Have You Wasted Years In Your Life?
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
September 11, 2007 10:29am CST
Do you ever feel that you have wasted X amount of years of your life? Maybe you've wasted years on a partner, relationship, in a job, in a place or just wasted them by letting your life go static? And not just living life but letting life pass by?
How does it make you feel knowing that you have wasted X amount of years? Do you regret the lost years, do you look back and think oh why did I waste them?
Is there any way you can get those lost years back? Is it possible to make up for lost time?
I have lost 9 years personally through two disastrous relationships, 9 years is a long long time, but I intend to catch up those lost 9 years by going travelling and living life to the full and living the life I want to live it not for someone else.
I think the time for regret and feeling sorry for myself has gone and yes those 9 years have gone but it has taught me a valuable lesson that I will never settle down again and I am too much of a free spirit to be trapped into a cage again
I may have lost 9 years but I still have the rest of my life to go out and enjoy! And to do something I love to do and that is TRAVEL!
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23 responses
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
11 Sep 07
Hi Wolfie!
I agree with what weemam said! Just look ahead and enjoy the plans you have made for the future. Losing time does stink, but at the same time you always learn a lesson from it, and you have. I wasted a few years living in a new city away from my friends and family, I was completely isolated to try and get the help that I needed for my bi-polar. That did no good as a big part of getting better is support from friends, and family. Now that I am a wife and mother my life has majorly changed for the better and I wouldn't change what I have now for anything! You can be in a rutt for a long time, but at the blink of an eye your life can change forever! Never give up, and have hope! Look ahead, and NEVER look back! That would be my advice hun!
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
12 Sep 07
I've wasted most of my life. Wrong choices, wrong decisions, wrong people, rotten jobs. I've always struggled financially and I like to be cautious. People I know live their life in debt but I can't handle the stress. They have a much fuller, more enjoyable life and that helps them cope with stress. LOL.
Glad to see you have finally found your way Wolfie...all the best to you matey. :)
@torandarell (1)
• Netherlands
31 Jul 11
I've almost finished a part-time teacher training course, which took me 9 years so far. if only I'd done 2 small things during a previous study, I would already had a teacher training degree.
the thought that I've wasted 9 of the best years of my life drives me crazy. I know that one should learn from the past etc etc, but (also due to some other problems recently) I will never feel as youthful and optimistic as I used to.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
11 Sep 07
I must commend you on your new attitude, wolfie. Sure, I don't think that many of us can honestly say that we have not wasted some of our years. I often hear people say that they have no regrets, well, I have to say that they are the exception to the rule. I do know that I have some regrets, but I don't dwell on those things. Once we discover that our lives have become stagnant or meaningless, we have to choose to change things or accept our lot. Good for you in your decision to change your life. Life is filled with constant change and you should make the most of it.(:
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
11 Sep 07
Well Wolfie I have eated 5 yrs waiting on one man to say he loved me enough to want to marry me. The thing is I could feel him straying and whenever anyone showed interest in me and began to talk to the person he would appear up all loving and nice behaving as if I ma the most improtant person in his life and this would continue for months until he began to stray again. Well I heard he was dating someone else and played with the girl's feeling so she got a nervous breakdown and currently undergoing therapy. When i asked him about it he denied it and so I just decided that he my friend was a waste of time. I have not regretted those years because they have taught me a very valuable lesson in life. So here I am still single and waiting for the right person. I hope to start school in feb 2008 doing my Associate degree and I have moved on.
I am happy for you too that you could do that and have enjoyed your travelling. I hope to do that soon too but I still have my 9 yr to think about so until then I am just a homebody and happy with it.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
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13 Sep 07
Good on you mate! If you feel that your time has been lost, that's the perfect reason to spend as much time as you like concentrating on making yourself happy.
I feel I've wasted too many years stuck in the same job, but it's been a comfort thing. It's also allowed me to concentrate more on my home and family so I can't really complain. I've also changed my perspective since becoming a dad. Now all that matters to me is that the 3 of us are healthy and happy. My extended family bring mostly just stress into our lives and I resolved to stop it happening.
It does you good to think things through and re-define your priorities once in a while. Where are you thinking of travelling?
@yanjiaren (9031)
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11 Sep 07
I hope you have the best in your life Wolfie..I want toreach an online earning of four grand a month then I will be able to relax a little bit lol. I need to be able to bring my Hubby to the U.K then from there we can have the freedom to travel all over the place and see many things. I hope we can meet one day and compare notes too. I too have wasted many years but aI can't turn the clock back I can only hope to make my life now a bit better..
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@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
12 Sep 07
I believe I also wasted about 3 years of my life in relationships. But by the same token, although these relationships didn't work out, they were a learning experience for me. Without them, I wouldn't know as much or wouldn't be as strong as I am today. So in a way I don't think those years went to waste entirely becuase they gave me an opportunity to grow as a person. Never regret things in life, just learn from them becuase they had to happen.
@mummymo (23706)
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14 Sep 07
Well sweety i was in an awful relationship for years but my situation is different - if I hadn't been there I would never have had my son , for that reason alone I can never consider it wasted! I am also lucky in that in every boring or mundane peiod of my life I have met lovely people so again I cannot call it wasted! I know that you are more than able to make up for those lost 9 years my darling - and always remember your big sis will always be here to support you and to make sure that you still 'behave'! lol Hugs little brother - not long to go now! xxx
@comeonmolly (828)
• China
14 Sep 07
I can't agree more ,we should't always make our time in memorize,that can't do anything but give us an experience,if you always inguled yourself in the past you are bound to waste more time which will not only 9 years .rather than waste a lot of time in remember, we should do more useful things ,to live every time of your life mingingful.b/c sometimes time can cure everything...;-)
travel is really a good way to make us enjoy our life.
Wish you have a good trip..Happy always...smiles..;-)
@candyfirst69 (98)
• China
13 Sep 07
Friends,I also agree with your point of view,in fact, no matter how much time wasted,as long as you feel worthy,it
would not regret it.I also aspire to live life every day tourism,but now also failed.Friends,if you want to travel,
I suggest,China it to the distant,where you really have not
seen many of the features and the human customs.This good
person off,you will love here.
@pizza24 (3)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
i married a maid from our neighbor and we got married at the age of 20 and 19. i didnt enjoyed my teenage life because i was busy working for my wife and daughter. after one and a half year, we both decided to split up, maybe because we both like someone else. its hard because were not annuled and its giving me and my girlfriend hard time to get married because of my first marriage. so much for a happy married life.ive wasted 5 years of my life beacause of that... sigh
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
I used to think of that when i'm alone and yes sometimes i do feel that i wasted my past years of my life but thats only when i remember those times, since time cant turn back its better not to dwell on it, past is past so whatever i lost and i haven't done in the past i can correct it and move on. I choose and learn to move on and enjoy the present and look forward for the future.
@maiax2k6 (535)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
sometimes, it feels like wasted time - but then if you really think about it, the span of years spent past is like a river flowing towards the ocean- they can never be recovered, only remembered either endearly or rottenly depends on their specific impacts on your life. it's nice thinking about the yesteryears, the good and the bad of them, but then it's even better to look forward to what is to come -helping create your future life, make it bloom even richer with learnings and experiences. if all of those years in your life combined has lead you to this day, say a prayer of thanks, maybe theyre worth something and you're worth a little spinning by your god :).
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Sep 07
Yes, I have wasted few years of my life. I could not decide what career to choose. I spend most of the time with no good results. I repend most of the time. If I had managed everything properly I have been in a better position (career) today.
