meeting your ex

Philippines
October 29, 2007 7:51pm CST
Are you prepared for this? What if by accident you meet your ex. What then? I saw a lot of people who are not comfortable meeting their ex. I dunno the real reasons but i do have expeculations.
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
30 Oct 07
i dont have any ex, but sure it give u awkward feelings as he/she was person u attached sso much feeling, so much expectations and suddenly they all go to drain all sweet dreams vanish so its hard to meet it as it remind u old good days and pain of breaking this relation. thats all otherwise its ok to meet them
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Good for you for having no ex for the moment. But as soon as you have already, just make it sure to end the relationship in a nice way.
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
6 Nov 07
Hmm, u r very right, every relation, if u end up closing it, must be closed nicely as world is reall small, u neber know when in future u met this person or u might need that person true take care
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• Philippines
17 Nov 07
Your point is crystal clear.
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
hmm nice topic i can relate to your discussion friend.. me and my x-bf did not see each other for 1 year and 10 mos..when we met after that oww really shocking i find him very handsome..well, we say hi and hello just as usuall conversation ek-ek..huh..but i really feel i miss him so much..i want to hug him but cant anymore because he is with his new gf now..of course i did not feel comfortable..i was really hurt but right now im trying to focus on something who can help me forget my past..i have my suitor right now but my love for my x is still there..huh..but thats life..life must go on..
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• Philippines
30 Oct 07
That is saddening to know. Hope you find a new love very soon.
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
right now i have a suitor and im beginning to like him..hmmm..hopefully i will love him also as much as i love my exxxxxx...huh..
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Good luck! Hope it will work out this time.
@williamjisir (22902)
• China
30 Oct 07
I met my ex-gf only once after we broke up, which was more than ten years ago, but no more. We didn't say anything to each other as if we were two strangers though I was still missing her. I have always been hoping to meet her and for sure I would say hi and talk about something more with her though I know that it is not possible for us to have the chance to see each other as we work in two different cities and it is so far away from each other. That is only a dream.
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Who knows, by God's grace, you meet again and perhaps build another relationship.
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• China
6 Nov 07
hehe, I just hope so to continue the dream in the dark. lol. Thanks for your response.
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• Philippines
17 Nov 07
Nothing is impossible.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
17 Nov 07
Me and my ex had a very messy breakup. We were fine being friends after the first two weeks but outta no where he started to be really mean.. we lost all contact and he talks bad about me all the time. I recently foound out he has a new girlfriend that lives near me..even tho his ecxuse for breakup was that he didnt want a long distance relatinship. I would like to be friends with the guy.. but everything having to do with him makes me feel sick. Hes not nice and just wants to hurt me..so i get a horrible HORRIBLE feeling in my stomach everytime i see him.. see his name pop up on msn.. or hear about him adn what hes up to. It all depends on how messy the breakup is. Some people are lucky to be able to have good friendships with their exes.. while other just cant handle it. I wish he would growup sometimes soon.. feels like a waste of time.
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• Philippines
21 Nov 07
I understand how it feels. Just go on and never think of him again.
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
17 Nov 07
I would be horrified to meet my ex, because I had to get away from them because it was a very abusive one! My ex threatened that if he ever saw me again they'd kill me and that is no joke, I had to report them! Thankfully I moved well away it has put me off relationships for life, for my own safety and sanity I will stay single till I die.
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
You must be serious! I hope your ex won't see you.
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
14 Nov 07
I do meet them but yah, i dun see the reason or the need for such actions... I dun even think its necessary... =) Well, its just me...
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• Philippines
17 Nov 07
Maybe it depends on the personality of the person.
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
at the early period of their break up, lovers wouldn't be too comfortable to see each others. maybe because the feeling is still there, there's still pain and heartache. you wouldn't be comfortable to see the person who hurt you or you have hurt. but when enough time had passed, enough for the two of them to get over their feelings and finally forgive each other and forget what happened, they would be comfortable to see each other. as for me, I have long forgotten my exes but I think i'd be a little shy when I see one of them suddenly. ^__^;; I don't know why but I guess because I will always hold them special in my heart. ^__^ but I can treat them as friends.
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• Philippines
17 Nov 07
Yes, maybe the special feeling you once had makes it uncomfortable seeing each other again. But if you already overcome everything, then we can befriend our exes.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
5 Nov 07
When i met my ex when i was with my son, i really want to smack him in the face. But i dont want to be that violent because when i saw him i had flashbacks on what he did to me and hurt me like hell.
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Oh, that's a saddening thing to know. Hope you will already forgive him and go on with your life.
@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
31 Oct 07
A year or so ago I ran into my last ex. I had thought many times what I'd do if I saw him, how I'd feel or react. To be honest, I felt sorry for him. When he saw me all the color seem to leave his face, it was kinda funny. I asked him if we could chat for a second, (we were both waiting to be seated at a resteraunt) I asked my spouse if it was ok if I went outside to talk and then we did. I told him that at first I was really hurt and angery with him for how he treated me and what he'd done, but then I thanked him. I told him if it hadn't been for him doing what he did and being that way then I would have never had the oppertunity to meet the wonderful man I am with today and that would just suck. I thanked him for giving me the oppertunity to be able to compare what it feels like to think you're loved and to know you're loved. Because of him I found true love and hapiness and if he hadn't been such a jerk I never would have found my spouse. So I guess I owe him one lol.
