mother in laws

United States
September 12, 2007 2:25pm CST
Who has problems with their mother-in-law? Mine decided that she wanted to throw herself a 50th Wedding Anniversary party and have her kids pay for it. She has already started planning. I am talking 100 guests, a band, alcohol, totally formal. Her husband and she do not even speak and her relationship with her kids and her sons and daughters in law is horrible. I feel totally resentful having to do anything for this sham of a party and think it was extremely rude and quite an imposition of her to TELL her children that they were paying for it. What do you think?
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@runsgame (2033)
• India
13 Sep 07
nothing to think on this . only one word that is mother in law is always mother of law . just obide and give respect always . u can escape in all situations
@nmw2005 (1197)
• United States
13 Sep 07
Wow that's rude and presumptuous of her. I would feel resentful too. The only thing I can think of to even keep any sort of piece is to talk to your husband and his siblings. Come up with a financial figure, tell her this is what you can afford and to do with it as she pleases. Any further expenses she will have to take care of.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
13 Sep 07
I think it's kind of sad that she wants this despite not being in a speaking relationship with her husband. I also wonder how she plans on having her kids pay for it...at some point, they will have to write checks for deposits and she can't exactly force them to do it or write them herself. I agree that it is rude of her to try to make other people pay for her party.
@laurika (4536)
• United States
12 Sep 07
Hmm, that is really something different.I think she should ask at least if they are willing to pay it or not.But also when you wrote she does not speak with her husband I do not see any sence in having party like that.It much more look to me like she loves to socialize and she wants just have a party and probably the Wedding Anniversary it s good oportunity.I hope her children are gonna talk to her and find the best way for everybody.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 Sep 07
She sounds like quite the overbearing shrew. Can you tell I had problems with my mother in law? Not my current one, she is a gem! My ex-husbands mom. I would never have to worry about her wanting us to throw her a formal party, she doesn't even own a stitch of casual clothing other than shorts and t-shirts and some sweat pants. But she always was broke, she made more money than we did and had less bills. But somehow she was always broke, always sick and always needing help with HER business and of course we worked for free outside of our working hours. Yeah, I have had problems with mother in laws. It is very rude for her to insist you pay for a party that is a total sham. But as a daughter in law you really can't say too much. It is for your husband to say. How does he feel about it? How do the other kids feel about it? If they don't say anything, then you may just have to grin and bear it until the party is over.
@jillbeth (2711)
• United States
12 Sep 07
The 50th anniversary is a big one and it's too bad that she wants to celebrate a marriage to a man she doesn't even speak to! And I think it's pretty rude to throw yourself a party and expect someone else to pay for it, even your own children! Sounds like a very unhappy woman to me, trying to get some attention.