If you found out that your family member is positive?
By kwenge
@kwenge (2487)
Kenya
6 responses
@19ewf84 (461)
• Austria
29 Jan 08
What do you mean with "ask them"?
To ask if they are HIV+?
However... It doesn't matter to me if its my brother, sister, mother, father, grandmother, friend,... he/she is still the person I knew and I will not treat him/her different because of it. Like not hugging anymore or whatever.
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@19ewf84 (461)
• Austria
30 Jan 08
Okay, thanks for making it right.
You know.. my english isn't thaaat good so I do missunderstand some stuff sometimes ;-) Or at least I'm not sure what the other one wants me to say/ask/...
I guess I would ask if it's true. On the other hand I might not ask directly if you know what I mean.. like talking about HIV or so...
It's not easy to answer though..
Since I don't have a brother or sister I can't tell.
It depends on the relationship you have with your brother/sister I guess..
@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
30 Jan 08
No, I did not mean to ask if they are HIV+, I meant, will you ask them if what you are hearing is true and why you did not tell us as family members? Or will you just pretend you did not hear anything?
For me I will not forsake them just because they are positive........I will treat them as usual.
Thanks.
@lonelymindstir (3)
• China
18 Oct 07
no, tell their doctors and friends, in fact, hiv is not an issue. It should be treated as equal. if they feel ashemed or depressed, there are many hiv/herpes support group out there, where they can talk about the confidential condition that they never talk with other out of there. I met many great friends on http://herpesmates.com
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@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
19 Feb 08
I work ask why they hadn't told me themselves. I'd be angry that they hadn't told me, even though they were sick.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
29 Jan 08
I would try to make myself realize it wasn't "personal" that I learned it from someone else. Often when someone keeps something like that from loved ones it's to protect them from hurt and worry. I'm not sure if I'd confront them and let them know that I knew, it would depend on the person and my relationship with them. No matter what I would respect their wishes and try to make them feel that they're not "different" because they have this condition, which can be successfully treated for years these days.
Annie
@WiseReptiles (854)
• United States
18 Oct 07
That is a hard question there to answer. If its family they would usually tell family members first and you would not find out from a third party. I have a friend of the family who is HIV+ and he is living a normal life and the medication that he is on has it under control. But to answer your question if I found out from a third party I would bring it up to my family member since I had to find it out from someone else and not them. It would be worse hearing it from someone else and not them.
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@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
19 Feb 08
Well hello Kwenge.. how are you doin?? Love this discussion..
Well anyways, if you found out that one of your family members is positive of this virus.. well never be quiet I mean lets not condemn those victims coz i bet they never want what happened to them Lets just give them a helping hand or some encouraging words to lighten them up and give them the comfort they best need in times like this.