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
That is avery kind act you've done. Hope he realized too how you helped him in one way or the other.
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@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
30 Oct 07
Hello,I have no exactly ex,like ex husband but when I was a young girl i had a 2 years long relationship with some young boy!!I was in love but after some times we decided to be only a friends!There is no problem we are still very good friends!!Only problem is that I live in a small community and my ex boyfriend became a very famous singer here!!People like to ask me about him and sometimes i can see that my hubby rally don't like that kind of conversation!The worst thing is that my ex boyfriend have a song with my name!!We all have our past and we have to live with it!!Best Regards Silvana
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Good thing you were able to befriend your ex.
@bscon5 (17)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Hello i just want to say that i have a ex that i run into every once in a while which i have a son with and he is very scary person to me. So when i run into him i do get very uncomfortable in which he doesnt see or have nothing to do with his son. but other ex's it does'nt bother me. So to me i would have to say that it depends on what type of things you go through with your ex to say if it is comfortable or not.
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
It really depends on the kind of relationship you share with your ex.
• India
30 Oct 07
I am prepared to meet my ex...n i have no problems in meeting her.....expectations are only kept from those whom you love ....but not from those whom you dont......so i dont think its any use of expecting anything.....and any ways....i'm happy in my life without my ex.....n no one in the present with lot of time for friends and family.....n for myself too...
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
I understand how you feel. No need to feel anything really if you are no longer in love with your ex. but sometimes we can not help to get exciterd, surprise or happy.
• United States
30 Oct 07
I haven't seen my ex in over 10 years.I don't even know where he lives anymore.I proably would feel weird if I was to meet up with him again.
• Philippines
6 Nov 07
That is the common feeling almost everyone experiences when meeting thier ex.
@hyzz1982 (1040)
• China
30 Oct 07
no, i never met her again after we divorce. i miss her all the time. i remeber i buy food for her ,get water for her , have lessons with her , .... i dreamt her many times , i told her ,but she didn't like me. i know that. so ,we were over forever. she 's name is ...
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
I know how it feels. i hope you get over her.
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
Yes, I have experienced that. I am always prepared for that.As you have said my ex, I dont see anything wrong with that unless you have gone separate ways without closure... Its either he did something bad or the other way around. But, with my ex, we always end up fixing things... so when we see each other its more of a simple hi and how are you... done!
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
It is always nice to go own seperate ways with ease and peace of mind.
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
One of my fear before is to see my ex boyfriend. We broke-up 2 years ago, after our break-up no chances to see each other by accident or whatever. Before I went out of the country I told send him a SMS telling that I'm just nearby around his place. Then he wanted us to meet. I was having second thought of not to meet him. I don't know how will I act in front of him or how will I treat him. I afraid to see him again. But still it happened, we met. We're still comfortable with each other, exchanging stories. Good thing that we met again, after that I realized that I totally got over with him. And we remain as friends.
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
That is a very nice experienced. Sometimes it is better to face our fears because it set us free.
@plumwish07 (4059)
• Indonesia
30 Oct 07
many reason, a couple being separate each others. some of couple in a good way and some of couple not in a good way. to the couple who not separate in good way, they will feel uncomfortable when they meet each other in one day. but some of case, though they separate in good way, they still feel uncomfortable when meet coz in my guessing, they already knowing each other. how is the one flirt and seduce another in previous time. how beautiful the promise and dream that they made each other in previous time but it can't be tru at now. and these thing made they feel uncomfortable. for me, i will be act naturally as like meet old friend. why should be uncomfortable? it was just on previous time, page of our life. nothing more than that
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Couples which seperated asnd not in good terms will surely not love to see each other again. But I believe time heal all wounds. So, who knows they might forgive each other in each hearts.
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
It would be good to meet my ex and know how they may have been and how well they may have been doing. I kinda look forward to it and see what they may have been up to. There is just so much to live for and I don't have hang ups with my ex. I wish them all well and a very good life ahead.
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
That is a very positive outlook in life. I like it.
@plumwish07 (4059)
• Indonesia
30 Oct 07
many reason, a couple being separate each others. some of couple in a good way and some of couple not in a good way. to the couple who not separate in good way, they will feel uncomfortable when they meet each other in one day. but some of case, though they separate in good way, they still feel uncomfortable when meet coz in my guessing, they already knowing each other. how is the one flirt and seduce another in previous time. how beautiful the promise and dream that they made each other in previous time but it can't be tru at now. and these thing made they feel uncomfortable. for me, i will be act naturally as like meet old friend. why should be uncomfortable? it was just on previous time, page of our life. nothing more than that
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• Philippines
6 Nov 07
Yes, if couples did not end their relationship accordingly tendency is they build tension between them.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
I don't know what feeling it would be, but I believe it'll surely be a mixture of emotions good and bad. As a man, I think I most of us prefer to keep our feelings just by ourselves. We have to keep cool and do our best to maintain our composure, like a "blank" emotion!;)LoL Lots of thughts are playing on my mind now, some I would rather not share to avoid being misunderstood by othes!;)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
I understand you. Thanks for sharing the man's point of view. :)