What is life like? What about life without friends, especially best friends?

China
September 14, 2007 1:05am CST
I have many nice and kind foreign colleagues as well as my my best foreign friends, and we always stay in touch with each other via emails and chatting softwares, etc. Just a few days, my good American friend arrived in Shanghai from South Korea on September 5th and came to our school the next day for a short visit. He stayed for nine days only, but he has to leave for Beijing for his new teaching job there today (September 14th, 2007). I am so happy for him to have got a new job in the capital city of China, which is a new challenge and adventure to him. I bless him from my heart and wish him happy with his new life and work there. I saw my friend off to the bus station to catch the 12:15 express to Hangzhou today. It was ok for me to see him off, but after I came back, I felt something lost in the heart. I couldn't help feeling so depressed, sad and upset for my friend's having to leave like each time when I have to leave my family and relatives. I don't like the feeling at all. You know, it is not easy for me and my foreign friends to see each other once we work in different places. Whenever I see my foreign friends come back for a visit, I am extremely happy to see them and when they have to leave, I just feel so depressed, upset and sad. I have been like this ever since I was a kid. I think that I am very emotional. What about you, my dear friends? Do you have the same feeling like I have today? You are welcome to share your view, please. Thank you in advance for sharing your view. Love from williamjisir.
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26 responses
@r_yuen (332)
• Indonesia
14 Sep 07
I can't imagine what my life will be without a friend. I like to make friends. It'll be so empty and meaningless if you live without a friend, a best friend I mean.. One of my best friend went to Paris few years ago. He is one of my best friend. We have been friends for about 20 years and we shared a lot of things together. But now, since he moved to Singapore, I'm really glad as we can meet each other finally. Oh... It has been 6 years since the last time I met him. Will be good if we can meet again. There's so many things we can tell...
• China
14 Sep 07
Friends are a necessary and important part in our life. Without friends, we would find ourselves lonesome as if we were living on a deserted island. I am glad to know that your best friend is now living closer to you so that you can see more often of each other. I have to say that it is true that we have so many things that we can share with our friends...Thanks for responding, r_yuen.
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@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
16 Sep 07
hello there friend! well, all i can say that life without friends are boring.. friends are a big help to us... they make us happy... and just like you friend, everytime i leave i feel emptiness inside, i feel sad that turns out to depression... i love my friends and i treasure the moments we are together... so its hard to be far apart from them... i know the way you feel at the moment
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• China
18 Sep 07
We have to face the reality that we cannot always stay together in the same working unit, the same city and the same country. Therefore we cannot often see each other and that is not what I expect. It upsets me though. Thanks for asking, friend.
• China
16 Sep 07
Hello, jHoEn. Thanks so much for your understanding. Friends are indeed a big help to us and make us happy. It would be very nice if all of the friends could work and live in the same city or the same place so that we can always see each other and talk to each other, but we have to face the reality...
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
16 Sep 07
what reality we should face friend?
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 07
I believe if life is too materialistic and passionless it is just plain an incomplete. Men are emotional creatures and therefore are apt to suffer from depression, deprived love as well as deplorable hatred inevitably. I do love intimate friends and always cherish the precious moment when being together. Sending off a close friend would feel rather sad especially if one has been experiencing some depression in life then. As a passionate man I am sure you are quite fascinated about the story of the famous poet of the Tang Dynasty, Baijuyi, sending his close friend off at the Xun Yang River at a late autumn evening. The falling maple leaves, the joyless drunk could make anyone fascinated passionately. The strong sentiment attached towards many of the old poems could really induce our feeling to sadness during departure. Dear friend, I deeply understand your feeling of sending friends off. I did experience before. Through generations, sorrowful departure will never end as long as men are unluckily born with emotions.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 07
I am not really to have great learning about Chinese as you said but I am quite interested in the language ever since from primary school. Our system here, we have government Chinese primary schools. Whereas in government middle Chinese schools Chinese language and literature are offered as elective subjects. I am lucky that I could receive such basic education and get to know bits of the refined and beautiful language enriched with much historical wisdom of our ancients. I admire the cultural atmosphere in your place. I believe you are good in this language and I am glad to learn more from you, Sir. Thank you.
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• China
18 Sep 07
my massager and wegh-lifting stuff - Hope I succeed this time in having this photo shown here. God bless me.
