File for Full Custody

United States
November 1, 2007 9:02pm CST
My ex-husband and I divorced in 2002. He was given custody of our daughter because she was with him at the time the divorce was filed and to kind of get my life back together I moved back home which happens to be about 1500 miles from where he lives. Our daughter is 10 now and expresses more and more interest in living with me. She is becoming quite frustrated with her dad because he is constantly taking steps to make sure we don't see or talk to each other (even though we have joint legal custody). She has resorted to calling me on a friends cell phone from school so we may talk. Though I would love my daughter to come live with me, I don't know if it would be the best thing for her. She would have to move away from her friends at school and get used to a whole new family. Any thoughts on this subject?
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@kenniem (97)
• United States
2 Nov 07
Hi. Your discussion caught my eye for the first time right after I signed up last night. I haven't even filled out my profile yet and I went to see how the sight works and your discussion popped up. I thought it was fate because it's not too many Kendra's around (My name is Kendra). You were also dealing with a subject that is close to my heart as I also dealt with growing up. My dad left whe I was about 6 or so and when it first happened I didn't see him much. My mom was cool with him coming to see us, but I don't think he could deal with the guilt. I saw him every blue moon until a didn't see him at all. I went to a friend of his and asked where is. I was only about 7 or 8 at the time and snuck off and walked about 4 miles to his house (I would've done anything to see him- like your daughter is calling you on a friends phone-I think it will get worse if he doesn't let her see you). I know this is not supposed to be about me, but I am trying to prove a point. NO MATTER WHAT PARENTS CAN'T LET THEIR PERSONAL FEELINGS AFFECT CHILDREN SEEING THEM. All children want is to see and love their parents. Your exhusband is allowing his personal feelings effect your daughter seeing you. She will stop at nothing to have both parents in her life. You and your daughter decide together what she wants. Dad needs to know how she feels. If he won't bend and you will let her still see her dad, in my opinion, then she may be better of with you. That's what's most important to her. BOTH PARENTS. Over friends and change in environment. Dad needs to give and let you see her or she can move with you and he come and see her. If doable all three of you need to talk together about it. What ever happens, she needs to see both of you.
@overhere (516)
• United States
2 Nov 07
I wish I could offer you some advice, I don't have any. Just a cyber hug for the agonies you must be going through. It's so sad that the children so often become the pawns in broken relationship. I wish you only good things for a happy outcome for all three of you .