Do long distance relationship really works?
By ladykristinn
@ladykristinn (179)
Philippines
13 responses
@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
Why did you say no? Do you have an experience on long-distance relationship and it doesn't work? Don't you trust your partner? Don't you think its a test how deep your commitment with each other.
Though I must admit 85% of long-distance relationship don't work but there are some that work like me.
@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
Yes you are right. Gossip is really an a$$. I deal those gossips by confronting him about the matter. And I just don't believe his word, I validate and double-check if what he is saying is really correct. I might sound like a detective but I am just making sure because we can't afford to make our guard down.
@fiona08 (454)
• United States
31 May 08
If I had been asked this question a few months ago, I would have said they work out for some people, but I would never want to be in one. Now I find myself in a long distance relationship of my own, caring for someone so much I have a constant ache for him. Neither of us have the means to narrow the distance anytime soon. I hope with all I have that it works out for us.
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@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
1 Jun 08
I hope that your relationship will work like how my relationship work. Just bear in mind trust, love, and constant communication is the key. That's how our relationship worked out.
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@feralcat (426)
• Canada
1 Jun 08
The relationship I am currently in began as a long distance one. It was that way for nearly two years but now we are living together and we have been together for eleven years.
It was hard. I often wondered if it was worth the loneliness at times but in the end it was all worth it. 11 years later and still going strong but it took a lot of commitment but I knew this is what I wanted and the person I wanted to spend my life with.
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@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
2 Jun 08
All relationship takes hard work but being in a long distance relationship takes it to another level. But at the end of the day if all the hardships and sacrifices makes you love your partner even more and the happiness is incomparable, its worth it.
I am very happy to hear that you're going strong. I hope we can also reach 11 years.
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 08
I've been in a long distance relationship before. No doubt it was very hard, especially with the time difference. i have no idea how i survived that, but i did. drove me nuts at times and made me cry too. but there are many means to keep in touch; telephone, email, IMs, digi cam..etc. i missed him a lot, every single second and wish i could see him or for him to be physically there with me, whenever i was sad or happy. you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries;).
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@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
1 Jun 08
Being in a long distance relationship, I view it as a test on how strong your love for each other. I always say that eventhough you are always together but if you're partner still have the desire to cheat on you, he will do that. It will be more burdensome. What I want to say is that whether you're near or apart if your partner really wants to cheat, then the distance won't be a hindrance.
If your partner stays to stick only with you even in a long distance relationship, then that's proof I guess that your love is true.
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@missberlee (467)
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28 Oct 07
I was in a long distance relationship with a guy that was in the RAF. He was away quite a lot and only managed to come home 2 weekedns per month at best.
At first, I found it quite easy to get used to. I sort of adjusted to him not being around, but after a while, rumours started and I started to doubt his fidelity.
I found it really hard to trust him, and I never seemed to get a straight answer from him. To be honest, I think I made myself paranoid, with all the things everyone was saying to me and I turned every little thing around so that it make sense and he was cheating.
Personally, I think long distance relationships only work if you have a very high level of trust and respect for each other. They do work, I hav friends that have been in long distance relationships for years, and they are perfectly happy. For me though, it wasn't right and I couldn't handle it!
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@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
28 Oct 07
I am sorry to hear that. I guess you are right, trust is very important not just in long distance relationship but relationships in general. Love alone is not enough to make a relationship work.
I am in a long distance relationship. In just a few months, we're going to celebrate our 4th year anniversary. It is not an easy road. There are obstacles and trials but as long as both parties are dedicated to make the relationship work, it can work. We have to make sacrifices. There are times I want to strangle him when I am angry (hehehe). And for sure he feels.
People say that long distance relationship don't work and I am glad that there are other long distance relationships that also work.
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
for me it's not. you won't be able to see each other if you want to and you might not be able to track him whatever he does. you'll miss him very much and you'll get love sick for that
@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
I would like to ask if do you keep track whatever your boyfriend does?
Won't he get irritated with that? Doesn't trust needed in a relationship?
@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Hehe. Then it is really difficult to have a long distance relationship with that type of guy. As a matter of fact even if it isn't a long distance relationship, it is difficult to have any kind of romantic relationship with that type of guy.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
he's always lying on me whenever i keep tracking on him lol
@merlin_002 (54)
• Canada
1 Jun 08
Indeed a good question. OK. Here is what I think, long distance relationship will work if both persons will do their best to keep up with each other. Usually, this happens that when you are not together, you will first start to miss each other and if you do not communicate at that time, you will start losing interest in the relationship. Then, you might get busy in your own life and forget about that person. So, conclusion is that if both are sincere to each other they will work out the relationship by themselves. In the end I just want to say that "To clap, you should put both your hands together, you cannot clap with one hand". Hope you understand.
@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
Yes, I agree with you. As they say, "It takes two to Tango". This also applies to relationship. If only one person is willing to make sacrifices it won't make the relationship work. Even if the person givers his/her 200% effort, it won't make the relationship work. Love is not enough for long distance relationship. We also need trust, faith and constant communication.
@wagster41 (210)
• United States
1 Jun 08
I have, a couple of them, I live in the states and met them both in austrailia. differnt times of course. well the first one never worked out but we did write each other for a couple of years and just drifted apart i guess. the second one which i still care for has just gotten tired of me not being there. it is so hard when yo are that far away from each other to continue in a true relationship other than being pen pals. and the internet has made it so easy to meet people from all parts of the planet. so when travel actually gets cheaper (which i dont see in the far future) then we have to try to get our mates a little closer together distance wise. thanks for letting me share
@ladykristinn (179)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
Long distance relationships are fine to some people and others don't. I have a couple of friends that can't deal with long distance relationships. Maybe it is a case to case basis. I have a few friends that at first didn't believe that long distance relationship works but they fell deeply in love to the person to the point that they can't imagine being with another person, then they started believing in it. Plus prayers for me helped a lot too. I am a devoute Catholic by the way.
@celticeagle (159982)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Jun 08
I don't think they do. You would have to have alot of strength in a relationship before it ever would.