I am so glad that you love Chinese culture and you know so much about China. I would be happy to speak Chinese with you if next time you have the chance to visit China again with your husband. Make sure that you keep me informed about your arrival in China. I would be happy to see and chat with you in real if you come to pay a visit in Hangzhou as it is one hour from my small town in Anji, Bamboo Town in China. Thanks for your response.
• China
15 Sep 07
Good evening, lkbooi. I read your response with great interest, especially the part about the Baijuyi, the famous Chinese poet in Tang Dynasty. I cannot help showing greater respect to you for your great learning about so many things in China. To me, you are just like us Chinese, knowing so much about the way we treat our friends. Thanks so much for sharing your great ideas about life and friends.
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
18 Sep 07
LIfe without friends tends to get a little lonely. I have my family but there's still a part missing. There are just some things that we can share comfortably with friends but not with our family. I can't explain it but it's as if there's a different level of happiness when it comes to being with friends. My bestfriend from college, who now lives permanently in Wisconsin, USA, barely has the time to reply back to my e-mails. I try to understand her situation but sometimes, I still can't help but feel upset about it. Now, the only friend that I have communication with sometimes, lives many blocks away. We do try to get together sometimes and set aside some time. And the truth is, william, whenever I get to spend some time with my friend, I feel renewed and I get to feel a different kind of happiness. I am very happy with my husband and my son but my social life needs some tender caring too. That's why I still try to get back the communication with my old friends.
• China
18 Sep 07
It is a different level of happiness when it comes to being with friends. I think so and hold the same view as yours. Our social life experience tells us that we need to have friends and best friends.
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• Philippines
21 Sep 07
yes, and speaking of social life, I don't think I can call mine... normal. lol I don't go out with friends and I can't remember the last time that I did. I think it was still when my son was barely a year old and he's 4 years old now!lol
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• Malaysia
14 Sep 07
Hope you fine, my dear friend William. I will discuss with my enumerative explanation to each of your nice and well structured paragraph. Much thanks for your providing this subject of discussion. Indicating that you are not the "XENOPHOBIA" type of person as you have had many nice and kind foreign colleagues as well as your best foreign friends, and all of you always stay in touch with each other via emails and chatting softwares, etc.. I admire your unroue active and effective in enjoying high social standing and the mutual respect. The inter-connected impassible networking as well. Congratulations for your proven relationship with your good American friend, who stayed for nine days in Shanghai. I am delighted on reading your texts about so happy for him to have got a new job in the capital city of China, which is a new challenge and adventure to him. You are always at sky sincere, William. Because you bless him from the bottom of your heart and wish him happy with his new life and work there. Yeah, your great friendship feeling had gone deep into your blood and the blood veins, that was why you can't resist to stay watching or observing any of your beloved person leaving you. You was in deep "angel feeling", William. That kind of positive emotional feeling is not a talented but it live in your body due to your noble fostering attitude as soul and mind hugs each other to indicate that they are in equilibrium and synchronized. Salute to you, William. You have millions of mind and soul. About me? I'm learning from you now because I am a bad person for this kind of improving friendship. But I'm learning the shadow of friendship behind my business's leaf. Yes, I try my best to have the same feeling like yours, today? I respect your good life style, William and thanks for sharing with me your blissful moment.
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• China
14 Sep 07
To Dear Michael, You are really a very nice friend to be with. You always give each of the discussions to your friends' such a hearty voice. I read through your nice response from the beginning to the end with great and sincere interest. I love each word you wrote. I hope that you will never say that you are a "bad" person for this kind of improving friendship. You are not a bad person at all. To me, you are so nice and friendly to your Mylot friends because I can feel it from every word you wrote. You know, words stand for the soul of a person. I am very happy to have such a good friend as you, Michael. Thanks for your touching response and valuable time. I appreciate it very much. Have a good time, dear friend.
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• Malaysia
14 Sep 07
Your hope is my repent, deep thanks WILLIAM.
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@laurika (4532)
• United States
14 Sep 07
yeah I feel very similar.I have also all my best friends far from me and when I see them it is not very often.So when they leave I also feel sad and cry the most of the time. I cannot imagine my life without friends, they are so important for me.It s so easy to loose them and so hard to find them.I hoep those, who I have now will stay my friends forever.
