Why do men cheat?

Philippines
August 25, 2007 12:19pm CST
It is very interesting to know esp from men themselves why they cheat on their girlfriends, fiancees, wives. Just why do men cheat? Please tell me, i sure would like to hear your opinion ladies and your reasons gentlemen.
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11 responses
@Stiletto (4579)
25 Aug 07
Well it's not just men who cheat - women do it too! I think people cheat for various reasons - because the grass is always greener on the other side, because they want what they can't or shouldn't have, maybe because they're bored or of course some people just do it because they can! Being in a relationship doesn't stop you finding other people attractive. It's whether you decide to do anything about it that matters and some people just make the wrong decisions.
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• Philippines
25 Aug 07
It can really hurt but i'd rather be hurt by the truth than by the lie. If you know what i mean. And there is always a way of getting out from a wrong relationship other than cheating.
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@eemee468 (446)
• Philippines
25 Aug 07
well.. it's man's nature to be polygamous.. and we can never be contented till we really look at having realtionship as a serious committment.. not just attraction or a sudden burst of emotions..anyone is so vulnerable to cheat, specially if things don't go the way they planned, expected, or wanted it..
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
25 Aug 07
I highlighted that in my opening post but women also cheat too. Just like men being polygamous, women also cheat for underlying/genetic reasons.
• Philippines
25 Aug 07
Hey guys, i don't mean to offend anyone here, esp you gentlemen. Yes it's true that women cheat too. But statistics say, whether you agree with it or not, the number of men who cheat is way higher than women. And what about honesty? When you feel like you're in the wrong relationship, why can't you just tell your partners the truth? This way, humiliation on the part of your partners will be avoided. You dont really have to cheat, you have a choice to tell the truth.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
26 Aug 07
You didn't offend me. Even if you did, the only thing I can do is argue back (not have you silenced) free speech, you gotta love it. Anyhow, I do know that men cheating is higher on some stats (30-50 women vs 50-80 men), though I've seen others that say its only slightly higher (45 women vs 55 male). Plus when I see broad ranges like the first example, I kind feel weird accepting it. Yeah, men cheat plenty, and I feel they should be kicked up and down the street if they are too cowardly to just end their first relationship (same for women). Cheating is pretty hurtful, even more hurtful than ending the relationship. At least if you end it, its over. It hurts, you may ask why it ends, but at least its over and you have a chance to move on. Plus you probably ditched a scumbag so be happy, that's what I say. Oh and don't go apologizing for discussions. You're talking about some medium controversial stuff, you'll get some heat and you'll give some, but hey if people cant take it, tough. You are still in the right for expressing yourself, keep doing so.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
25 Aug 07
Both sexes cheats, but most men I know who cheats claims its due to lack of affection at home. I think the grass is greener on the other side is one of the reasons.
• Philippines
25 Aug 07
The grass is greener on the other side as a reason to cheat is just really sad. *sigh*
• United States
25 Aug 07
I think older men cheat to reclaim their youth. They believe if they can still get a woman to find them attractive, that means they haven't "lost it". I also believe that many times it is simply a case of having their cake and eating it too...they want the best of both worlds.
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
I heard a friend who told me the same reason - relaim their youth. Old age is inevitable in life.
• United States
27 Aug 07
Why do women cheat? Possible the same reasons. There are plenty of reasons why. None of them justifiable though. Some men are just no good. Some may have issues they can't deal with. Some cheat because it's probably something they are not getting at home or they think the grass is greener on the other side. Some probably have hurt and either want to hurt others before he gets hurt or hurt others just because he was hurt. Some are rich or well off. They think that they can treat anyone the way that they want to because the girl probably don't have the means that they do. They think you need them and will put up with any crap that they throw at you. As I said, none justifiable. Just poor week excuses. But do you see where I'm going with this. Some do this and some do that for what ever reason or reasons. Not all men cheat. Maybe you are hooking up with the wrong ones. If you are one of the many women that are hooking up with bad boys thinking you are going too change them, well there's one of your mistakes right there. If they rap and always listening to the songs that degrade women like calling them b___hes and w___es or in there language h--s, or how big they are and they got the magic stick, etc., again wrong choice. I would probably write a little book here on this subject. I am afraid if I write anymore these wrong people I am trying to steer you away from could read this and use it against anyone. If you need any more advice on this subject maybe I can get it to you somehow. remember you have to build on a relationship. Don't accept bad materials or your house will not be sound and will crumble.
• United States
30 Aug 07
I am glad I could help Euphrosyne (24). Remember stay focus and look for good materials. I will say a prayer for you.
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
"Don't accept bad materials or your house will not be sound and will crumble." Profound... i like it.
@nobbsy123 (851)
• Australia
26 Sep 07
I can't speak from experience because ive never cheated on a girlfriend, not once. However if a guy or a girl cheats it must be because they aren't that happy with their relationship. just a thought.
@urbandekay (18278)
25 Aug 07
Much the same reasons that women cheat all the best urban
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
well, a man cheats because he wants more and is never satisfied or he was looking for sometyhing that his wife/gf do not have... another reason is he wants to prove something to people like he is a a good looking man, and they can never accept the fact that their woman is a cheating wife/girlfriend because its hurtful to their egos. according to my husband men cheat because they can and it is somehow accepted by society, see how some women just forgive her man inspite of being cheater for numerous times, and men hates the fact that women cheat because it is like killing his ego or something. so thus instead of loosing face to his friend and the whole world he wants to kill her.Most of the man cheat even if they have everything good because they get bored.Boredom is one of the most important and real reason why many of them go for another relationship.They cannot control there physical eagerness & they want change.When people really dont understand the meaning of true love and trust and the happiness they have in their life is not enough, they tend to cheat.When people have a tendency of wanting more and more and do not see what they already have, they cheat.When people are not satisfied with what they have, when they want more taht they dont have they tend to cheat. There may be many more such reasons to cheat, but I think these are the most common. I just hope you you find it true.
• United States
28 Aug 07
I have a theory here it goes. They are seduced. They want more than one lover. They want it but their lover is not around. That is all I got. I don't know much about this.
@bowtieguy (5915)
• United States
2 Sep 07
I think there are two main reasons that men cheat, one is to get something that he is not getting from his wife at home like diffrent positions or s&m or something like that and the other is when he hits his midlife crisis and looks for younger wmen to intern make him feel younger. I am glad to say that I have never cheated on a women before weither you want to believe it or not. Actually I was the one who was cheated on many years ago.
• Pakistan
1 Sep 07
i dont agree wid wid u, its commpletly wrong though. m sorry but its true. some men cheat but u can not blame all men cheats. some time me woman cheats. y ppl always say that mem always cheater.