Just real everyday manners! Do kids even have them anymore??

@rachsal4 (391)
United States
September 13, 2007 4:03pm CST
Yesterday I went into my local Walmart, this is something I usually do at night cause people peevv me off!! I took my daughter to the bathroom, as someone was exiting right before us they didn't even hold the door! Then somebody bumped my cart, and didn't apologize, then someone tried to butt in line!!! All kids, all kids that should know better!! Do people even have common manners anymore??? I swear if there is one thing my children will have it's manners!!! Excuse me, Thank you, no thank you, respect for the ederly, it's like a dying art form!!!
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10 responses
• India
14 Sep 07
Its very sad but very true. People with manners are becoming endangered species and parents teaching their children manners or children following them, are looked upon as Victorian and sissy by the peer group. In today’s rat race when everything has a tag and a price attached to it, such politeness, concern for others, stopping to thank someone…are becoming rarer and rarer. Practicing these are a wastage of time and time is money! Why wait in queue and waste your ‘precious time’ when you can actually butt in with a few pushes and shoves? And if the other person retaliates…well you have your own vocabulary and attitude to bail you out! This seems to be the accepted lifestyle of kids and teens of today. I do think they sober down a bit in their adult life but that has more to do with compulsion and adjustment than with manners. But kids and teens are really sometimes a threat to our sanity!
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I love it! Endangered species!! Do ya think that we could put them on the list?? Ya know if the gov. didn't make people so darn scared to smack the silly out of our kids it probably wouldn't have gotten this way!!
• India
17 Sep 07
I am from India but from whatever ‘inputs’ the media give us, I do believe you have too many ‘laws’ which, in the name of protecting individual liberties and safety, further jeopardize the harmony of civic society. (excuse me if my comments hurt your patriotism)
• United States
14 Sep 07
One thing I think many parents forget is that they need to model appropriate behavior and manners-- not just tell their kids how to act. I have always said "please", "thank you", "excuse me", etc. to my children, just as I would extend that courtesy to any stranger. It seems that some people feel that children are not deserving of the same respect, but I totally disagree.
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
14 Sep 07
Oh yeah, your kids do what you do, not what you say!!! And also if parents would actually take a moment to express how disapointing it is to see there child act like that. I have noticed that the perfect way to make my nine year old listen is to nod my head and say how disapointed I am in him. It's a automatic apology, and he really works to not make me feel like that again! Of course that will only work if the child has respect for his/her parents which is an entirely different topic!
@vokey9472 (1488)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I have noticed that the smaller the city or town, the better the manners. I think most of us that live in larger cities see more of the "bad manners" than anything else. I think that it is sad that so many children are running around without any common courtesy. The saddest part is that is really isn't the child's fault. The fault lies with the parents. If there is one thing that I, personally, will see to; it is to insure that my son has basic, common courtesy. I have even considered moving to a smaller town just to get away from all the rudeness that so many people today think is perfectly acceptable. Have you noticed that if YOU do something, like bump into someone, they get offended if you don't apologize as quickly as possible? But if that person bumps into you, they don't apologize, they blame you for being in the way!! I get that a lot at the grocery store, at WalMart, even at my son's pre-school. It's shameful.
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I will totally agree, selfishness, breads selfishness (in 99% of the cases).
@raychill (6530)
• United States
14 Sep 07
Kids learn from, um...who? Their Parents! PEOPLE these days don't have manners and I fully believe that's why kids don't. Half the time I actually see kids with more manners than their parents because they learn manners and such in school. I don't know whether people forget their manners as they get older or what it is, but I think the fault is in the adults and not in the kids.
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
14 Sep 07
It's like people get that "I'm the only one who matters attitude"!
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@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
13 Sep 07
It's not just kids that don't have manners. It's the parents, too. I always make sure my son says please, thank you, and excuse me when they are appropriate. He's only 19 months old, and when we are out in public, he remembers to say the nice words about 75% of the time. If a small toddler can remember that often, why can a six year old not? or a 26 year old?? I think most of those parents don't care what their kids do. They don't use manners, because they don't feel they are important. So they don't see any point in trying to teach their kids manners either.
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
14 Sep 07
Amen! It's like parents know don't realize how big of a deal it is to teach them. I mean I realize that teaching my children these thing will autimately make there life easier. People who are rude, end up surrounded by rude people. People who are rude have less chance of others doing nice things for them. They are instilled with the automatic reaction to be caring, and giving. There are so many things that will come easier in there life just by common manners, why would any parent not want to give there child that extra jump start on life??
