Do you have a big family with lots of kids?

United States
October 22, 2007 10:24am CST
I only have one child, but I hope to have more someday. My whole life, I've dreamt & daydreamt of having five or more children. I think it would be so much fun to have a big family! So much to do, and all the kids would have lifelong friends built-in, right at home! If you have a big family, please tell me about it! What are the good points & drawbacks to having lots of kids?
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@lothlor (32)
• South Africa
23 Oct 07
My dads a family of 5 and mother a family of 6 so its amazing during the holidays when we all get together!!!
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@teddymeyn (607)
• India
22 Oct 07
no my family consist of dad, mom , bro n me.... and ma pup kippo
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
22 Oct 07
We adopted two boys, now grown, because I could not have any after marriage. I wish I could have had six kids. To me that would have been the perfect number. I asked God for that, and I had the feeling that if I asked HIM not to give me more than two, HE would have obliged. That is the rub. Many of my friends have three or more kids, not all at once, and I find that they can really handle newborns, because unlike me, they have had recent practice.
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@Cortney (3986)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I dreamed about having a larger family, but due to complications when i had my daughter, it was not safe for me to have more kids. And, Financially, it would be hard to addopt with all the lawyer fees. We have looked into being foster parents for the younger children. I know it will be hard to not get attached, but well worth it to give a child a home that really needs love and attention that we can give.
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@paulsy (1264)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
I belong to a big family. My dad got married the first time, and had two sons. Unfortunately, their mother passed away when they were still very small. Then my dad got married again, and I am the eldest. With my mom, we are 8 children. Except for my youngest sister who lived with my aunt in the US, we all grew up together, even with our stepbrothers. It was noisy and the house was full of life all the time. Christmas and holiday seasons were always fun because everyone looked forward to opening gifts from Santa after midnight. My dad was a disciplinarian and he disciplined each and everyone of us. No one was exempted from the rules. We were happy, but we were not financially stable. My dad insisted that we all studied in private schools, even if he wasn't earning enough to support everyone's education. My grandmother was helping out. She hated my dad's principles, but she never insisted that we transfer to public schools. She helped out all the way. We were simply very fortunate to have a grandmother who loved us so much! I think that having a big family is fine, it's happy. But before deciding to have one, we have to be ready for the expenses. Not only do the parents have to sacrifice a lot just to provide for the needs of every child, even the children need to sacrifice when the money or food is not enough and they can't help having certain needs or still being hungry.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I do'nt have a big family at all. I have only one child and my husband has two kids from his former marriage. We don't get to see them but maybe twice a year if that. My parents only had two children, sometimes I wish I had more siblings like sisters that I could share more feminine things with, but my brother is ok too hehehe. Both of my parents came from large families. My dad had one brother and 5 sisters and my mom had 2 twin brothers and 4 sisters. My mom and dad used to tell me all kinds of stories about their child hood. It sounds like they had a lot of comraderie with their siblings. Sometimes I wonder if I am missing out lol!
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@stacyv81 (5905)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I always wanted 4 or 5 kids too. right now I have a 4 year old boy a 1 year old girl & baby #3 on the way! It is a lot of fun, but a lot of work, but well worth it! My family is still young so I dont really have too much experience to tell you about but I love my kids, my family & I love to watch the bonds being built between them, as an only child myself it is a wonderful experience for me! =)
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@joyce959 (1562)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
I only have 2 kids, both boys. Earlier, I wanted to have a girl, but now that I am older, I guess my 2 boys are enough. It's hard to have more children nowadays when the cost of living and sending them to schools are getting higher and expensive. My parents reared 6 children and it was a lot easier at that time when the prices of commodities and cost of education are not that high compared today. My other siblings are located or living and working somewhere in other countries. So when my parents got sick, they are not here to take care of our parents, it is I who always take care of them because I am near them. It is happier when families are closely knit and stay together, but then again some problems occur too for some, due to jealousy, quarrelling, etc.
@raulgc01 (306)
• Philippines
22 Oct 07
I you are economically sound, there is no drawback of having a big family. I'm not that economically sound, that is why I only have four children. If I was, I would like to have ten. Truly the children are the joys of ones life. I hope you can have more.
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@ddlaurie (132)
• Canada
22 Oct 07
Hi there I do not have kids of my own but I babysit 4 kids who are brothers and sister, yes they have long term friends but they do have problems of there own to being in a big family they all want attention at once from there parents. good luck with your children.
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@williamjisir (22905)
• China
23 Oct 07
Same here. I also have one child as we are not allowed to have more than one because of the one-child policy. But I prefer to have two if possible as it is better to have two for more fun though it cost more to raise one more child. I am wondering that we are sure to feel lonesome when we are old as we have only one child and will later have one grandson. There is no other way but we have to stay this way...
• Canada
23 Oct 07
That just seems sad to me. I'm sorry you can't have more. How do they enforce the policy, if you don't mind me asking? Are people fined for having more then one? I have 4 kids and I can't imagine having one (actually, I never did, I started out with twins).
