RELATIONSHIPS
By vjbmakemoney
@vjbmakemoney (3)
United States
August 11, 2006 8:31am CST
I love my boyfriend but i feel we are not compatible we argue all the time. We have been seeing each other for 10 months and I still have not meet his family. He never buys little gifts or thinks that might make me feel special its all about him.. I ask him to look and see if he saw some earrings in the diamond district cause the ones i have must have been a ripe off and are not 18K I am allergic to 10 and 14k so he says no problem email me a picture of what you want. I did he had one more day in the discrict doing a class before returning to PA for work. That day he tells me well they didn't have quite what you wanted but low and behold i find out he had lunch with this chick. He never puts me as a priority and I am at the point that I really don't think this relationship is going to work
19 responses
@missyann73 (1454)
• United States
8 Sep 06
if you feel the way you do, move on girl!!! more fish in the sea than him. One that will treat you with respect and always, always put you first
@QnAQueen (555)
• United States
12 Aug 06
the mere fact that you mentioned your relationship is all about him and he never prioritizes you, plus the fact that he was out having lunch with someone else when he was supposed to be doing something for you does not really sound right. i'd say i think you deserve better. you should learn to value yourself more and respect yourself more.
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@slurner (2)
• United States
12 Aug 06
Take it from me sweetie- I've been down the aisle 3 times and I know what I am talking about... give the guy the boot! I know that sounds harsh,but you will find out someday that the old saying life is short is very true. Why waste your time on someone who lies, cheats and keeps you waiting? You deserve better, so go and find it. There are just too many guys out there to settle. Broken hearts DO mend- especially if you find that special guy. you'll never find him waiting and feeling sorry for yourself with this one.
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@ebberts (784)
• United States
13 Aug 06
Love and relationships are a two way street. Both parties have to give and recieve from the other to have a happy relationship. When one or the other is feeling left out and taken for granted. resentment can build toward the other person. You don't want to end up bitter, it can follow you the rest of your life. You deserve to be treated as well as you treat the one you care about. Some people are just self centered and no amount of trying can change them.
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@QnAQueen (555)
• United States
12 Aug 06
the mere fact that you mentioned your relationship is all about him and he never prioritizes you, plus the fact that he was out having lunch with someone else when he was supposed to be doing something for you does not really sound right. i'd say i think you deserve better. you should learn to value yourself more and respect yourself more.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
11 Aug 06
Before you just walk away from him, sit down and tell him how you feel. He may not realize how horribily he has been treating you and that you care how you are treated. If he doesn't shape up, then leave. You should not stay in a relationship that is not going to make you happy and you know will not work. You have to do what is best for yourself.
@cajunmomma (624)
• United States
26 Nov 06
I was in a relationship similar to yours. He would hardly call me. He never would compliment me or get me gifts. I say leave him. I found out 3 years after the fact that he was seeing another girl behind my back. I was sick to my stomach because the chick actually admitted it to me on the phone. I saw what she looked like and she is so gross looking. If you man is having lunch with another female then I feel he should have told you. If he can't tell you that he is having lunch wiht another female then apparently he is probably keeping other things from you.
@saket_123sharma (1063)
• India
26 Nov 06
first and the most important thing all here not to solve ur problem they are just here to make the time pass dont write so long and long if u r here to earn just be my friends and i give u the good tips i am from jaipur m 22 just tell me about u and add me to ur friends i help u personaly
@draguadryana (660)
• Romania
26 Nov 06
i have a wonderful friendship!!!i love my boyfriend!!!i like how i feel now!have a nice day!
@ipanks (890)
• Indonesia
27 Nov 06
hmm..your experienced is same as i am. but me girl friend have already to push and push me to comply with her. i can't do that again. now i suggest to her to walk away by alone
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
7 Jan 07
One thing you didn't tell is your ages. If he is 20 or older,chances are he is not going to change. It sounds like he has no respect for you or woman in general. It may be hard for awhile but you can find someone who will trat you better than that. Much better.
@naidugopal (941)
• India
12 Aug 06
Hi friend, there is no mutual understand between u both. So why don't you try to make him to know what u feel what u like n hate. Make him to know about u fully. As u said that ur releationship has been from t he last 10 months. Then why don't you have mutual understanding. Try to make him know your likes n dislikes, You do him the same. Then your releationship reveals a strong unity of u both.
@HARLANA (96)
• United States
12 Aug 06
If you feel you are not compatible then the signs of such may have been there from the very beginning and if you think back to how you to met that may help explain alot of what you are experiencing now. We so often want to ignore what is eating at our hearts in hopes of avoiding the truth about a relationship. Something is and has been missing for quite sometime with him and no matter what you try to do it will not change him. I do agree that if you feel talking to him about how you feel will get him to realize how he has been acting then by all means go for it but it seems the damage has been done and you seem to be more of a convience for him. You deserve better then that but only you know when enough is enough.
@d1sc0d1va (46)
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8 Sep 06
You only have 2 options. You either talk to him and tell him how he makes you feel. Remember there are always two sides to everything! The other option is to move on and find somebody else. Be carful though on what information you hold true. Unless he has admitted or you have seen for your self that he was out to lunch with another girl, it could just be a case of chinese whispers! Only you no whats best for you in your heart but think through your decisions carefully, you may come to regret them! Good luck and all the best.
@magnet (2087)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Ask yourself these questions. Why do I love him? Why do I love someone that I argue with all of the time? Is that fun? Is it fun to argue? Is this the way I want to spend the rest of my life? Why do I want to be with someone who never buys me anything or thinks about me or make me feel special? Is that all I'm worth? Now make your decision.
