There's nothing sadder than a childless couple...
November 9, 2007 3:50pm CST
Ann Landers' 'The Childless Couple' There is nothing sadder than a childless couple. It breaks my heart to see them relaxing around swimming pools in Florida, sitting all suntanned and miserable on the decks of their boats -- trotting off to Europe like lonesome fools. It's an empty life. Nothing but money to spend, more time to enjoy and a whole lot less to worry about. The poor childless couple are so wrapped up in themselves, you have to feel sorry for them. They don't fight over the child's discipline, don't blame each other for the child's most obnoxious characteristics, and they miss all the fun of doing without for the child's sake. They just go along, doing whatever they want, buying what they want and liking each other. It's a pretty pathetic picture. Everyone should have children. No one should be allowed to escape the wonderful experience that accompanies each stage in the development of the young -- the happy memories of sleepless nights, coughing spells, tantrums, diaper rash, debts, "dipso" baby sitters, saturated mattresses, emergencies and never-ending crises. How dismal is the peaceful home without the constant childish problems that make a well-rounded life and an early breakdown; the tender, thoughtful discussions when the report card reveals the progeny to be one step below a moron; the end-of-the-day reunions with all the joyful happenings recited like well-placed blows to the temples. Children are worth it. Every moment of anxiety, every sacrifice, every complete collapse pays off as a fine, sturdy adolescent is reached. The feeling of reward the first time you took the boy hunting -- he didn't mean to shoot you, the lad was excited. Remember how he cried? How sorry he was? And how much better you felt after the blood transfusion? These are the times a man with a growing son treasures -- memories that are captured forever in the heart and the limp. Think back to the night of romantic adventure when your budding daughter eloped with the village idiot. What childless couple ever shared in the stark realism of that drama? Aren't you a better man for having lived richly, fully, acquiring that tic in your left eye? Could a woman without children touch the strength and heroism of your wife as she tried to fling herself out of the bedroom window? The childless couple live in a vacuum. They fill their lonely days with golf, vacation trips, dinner dates, civic affairs, tranquility, leisure and entertainment. There is a terrifying emptiness without children, but the childless couple are too comfortable to know it. You just have to look at them to see what the years have done: He looks boyish, unlined and rested; she's slim, well-groomed and youthful. It isn't natural. If they had had kids, they'd look like the rest of us -- worn out, wrinkled and exhausted. If anyone doesn't know Ann Landers was a well known syndicated advice columnist. I imagine this article was in response to some people who may criticize or feel sorry for people who don't have or don't want children and how "miserable" their life is without children.
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26 Sep 10
Haha... Hello dreamy 1. I have to read the article over and over to get the meaning. I must be slow. And I looked Ann Landers over the net to find out who she was. Thanks to you, I did. The article did sound sarcastic so I agree with you that this could have been a response to those who find a childless couple a "miserable sight!" Such delightful wit! Thanks for sharing the article. I am biologically childless but I have two wonderful adopted children.
26 Sep 10
oh I feel sorry for myself! I fill my life with shopping trips,vacations,night outs with friends,dinners at a fancy restaurant,and..did I mention shopping trips?I have no one to spend my money with other than myself.I fill my life with learning how to run business,learning how to invest in stocks,and how to make my money grow.I fill my days with leisure,long sleep during weekends and waking up on weekdays preparing leisurely for office.
13 Nov 07
yea i'm sure thats a sarcastic rendition .... and i think its crazy for anyone to pity the childless couple .... I think its great and if i had to do it again .... i would have been childless for sure .... but then again ... my kids are great and i love them but really i dont think i would do it again in another life time .....
10 Nov 07
LOL! Sorry I have to laugh about this. I am over 40 and have two children, one is 22 the other almost 21. If I would have read your story befor having children, believe me, I would now be childless too.LOL. I Love my kids, but it has been so hard. If I had to do it over again, I would choose the empty life of vakations ect. I could then alway´s get an orfanage and help children that have no parents or family. So that they too , can have a good life. Because then I would have financial freedom. I would help other children, why does it have to be bioloical. My parents are great for me, they are dutch, I am Canadian. I love them they love me. They adopted me and with me they helped me raise my two children. So they got three for the price of one. And you know what, I have never meet such good people. They are childless, they had me to look after. And I am greatfull. I would love a vacation, and financial freedom. Take care.
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10 Nov 07
awesome article! I actually never really got why people pity couples that don't or can't have children. In my life I have met very few couples who are openly saddened by this. If a couple does not have children, I just assume that is their decision and if they can not have children but want them...it is their business and something they will have to come to terms with themselves. Anyway...great article.