Not invited to his big banquet...

@foxyfire33 (10009)
United States
October 29, 2007 2:50pm CST
My s/o has his awards banquet dinner coming up next week. He placed 4th in points in racing so he's going to collect his awards and money. He bought two tickets for it (he could have gotten as many as he wanted). I pretty much assumed I would be going since I am the one that's stood behind him in racing and sacrificed for his "hobby"...He's NOT taking me though. He's decided he wants to take the guy that helped him get through the season and loaned him parts. I understand to a point, I mean he never would have finished 4th if that guy hadn't helped out so much BUT I also thought I was his partner and that we should enjoy this honor together. Besides it's a nice night out and I thought it would be good for us. How would you feel if your significant other left you at home and took someone else to a big event like that? Even if it really was just a friend he/she was taking? Do you think I have the right to be bothered by this?
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
29 Oct 07
Yes I would be annoyed. I'm sure everyone else is going to take their significant other to the banquet as well. If he wanted to invite his friend, why not get more tickets so you could go to? its a celebration you would want to be part of right? I know I would and would be probably be more than annoyed if my husband didn't invite me to this special celebration. Luckily, my husband doesn't like to go anywhere without me so he always asks me first. I'm sorry that this has happened to you and I think you should let him know how you feel about it.
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I would be upset. He could have at least given you the option whether you wanted to go or not. My 8 year old son races and if he ever gets the opportunity to receive awards at a banquet, I would want to be there for it.
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@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
I would be very disappointed and I will definitely pick a fight with my significant other. His reasoning does not hold water because he could have bought more tickets if he wanted to bring some other people. I think you have the right to feel what you feel and I think you really should give the S/O a piece of your mind!
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• United States
30 Oct 07
Had I stood behind and cheered him on I would feel sad that I wasn't going. If he could've gotten more tickets why didn't he get 3 more and let his buddy invite a date and he take you? That would've been more reasonable in my book. But then, I have friends that have the same problems and he does the same stuff. Maybe its genetic.
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@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I can understand your hurt feelings...this must have come as quite a shock to you...however, I am sure that in his mind he did not intentionally hurt you...I am sure that he is caught up in the "moment of glory".... I have a brother who races...he does this every weekend and spends multiple hours working on his car and getting parts and interacting with other guys who are into the same thing....his poor girlfriend...she tolerates this extremely well...as I would not...so I have a glimpse into the time and energy that is required to participate in this "hobby"...lol Have you told him how you felt about this? Did he look like a guilty little boy who was caught doing something wrong? I really do not think that he hurt you purposely, but I also think that he needs to be made aware of your feelings...because if you keep it inside...it could cause irreputatable damage later on in your relationship... I wish you the best, my friend....