than a month and I am earning money already. I am a babysitter for the 3 kids of a rich family. My work is not that hard because I just have to look for the kids and that they are nice and wonderful kids so I am not really having a hard time with them. I also have housekeeping job in the hotel for me to a have a experience and to have a work reference in the future. I do go home very late at night around 9 or 10 pm or 11. I have to catch the train and I will reach home after an hour. I really get sad everytime I am travelling coz it is really a long way with no one to talk to. It is good to earn money but then the only thing that makes it hard for me to live here is that I really do miss my family in the Philippines. People here have hardly a hard to be with their family and friends unlike in the Philippines that people seem to have all the time for fun. I just really miss those days. I used to have a social life their with so many friends to hang out around but here I don't even have a single friend. Only my mum and my stepfather. What a lonely world for me. Please do respond, and just want to thank you guys in advance for any inspiration that you can give me. I may not have the time to answer back all your responses but I will read them all.
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@favefive (178)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I hope that after 2 months since this posting that things are doing better for you there in Australia and that you are no longer lonely. It does take a while to get adjusted to a new environment and new culture, but once you get the hang of it, you should be alright.
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@joice86 (1079)
• Philippines
24 Oct 07
hi favefive...it's my fourth month now here in australia and i think things are falling into place. I got a job and I am able to travel all by myself now. It's just that I still find so many things strange and different especially the people and the accent and the culture. It's really a very different culture from where I am accustomed to. Now, I have met people, I have joined scrabble tournaments and I think I am having a life again and moving on...
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
26 Aug 07
Welcome to Australia. Yes I know what you mean. Your culture and Australian culture are two worlds apart. You will never experience in Australia the closeness that you had with your friends in the Philippines. The people who stays in Australia learn to adapt to Australia's culture. Those who cannot adapt usually go back home because they miss their friends and family too much. On the other hand... if you stay in Australia for a few years... chances are that you will not want to live in the Philippines anymore... because the advantages of living in Australia outweight the fun you were having with your friends. Australia is a country which focuse very much on making money... the capitalist way. People come in Australia to make money... not to have fun. You only think of having fun after you have earned some money. While Australian people are friendly... their frendliness is very superficial and does not go much further than "Hello... how are you?" Nobody wants to know how you are. They simply ask you the question as a greeting... and it is a form of politeness. If someone gives you advice... they will only give it to you once... and then they expect you to act on it. Don't expect people to feel sorry for you. Not unless you have a major drama. Nobody will help you unless you help yourself. While Australians appear friendly on the surface... they are a tough bunch to deal with when things matter.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
25 Aug 07
Hi joice, I happy that you already had a nice job at least you have the time to be busy with and your are not that lonely coz you have a work. But don't worry you are still new in that place somehow time will come you can meet someone to be your good friends. The thing is you only missed your life here our country that we have always have time to enjoy and relax with firneds.
• India
25 Aug 07
YEs, i can understand your problem. It's always very difficult to live alone that too in another country. If you are feeling lonely then i think you should try to make new friends. I can understand that it's not easy to get good friends that too in a foreign land but then also you need to look around you. If it's bit difficult that you can develop the taste of book reading. Whenever you are free and feeling lonely you can take a book out and just enjoy the book. It 'll help you to overcome your loneliness.
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@Calais (10900)
• Australia
24 Aug 07
That sounds so sad for you, but Im sure it will get better as time goes on...You will meet friends and hopefully your work load lightens so that you can socialise..
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• Kottayam, India
24 Aug 07
find a fine boy friend.
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• United States
24 Aug 07
I'm so sorry to hear that you are lonely! It does take time to find friends in a new place -- especially if you're working all the time. Be strong for a few more months, though, because you WILL find friends. Part of your problem is that you are working at jobs where you are basically alone all the time (I mean not around adults or people your age). Perhaps you could get a job at a store/shop, or at a pre-school. Waitressing, even just behind a counter, would also get you out there and meeting people. I know you're still building your job experiences, and not really in these areas of work -- but many of the kind of jobs I've mentioned are more concerned with your attendance and responsibility record than with what you actually did on those jobs. Keep plugging away! I know you'll succeed in everything you desire if you don't give up!
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
24 Aug 07
I really enjoyed living in Australia and working as a children's nanny there. I know what you mean about enjoying it but missing your friends and family in the Philippines. I wonder if is possible for you to make friends with some people in Australia. Australians tend to be quite friendly and welcoming people. It is a huge country so if you get days off work I hope you enjoy seeing some of it. It might be nice for you to take photos of the areas you see. I am sure your mum and step father would love to see some photos of beautiful Australia.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
8 Oct 07
Oh I hope things pick up for you here, we Aussies are friendly enough I think, I hate to think that you are so alone, I really hope you meet some nice friends, you should be happy so I will hope for you...
• United States
29 Aug 07
I do understand being lonely. I moved to where I lived and had no friends that was thirty years ago. I have lost of friends and that was before the internet. It will take time and you will soon meet people and find friends. You have the kids you baby sit, do you take them to a park or out and about? You are bound to meet someone through them. I know it is hard at first you will soon have lots of friends. I feel your pain I have been where you are. Good luck and know you have friends from all over the world here at myLot.