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• China
15 Sep 07
There is no problem for you to have your friends stay friends with you since you value them in the heart. I am happy to know that I am not the only person that is somewhat emotional about friends' leaving for somewhere else to live and work. Thank you very much for sharing your ideas.
• China
16 Oct 07
It is true indeed that we feel something and our heart is full of love.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
27 Sep 07
I am sure it is hard for he most of us when our friend live , but you know what?It is good sign, we feel something and our hearth is full of love.
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25 Sep 07
I would be lost without my friends. I have a lot of friends scattered throughout the UK and abroad and keep in touch with them all either face to face or on the internet. My best friend phones me a couple of times each week to catch up and gossip, and I spend quite a bit of time online in the evenings at at weekends catching up with mates.
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• China
25 Sep 07
It is cool to have friends all over the country and abroad. I also come online to chat with my friends using some chatting messengers.
@subathra (3519)
• India
14 Sep 07
For me, life without friends is zero and a vague one to lead.I have so many friends way from my primary school and we still contact each other and meet in person whenever we find time.I share my problems with them , we chat for a long time when we meet and like you say its a sad feeling when we get away after the meet. we used to meet a lot till our college days and now everyone is either working or settled in life and we find very short time to spend when we get to gether.we always relish those memories we spent together whenver we talk and laugh to ourselves thinking of some funny incidents that happened. I think keeping in touch is more important in friendship.Thanks to the new technogly that has given the mobile phones which helps us to keep in touch with friends through quick text messages and offcourse to call whereever we go.
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• China
14 Sep 07
"Life without friends is zero and a vague one to lead". That's why we need to have friends in our life to make it sense. Our friends are part of our life. Thanks to the advanced technology, we are able to communicate with our friends wherever and whenever.
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• China
30 Dec 07
Hello dear subthra. Thanks so much for your great contribution to my discussion, which is considered to be the best response. I hope that the friendship we have already had here at mylot will last long and may the friendship between you and your friends be everlasting. You deserve the best response and thank you again for the nice response, dear subathra. Love from williamjisir.
@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Dec 07
I also have friends who go abroad. And you are right, it is not easy for us to see each other and especially when time goes by, people will change. After I am married and especially have a little child now, I feel that I can't spend more time with my friends as right now family seems to be the most important for me. Nowadays since there is an internet, at least we can keep in touch with each other easier than before.
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• China
30 Dec 07
Hello dear youless. What you said is true indeed, especially when friends are not working or living or staying in the same place. Then it is very difficult to see each other. What is the greatest thing that we have today is the invention of different kinds of communications means to help us with the contact with our friends and family. Thanks so much for your response, dear youless. Good night and Good morning as well as it is now 0:33 on December 31st. lol. Sweet dream.
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
18 Sep 07
as the old saying says nobody is an island. in short, we all need somebody else to interact withas a human being. this someone are people we call as friends. there are many kinds of friends that we meet. there are true and real friend, some acquiantance friend and most of them plastic friends. what will i feel with what you have just experience? of course i will be very happy and amazed imagine a friend that you have not seen for a period of time or a friend you have just met in the internet met with you face to face. of course, i will welcome them with a great smile and a welcome remarks chat a while with them. i know the feeling is really really great because deep down inside you never expected it to happen, this good thing. my friend sir william treasure every good relationship you have they are part of your greatest possesion as we live our life. gud day in mylot.
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• China
18 Sep 07
You have well given a definition of friends. Well, this friend of mine used to be my colleague and we have been very good friends and we have been helping each other as always. I consider mylot friends as my friends as well. If we could have the chance to see and later work with each other, we would be able to chat with each other to know more about each other to enhance the friendship already gained here on mylot. That would be a wonderful thing in life.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
18 Sep 07
Hi williamjisir, Life without any friends would be very lonely indeed. I just commented on a discussion about the world's oldest man, 112 years old. Asked if I would like to live that long, my answer had to be, only if my family and friends could live as well. Blessings.
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• China
18 Sep 07
I have the same feeling as you have. If our and friends could not live that long, there is no sense to live that long as well. It is not a good idea to live in the status of always missing those loved ones who are no longer with us if we are the only ones to live on. It makes us feel lonesome without them, but there is one more thing that needs to be stressed, ie, to value life, we must live on till we leave the world naturally.
