Is your husband younger than you?

United States
September 13, 2007 7:00pm CST
I am 8 years older than my husband. We get along great, better than I did with my ex-husband who's the same age as me. We are best friends and he is great with all of our kids. Alot of people think it's just so weird when the woman is older than the man. I just believe that if there's love & respect along with great communication, things go alot better. No matter what age you are. I felt weird at first thinking that he was only 11 years old when I graduated high school, but he is more mature than alot of other guys that are way older than he is. Is your spouse younger than you? Did you have any issues with family, etc.? How do you feel about the age difference?
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@moxalot (100)
• United States
15 Sep 07
I am 6 years older then my husband. We're best friends and also rarely argue. My family was just happy that I found someone I love spending time with. I think my mom was probably thinking oh thank god... Because I was seriously one cat away from being the crazy cat lady... The age difference doesn't bother me at all. In my eyes, age is a number. Some people act younger than that number, some people older. Then again some people look older and younger than that number...
• Australia
15 Sep 07
It is funny I thought I would always settle down and marry an older man.... but no! My hubby is two years younger than I and he likes to be cheeky and tell me I am a cradle snatcher! I really don't feel like he is younger than me because we have similar working minds. First of all my mum and family were shocked that I would be with a younger guy (since even my first boyfriend was considerably older than me - I was 16 and he was 19 - three years is alot at that age). They understood why I was with hubby when they saw our connection and the age difference has never been bought up since the beginning of the relationship. I feel fine about the little age gap - it really doesn't bother me what age someone is.... as long as they get my humour an I get theirs - that is a very important factor!
@bluishrose (2291)
• Philippines
15 Sep 07
My other half isnt younger than me but way older than me hehehe Our age difference is 19 years im 27 and he is 46, at first its kinda awkward for us seeing together but im glad he looks younger than his age. There were no issues or anything and we are getting along very well. No generation gap because both of us are openminded and adaptable to each other =)
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
15 Sep 07
My husband is almost eight years older than me. It was a big deal wayyyyyyyy back when I met him because I was really young but makes no difference now. However, I have to say the men I am "attracted to" are always younger than me. By attraction, I mean the ones I see on TV or whatever and think are good looking. I like guys in their early 30's (I am 43). But I am married to a guy older than me who could outrun, outwork, and out lift guys half his age. He is amazing in his ability to do so much. I can't keep up with him and don't try. He hikes, climbs mountains, runs in marathons, and never stops. Meanwhile, I feel about 80 at times as he is going, going, going. For us, the age difference isn't an issue at all. I wish he were a bit more liberal but I don't think that is age, that is just who he is now (He wasn't always conservative, that's for sure).
• Argentina
14 Sep 07
i have been in coulple for nearly 4 month! and is aweson!
@usmcsgtwife (5000)
• United States
14 Sep 07
yes I am about 12 1/2 months older then my husband
@forgenth (72)
• China
14 Sep 07
I am unmarried but I hold my ground that the man should older than the woman. But now I think that the couple's getting on well with each other is more important than the age.As you say.
• India
14 Sep 07
im still studying...but great to c your story...
@lightningMD (5937)
• United States
14 Sep 07
My husband is 5 years older than me. I dont think age matters in a relationship. It's the love and respect that matters in a relationship. Also the things you have in common and the effort you are willing to put into a relationship that makes it work. Congrats on being happy.
• India
14 Sep 07
MY HUBBY AND ME are if the same and we are good pals..i think age is not at all a factor in a good marriage it all the mentality which works in a relationship,
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
Yes, my husband is also younger than me, before, we really had issues,specially me, I just cannot accept the fact that I've fallen to a man who is younger than me, but like you we are best friends and we prayed for it,I do not have any regret marrying him,he is the best for me. That time,when we're still boyfriend/girlfriend, Telling my family about it is quite hard, I was afraid of what would they think..but it turned out the other way, they love him and have high respect for him too. As long as you "love" each other,age should not be a big deal.
@biggerb (2031)
• India
14 Sep 07
No my husband is older than me.But still i dont find anything wrong with a woman being older than a man.There is nothing in the age.Ofcourse i know society does not approve of an older woman with a younger man i really dont understand why.as long as they both get along well it should be fine.
14 Sep 07
my husband is 19 years younger than me.i am 42 and he is 23.we have been together for nearly 5 years and married for just over 1 year.i have a daughter the same age as my husband and and my 2 sons[20] and[18] all get on well with him. my family were very supportive as they could see we were very happy.my first marriage was violent,but now i am looked after and loved so deeply i have never felt so safe.we used to get looks in the street and people used to think my husband was my son,but we just laughed and put them straight.we are best friends as well as lovers and we couldn't be happier.
@jothis (519)
• India
14 Sep 07
Some years before the age difference was a major issue of thinking while marriage proposals. But now people are educated and the issue of age difference is not that much important now. Two people with understanding with each other can lead a family life even though there exists some age difference between them. You are the good example for that
@tanujarneja (2834)
• India
14 Sep 07
No am Not Married And am not a female But Yeah I have a Case My Real Sis Husband is Younger then my sis
• China
14 Sep 07
i am not married yet,not even got a boy friend. But a few days ago ,my friends and i played a game,the result is that i will marry a guy who is younger than me. At first,i feel strange about thinking my husband is younger than me. But now i change my mind, if he is responsible enough,we get along well .i think age is not important.
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
It's the other way around. I am 11 years younger than my husband. We have so many differences. hoping now that we may patch these differences.
@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
14 Sep 07
My husband is two months older than me. His birthday is in May and mime is in July. We went to the same high school but we didn't know each other until we were in our twenties.
@Calais (10905)
• Australia
14 Sep 07
My husband is eight years older than me...The age does not mean anything at all..We are happy and have a great family, thats what matters..
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
My husband is 5 years older than I am and I'm glad that he is older that me, since I need most of the guidance becaused I'm an only child so I need a matured husband. But, my mother is 10 years older than my father. Basically there's no difference in a wife being older or younger than her husband. It depends on the maturity of a person...