• China
23 Oct 07
By enforcing the policy, you will be fined if you have one more with a lot of money. So we have to be self-conscious to mentain to have one kid, for residents in the city. But country fellows are allowed to have two if their first child is a girl, which is in five years. That's to say, five years later, they can have another one. Because men are needed in the country to do more physical work, I guess, in the field. Hope that you have some general idea of it now. Thanks for asking, dear friend.
• Canada
24 Oct 07
Thanks for answering my question. I have wondered about that. Youe hear about the one child policy from time to time (in school, or in the media at times), but it interesting to see how it works from someone who experiences it.
@youless (90126)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Oct 07
I don't have a big family. I have one child only. I think it's better to have two children at home and I don't want more because it is not easy to take good care of them well.
@Darkwing (21588)
23 Oct 07
I just had the two boys, but my Mum was from a family of seven kids, two brothers and four sisters, so I always wanted at least five. Sadly, that didn't happen but that's life... I obviously wasn't meant to have any more. Christmas's used to be great... we'd all congregate at my Grandmother's home... all her sons and daughters, and their spouses and kids, apart from the one who was lost in WW2, that it. There were real candles on the real Christmas tree, and we had a great time. Before lunch, all the menfolk would go down to the local Social Club for a pint together, and after lunch, we used to sit and play games. It was great being a part of that big family, and I suppose what made me wish for more of my own children. Brightest Blessings.
@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
23 Oct 07
It is nice but not fun to have a big family!!I have 5 kids,it is better to say 5 girls between 27 and 21 and I have 2 grandsons and 2 sons in low!!We all live together in my house but on separate floors!!Lot of kids is big responsible,you have to be sure that you can put your life in new dimension and start to live only for children!!Do never think what you need think what your children need!!Warm regards Silvana
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
23 Oct 07
At this time I have two little kids but me and my husband think maybe in the next coming year, another baby would be nice for us. After those two ones go to school.
• Canada
23 Oct 07
I have 4 kids right now, and we would like 2-4 more, depending on how many more I can have due to my past pregnancies and deliveries. We would also like to adopt a child as well in there. Currently, I have 4 1/2 year old twins, a 2 1/2 year old and a 7 month old (almost 7 months). We love it. It's busy some days, crazy, but mostly it is just a lot fo fun! The more kids you do have, I think, it is harder to find time to yourself, but you do. YOu have a lot of laundry with 4 kids :)! Most important, to have a larger family, you really need to have a supportive partner. Also, plan ahead, financially, especially. Get rid of student loans, extra debt, etc. We planned on a large family, and waited for awhile. Then when we did start to try, it didn't happen and we couldn't have kids. That was hard, really hard. We saw a specialist, and luckily I had an easy enough problem to fix, and haven't had trouble conceiving since my initial round of clomid (which). My last two pregancies I conceived on my own. I tell people we choose to ahve a large family. I am not a believer in no-birth control as some parents of large families are. If for some reason, we were not able to cope emotionally, financially, etc, with any more kids, or I couldn't have anymore, we wouldn't. It's a re-evaluation after each one.
• India
23 Oct 07
Hi, I have two kids and ours is a joint family, (i.e., I stay with my parents and a brother, even he is married and he has two kids) we all stay together in one house. That is why it is a big family of ours.All of us are busy throughout the day and at the end of the day all of us meet together and have a nice time. That is the time we enjoy ( as you were feeling). You are right a big family will be in a position to enjoy a lot of benefits and there will be a lot of moral support.
@michfroi (413)
• Philippines
23 Oct 07
sori but i only have 2 kids, a girl and a boy...and i dont want to have a big family coz ive been into that situation... i mean i grew with my parents, grandma, aunts,uncles, cousin... its not good to be with other relatives, i dont if what is the feeling you have a big family of your own
• United States
23 Oct 07
We have six children and for the most part it is always a blast. However....there are many upsets that we never planned for. Examples...when four of them have a baseball game in different places and we can only be at one a piece which leaves 2 of them out. Trying to decide what to eat for dinner, don't EVER ask because you always get 6 different answers. Christmas cost a FORTUNE, lol nowadays $500 barely buys a decent Christmas for a child (when they are older like ours 9-19) try $500 x 6 kids = $3000 and thats just for them, then u add all of the relatives, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters and parents......it is financially exhausting. But as I said at the beginning they are almost always a blast!!!!
@shovmama (31)
• United States
23 Oct 07
I am the only girl with 5 brothers. Unfortunately, I'm stuck right in the middle with 2 older, and 3 younger, and every one of them are bigger than me and always have been. I am a firm believer that NO girl should EVER have that many brothers. No girl should even have one older brother so if your child is a boy, PLEASE stop there! Just kidding, but growing up with that many brothers was absolutely no fun. We weren't friends at all, in fact, every single thing was a constant battle in our house. Too much testosterone I guess! Even now that we are all adults (except for the youngest, he's 17), we aren't very close. But I do know that one of my bros would do anything for me and is still VERY over-protective!!