Should the friends have common interests only?

@deserve40 (1643)
October 21, 2007 6:29am CST
Most of us feel that the people of common interest will become friends very fast. If the intersts of the two people are not matching, then they may not be able to become good friends. That is the common theory. However, we also find some exceptions. One I have seen is like this: During my college days I used to represent my college in different tornaments of Table Tenis and Badmington. I had a good friend and competitor whom I could never defeat in Table Tenis. He was very good player. He had a friend who would be present only during the match of this guy. Otherwise his friend would be sitting outside the hall and doing something else. I was surprised how these two people could become friends as one was a keen sportsman and the other one had no interest in sports...! My sister was a good artist. So I accompanied with her in some cultural programmes. There I found this sportsman and his friend again together. Here the picture was different. The sportsman would be outside the hall when his friend was not performing. Otherwise they were found together. I asked the sportsman about this contrast of interests and friendship. He said that they were room mates. And just like family members support each other they were supporting each other. Have you come across such cases...Please contribute you experience.
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6 responses
@pedowii (39)
• China
21 Oct 07
Hi deserve40. Of course not.We are friends.But he and I are also special individuals.How can i require my friend to be a copy of mine? Common interests are important,but we also need to have our own characteristics.
@ssh123 (31100)
• India
6 Nov 07
I have friends but they do not have any interest in areas where I have interests. But still they participate in the conversation and give their suggestions and tips. Similarly I reciprocate. Good friends need not have common interests, though it is quite helpful.
@zidlore (251)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
No. I have many good friends that like what I hates. When I think about these situations, the Law of Magnetism always crosses my mind. Unlike poles attract while like poles repel.
@cripfemme (7715)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I don't think it's healthy to only be friends with people who are like you; you need diversity to be well balanced I think.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Though i think that friends should have SIMILAR interests I also think that being different is very important too..Majority of my dearest friends and I are very much alike but we all have our different hobbies, opinions, thoughts, beliefs etc as well and really I think the combination is one of the things that keeps us so tight ya know.....Our similarities blend but our differences compliment each other too if that makes sense
@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
21 Oct 07
Hello, with my insperience I can tell you that I have only friend who do not share the same interests like me!!I lake gardening,fishing or cooking but none of my friends share the interests with me!!We are a very good friends from kindergarten and we all have a different interests!!Warm regards Silvana