@ssf12ster (488)
• India
18 Sep 07
nothing of a difference. see sometimes they may be of help.but in a mess they wont help you.also it is best to stay with family as they will be of tremendous assistance.yeha if you make overseas friends the feeling will be there if you lose them.that feeling will stay for some months and go away.i guess w have to move on.
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• China
18 Sep 07
It could be so when something is in a mess. Sometimes there can be the difference between friends and family. Anyway it is allowed to have this difference. Thanks for your response, ssf.
@ssf12ster (488)
• India
19 Sep 07
yes we feel messy sometimes i agree with you but we have to live them both sure i agee.. thanks
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• China
19 Sep 07
We have to live them both... Thanks for your response.
• China
25 Sep 07
If life without friends, it will no sense. Have many friends will have much things to do, we can go shopping with friends and tell something happy and unhappy things with friends. And also can go travelling with friends.
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• China
25 Sep 07
That is true indeed. Thank you very much for your response, new friend. Welcome to mylot, dear autumnchen.
• Malaysia
16 Sep 07
life without friends will be very lonely, i think. we need someone, friends, whom we can share our ups and downs with, go out with etc..i'll go mad if i have to be by myself all the time and don't have anyone to talk to or do things with. friends, especially true friends, complements our lives and makes it more colourful :) ..hope you feel much better and not missing your friend as much. you can always keep in touch, there are many means of communication nowadays :) take care!
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• China
16 Sep 07
Thanks you very much, kevsgirlalways. Yes, we can still send text messages to each other and use emails and Yahoo Messenger to chat with each other. I am feeling much better now. I appreciate your nice comments and time, friend.
@reanne (83)
18 Sep 07
'no man is an island'..... everyone of us.. juz can't live without someone accompanying her or him... your life is boring without friends...
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• China
18 Sep 07
It is absolutely right that no man is an island. We need to have friends and we need to socialize with people for friendship, without which we feel like someone living alone with no company and lonesome in the heart.
@MisterPlus (1915)
• Philippines
16 Sep 07
Best friends are hard to find. I established a relationship with my best friend and it was a wonderful experience to be with him in every journey I had. So hard to forget friends like him and he will always be here in my heart where ever he is now.I treasure every moment we had and I believe he is always here beside me to guide me and guard me. oh,, how I miss my best friend.
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• China
18 Sep 07
Best friends are like asset to us always. We cherish our friends for their friendship and have them in mind as always wherever we are.
@Se7enth (170)
• United States
16 Sep 07
One of my best friends is someone I met online 8 years ago. We have never met but have wrote, IMed, e-mailed and talked on the phone about everything under the sun. We have exchanged gifts over the holidays and she knows me as well as or better than anyone in my life. Lately our IMs have not been able to connect with each other which is our main use for communication. Technical problems have not been able to be fixed and it's been a while since we have been able to "talk" regularly. It's been rough when I want to tell her what's been going on or wondering how she has been. I'm use to chatting with her every night and now we are lucky to connect once a week. I can understand why you feel the way you after seeing your friends in person. It's not easy when you get use to having someone there to talk, joke, kid around with and they have to leave. Just enjoy the time you share and laugh about them together when you can. 7
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• China
16 Sep 07
It is really not easy to get to know someone online with meeting each other in person. I can see how the friendship between you is going on, because I have one friend who also met someone online and they have been very good friends for two years now. They are very happy for that and are trying to make it become true in real. Thanks for sharing your idea, 7.
@liji0989 (230)
• China
14 Sep 07
when there is shadow in front u,don't be scared,that is coz there is sunshine behind u.don't be sad for that
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• China
14 Sep 07
Thank you, friend. Yes, I won't be scared about the shadow in front and I believe that sunshine behind. I am happy to be living in the sunshine showering over me.
@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
15 Sep 07
All throughout my life, I've had pretty much the same 8 friends and I'd die without them, they mean the world to me. Yes sure we fight and have our moments, but without them I don't know what I'd do.
• China
15 Sep 07
Friends make us happy and relaxed, without whom life would be dull and interesting. Thanks for your response, gradyslady. Have a good time, friend.