Do you listen to your Daddy's days of struggle with patience?
By Bala
@balasri (26537)
India
11 responses
@subathra (3519)
• India
16 Nov 07
Offcourse i listen with much patience to his days of struggle with life.Indeed its one thing that has made me more respect towards him.He struggled with life in his very early years and not blessed with fortunate childhood days which he had given to his children.Many incidents remember me of my dads past and this has taught me how to adjust with life and people..his expeiance is a treasure for me and i preserve it in my memories and use them accordingly.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
16 Nov 07
Yes, I give him a patient hearing and try to learn from his experiences. His experiences also evoke interest and curiosity in me, there is no question of getting bore listening to his experiences. Our parents had tought time in comparison to our life.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
16 Nov 07
I wish when we grow older, our own children could listen to our advice and experiences.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
9 Oct 07
Bala,
I have always wanted my father to tell me tales of his childhood, growing up, struggle, compromises and eventually settling down. However, my father is not the story teller kind and for this reason alone we have grown up pretty protected from his childhood. My mother, however, tells us a lot about them, their struggles their survival and it's as precious as it gets. The hardships that they have faced have made them so strong, integrated, lovable, lingering and sensitive. They are smarter, lovelier and stronger than us in every sense of the terms.
Bala, this is one of the most thoughtful discussion I have ever found in myLot. Thanks.
@AnoChaudhary (1719)
• India
17 Nov 07
Hello Bala, i am Daddy's girl through and through and though my dad did not have much of a struggle i used to love hearing him talk about his younger days. His school and college life. And specially about the penpal relationship he and my mom had. There are about a thousand letters they exchanged!
@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
15 Nov 07
Ha Ha...Balasri, how did you come to know of my daddy's days of struggle?
He did struggle a lot in his early days, and now I'm struggling to listen to it. I recently finished listening to it for the 11334354665656557th time and from now onwards I'm planning pretending to be listening to it.
Incase, if he asks any questions in between, I've gotten all the answers by-hearted. I'll be on toes to answer them all.
@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
17 Nov 07
No, I honestly do not remember asking my father repeated questions in my childhood. I remember having spent all my innocent days as an introvertish child who kept all his problems to himself and suffered.
That was also the way I grew, keeping all my personal experiences to myself and also not expecting others to share their stories with me.
Unfortunately, that might be the reason why I do not understand the pleasure people get in being listened to.
But I see your point there, my dad will have listened and answered to me in my childhood, had I or if I've in fact asked him repeatedly.
I understand what you mean, balasri, I will force myself to listen to my Dad, atleast for his appeasement.:-)
@Monkeyrose (2840)
• Canada
20 Nov 07
Ugh.. My dad has never been the best at stories. He tells you every little detail and goes on and on in a monotonous voice. When we were young we always had to have dinner together so we could tell us about each others day.. Pretty much he'd just tell us all about his.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
10 Oct 07
Actually I have. He doesn't nag us about it or tell it when he is trying to discipline us. He usually talks when something comes up in the newspaper or when something similar comes up on television. We really appreciate all that he has done and learnt quite a lot from his efforts. I think we are able to appreciate it because he speaks of it NOW and not when he was going through the struggle. He never let us know anything when we were younger and we always heard it as stories when we were growing up. That helped us learn from it.
@Springlady (3986)
• United States
8 Oct 07
I'm sorry to say that my dad is always complaining about something, so I've gotten to the point I do brush it off. He hates everything and everyone. He is the most negative person! It's hard being around someone like that.
I do love my dad and I do pray for him, but he can help himself if he wanted to!
@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
8 Oct 07
Balasri, my dad did not have any days of real trouble in his life, so no, haven't heard any of it. i did enjoy when his father was telling me about the 2nd world war and his partecipation in it, and the rebuilding of the country afterwards, and the struggle people went through than.
From his father (my grand father's dad) I always wanted to hear about the 1st world war, and his dog, which name I still remember :) So yes, I always enjoyed such talks with my grand dad's
TheFortunes
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
17 Nov 07
Yes, I love to listen to my parents and my grandmother's stories about their past. I just want to know how they live before and what's the difference to what I am in right now. I learned a lot especially their experiences during wars and stuff like that.
@ganga472007 (624)
• India
16 Nov 07
Yes. I have great respect to my Father.His way of narrating his experience had impressed me and shaped me. I have never brush it off as a bore.