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@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
13 Sep 07
I blame it on the parents. If the parents have no manners then the kids won't have any either. Who are their role models for proper behavior if the parents don't even act right? No one. And you'd better not say a word to someone else's kids or they'd cuss you out. It seems like people are so afraid to discipline their kids anymore and it's a shame. When I was coming up I'd better not look sideways at an adult. Now it seems kids can do and say anything they want and not have to face any consequences. I can only see it getting worse.
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
14 Sep 07
Amen, I miss the old days when the hole block raised a kid. When if Mrs. ---- saw you do something bad she would take you by your shirt home to mom!! Kids were so much better then! And I remember how hard it was trying to figure out how to dicipline my kids in public, for fear that someone would call "the man" on me!
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• Philippines
14 Sep 07
I think it's something that seems more prevalent now than before. I'm sorry to point it out but kids these days have a sense of entitlement without responsibility. Most think that they can get everything without giving something back. Plus, I'm not sure why manners are disappearing too. The other day, a guy that was probably in his early 20s just butt into a long line at the subway. Jeez. First, I think maybe it's because a lot of parents focus on teaching kids academic things to get them ahead in school. I know most of my friends are like that. They're shocked when they learn that I don't fret too much if my 2 year old doesn't sing her ABCs or count to 100. Then they ask me why I focus on values and, more shockingly, how I teach my children values! I always thought values was the most important thing children can learn. Second, I think it's because teaching values is difficult. Children can be naughty and they can test your patience so parents get tempted to give up easily.
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
15 Sep 07
Thats totally true. Especially with the entitlement thing. My son asked me for a cell phone a while back. He looked at me like I was crazy when I laughed at him. I seriously thought he was joking!! A cell phone, your 9. What is that. It's like kids don't have to earn that entertainment system in there room, they just get it. And when did it become ok to put a entertainment system in a childs room anyway.
@meanangel (167)
• United States
14 Sep 07
Right there with you. My daughters teacher commented on how polite she was saying please and thank you and even have a nice day. I was shocked because I though that curtesy was something every parent taught. I expect her to be polite and lead by example. It's funny I go to Walmart at night for the same reason. lol. I have had the same experience. The one thing that does get me is the respect for the elderly. I give respect to the people who show respect to me. I had an old woman run into me with her cart. Not my cart but she physically hit me! She did not apologise or excuse herself she gave me a dirty look and walked off. That same trip two women were blocking the exit. One wss stitting on the front bench with her basket out and the other was in one of those moterized scooters planted right in the middle of the walk way. There was no room to go around and a line was forming behind me so I said excuse me thinking they would let us through. NO they waited until the woman on the bench wanted to get up then she bumped me as she did and the line started moving again. I at least showed restraint and did not cus like some people behind me but I wanted to. All ages should be considerate of each other.
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
15 Sep 07
Yup, it always disgusts me and also makes me feel a little sorry. Not for them but the people that are around them on a daily basis, I mean if they act that way to a total strangers, can you imagine how they act to people they do know?? Things that make you go Hmm...lol
@Stiletto (4584)
14 Sep 07
Well it's really down to the parents. They obviously haven't taught their children good manners, maybe because they don't have them either! I have to say I encounter just as many, if not more, adults that are rude and ill-mannered than I do kids. If a child is brought up by ignorant parents it's fairly likely they will be the same way.
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@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
15 Sep 07
A child is a product of not only the parents but their enviroment too! Your right, when I see a child in a store throw a tempertantrum I look at the parent. When I see a child disrespect there parent I look at the parent wondering what they did to raise there child to act such a way??
@carissa765 (1098)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I know what you are saying, I go through this constantly with my children. I do my dangdist to make sure my kids know their manners, and respect their elders. Course my ex-husband makes sure they forget everything I have taught them while they are with him, so it is constant retraining. However it is deffinately worth it! I know what it is like to not have any manners shown. I know that no matter what, I will be making sure my kids or anyones kids that are with me have manners, because that drives me nuts.
@rachsal4 (391)
• United States
15 Sep 07
Oh yes I totally understand. My sons father is the same way. It takes like the entire day to get him back in the I'm at moms house now mode!!!