How in the world can I keep my two year old in a car seat?

United States
September 1, 2007 9:23pm CST
My daughter is two. She is quite the little handful and I just can't get her to stay buckled in her carseat. She knows how to work ALL the buckles on EVERY carseat EVER made and I'm telling you what, she's hardheaded and for the life of me she WON'T stay in that darn thing for NOTHING! I'm on my eighth carseat and she has figured it out already and it's only a week old. I just don't know what to do. I've punished her over and over and over again. It takes me an hour to drive 20 miles because I have to keep pulling over to put her back in there. She's driving me CRAZY! I even tried to tape the buckles but she gets it off. I've tried putting the buckles on backwards, but she figured that out too. PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEE HELP!!!
7 responses
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
I had this problem many years ago and I told my daughter I would take her to the park to play, but made her understand that everytime she took off her belt we would stop, and we only had one hour. She took her belt off shortly after we started out, so I stopped the car and indicated to her we wouldn't progress until she was ready to ready in her seat again. No seat, no park! The first trip we stopped about three times before she understood that these stops were eating into her play time, so she remained sitting. From memory she slept on the way home, tired after playing I think I only had to do this two or three times before she learned that it was better for her to belt-up. Your daughter sounds similar to mine at the same age, so give it a try. And the best of luck.
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• United States
7 Sep 07
Well, if I can ever get a break from running everywhere under the sun, I will have to try that. I think it's a combination of her not getting the attention she wants from me in the car (her not understanding that I have to watch the ROAD) and her just being a brat, lol. I will have to set a couple hours aside each day for a while and try that...ugh....thanks for the great advice!
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
7 Sep 07
Good luck, and it's moxt important that you persist, no matter how hard.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
3 Sep 07
Honestly, I had to spank my daughter to get her to stop doing that. She used to climb out of her car seat and stand in the back and I would have to pull over and do the same as you. I hated doing it, but nothing else worked. I just ended up having to spank her every time she did it and she finally stopped after she figured out it wasn't so pleasant. I also tried this as well. When you buckle her up, show her a piece of candy or a treat and tell her if she can stay in her seat until you get home that she can have it as her reward for doing a good job. Maybe that will help. It didn't work with my daughter, but could with yours.
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• United States
7 Sep 07
I have spanked her. I spanked her today because I was in a line of traffic and I didn't have anywhere to pull over and she just would not do anything I asked. I almost hit the car in front of me trying to get her to just sit on the floor until I got pulled over. I'm about to wring her little neck (not really), geesh...she's driving me BONKERS!!! Thanks for the advice.
• United States
2 Sep 07
I have not had this problem yet, I got one of thoes Britax car seats and my daughter really likes it, but I do have other problems. I have been reading a book called drawing the line. They suggest that you choose a time, when you will not be rushed, and set your child up so to speak, put her in let her think you are going somewhere. You need to decide on a punishment before hand, give her a new toy perhaps. When she undoes the belt, stop the car and administer the punishment, take away the new toy or tell her your going home. The book says that the puishments shgoulds only last a few second (they forget why they are in trouble if they are too long), lonf enough for you to say, do you know why you are being puninshed? Untill the anwer correctly, then say are you ready to be a good girl and stay in the seat? she should answer yes, then continue driving. The idea the book says is to schedule ttime so that you can do the correcting when it is not impotand, not when you are on your way to an important appointment. I hope this help, I have had success with problem mealtimes this way, my next project is running all over the store. Hope it helps
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• United States
7 Sep 07
Thanks for the great advice. I have already tried though. And when I have the time~which isn't very often...she does do good, but when she knows I'm rushed she always acts up...She's such a brat!!! lol
@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
2 Sep 07
I feel very sorry for you as I realize how unsafe this is for your daughter and how frustrating it must be for you. My children, now turning 6 & 4, have never even tried to unbuckle themselves while I was driving. I used to have trouble with both as far as getting them in there...but once in there they were fine. I always explained that if they were not buckled and riding in their seats correctly, that not only would the police take mommy to jail, but if I got into a car wreck they would be very bad hurt and have to go to the hospital. I told them this since they were about 1.5 years old. I don't have to anymore because it has sank in. I never went into gross detail of how bad they could get hurt/killed, etc...but I never shielded them from the fact that for their safety, they must wear their seat belts. My father was strict with me with this issue and to this day, I will not put the car into gear unless I am buckled. Good luck!!!
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• United States
7 Sep 07
That's how I am too, I just think she's too little to fully understand. That is how I've gotten the boys to stay buckled though. She's just a handful! I don't know what I'm going to do. THanks for posting :-)
@jeanena (1616)
• Bucklin, Kansas
2 Sep 07
My oldest daughter was one of those kids that was forever getting out of her car seat. She accomplished this one day just after i had been stopped by a state trooper for a tail light being out. It just so happened that this state trooper was a friend from school . I told him maybe he should have a talk with her about getting out of her car seat. Johnny caught her in the act of trying to undo the carseat and he proceeded to tell her all about the dangers of not being in her car seat. She didnt escape again ..lol To this day (she is 18 now) she has a crush on John the state trooper.
• United States
7 Sep 07
Nice story, thanks! I might find me a police officer ;-)
@Laurla98 (786)
• United States
2 Sep 07
I don't know how much she would understand this yet, but have you tried telling her that its the law & if she isn't in her seat that the police will take you away to jail? I've known some people that have had to do that in order to get their kids to stay in their seats. I wish I had some different advice. How frustrating that must be for you.
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• United States
7 Sep 07
I have told her that, but I don't think that she understands. Thank you for your advice! Have a great day.
@ckriswa (11)
• India
2 Sep 07
Children may have born with "gold spoon" but may not have born with bad character. Ir is the parent's guidance and surveillance determines children's character. So as a parent you must guide them properly. When the children born in this world they are like a small plant and it can be seen as a big tree giving fruits to many more decades only if the tree is properly preserved.
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