What is the right choice.
By vsraovsr
@vsraovsr (734)
India
November 21, 2007 4:56am CST
To be a housewife or a working woman, which is the better job to do? Six yrs back I was a working woman. After my kids were born, I am at home but I do many jobs inside and outside having no time for myself which is making me intolerable day by day. What do you say?
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12 responses
@SViswan (12051)
• India
21 Nov 07
It depends on each individual case.
Some women are quite content to be at home and take care of the household matters. While some women need to get out and do work which actually makes them refreshed to take care of other things at home. It depends on what category you fall into. Sounds like you prefer working outside the home. If your kids are old enough and in school most of the time, you can consider starting with working part-time.
Or else, you need to make time for yourself. Say, one day of the week (or maybe a whole morning) just to do stuff that you want to do....no other errands to run. At first it will be difficult and you might need to fix a timetable 'Wednesday is my day...I'm not going to do anything else for the family that day'....slowly you and the family will get used to it and you will get your sanity back.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
27 Mar 08
You'll have to compromise somewhere. Is the time you spend with your kids more important to you? Then forget about the income till they are a little older....and enjoy the time while you can. You cannot get this back...but you can always have a career later.
Btw, you didn't mention what job you were in. Most IT companies give flexi timings for mothers.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
22 Nov 07
well this is the reason why people say that life of a woman changes a lot after marriage.well both being an housewife as well as working woman has its own advantages as well as disadvantages.its you who has to choose which is your preferance.like if you want to work then you will really have to keep yuor children with the baby sitter,nows it you who has to think as to whether you are ready for this or not.also you will have to work a lot at home as well as office.so will you be able to manage both,if yes then obviously you should go for a job.however if you are a person who wants to give their best only to kids and hubby,then you should be a housewife.its entirely you who has to choose.many times women do work because of the financial crisis in their house otherwise they would love to be in home with kids.
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
22 Nov 07
But your profile says you are male. ?
In any case let me tell you the hardest job for a woman is to be a housewife. It is thankless and payless. Thank heavens for the first time in history women now have the choice to acquire skills that allow them to earn a living for themselves, have a bank account and make decisions concerning their lives. So if the kids are in school or the marriage does not work out they can fend for themselves. I think this is progress.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
29 Mar 08
It's my husband who signed in for me and I'm continuing it.I have changed my profile and hope you'll notice it.I appreciate your views on the role of a hosewife but I'm very fortunate to have complete fredom in most of the cases in that role too. I'm akind of person who want to do multi-tasking like earning, good mother , good wife,etc along with having having free time for myself which made me start this discussion.
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Nov 07
I too left my job after having a baby. I feel that if we can afford with one salary then why not be with our child and take care of him or her. I can do this and I really feel lucky that we can afford to do it. I am grateful to God for this. I am always with my son who is 3 yrs now and I feel that I have done good quitting my job. We have to remember one thing that nobody will take care of our child as we do. I feel bad for parents who have to leave their kids and go for work. it must be so painful for them. I feel all mothers should be able to be there for their child.
I just cannot imagine leaving my kid and going to work. I feel that if you can afford being jobless, then don't lose this opportunity of being with your kid and seeing him or her grow in your love and care. God bless all.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
21 Nov 07
You are lucky to be able to enjoy the time with your child. Not all mothers are able to do that and they go to work...not for the money..but because they go crazy sitting at home and it has a negative effect on the child. Instead, they go out, work and come home refreshed to spend quality time with the child.
I left my job too to be with my older son and enjoyed every moment of it. I've had a friend who didn't enjoy the time she spend with her child at home because she was doing housework most of the time and was too tired to really spend time with her daughter. She started work and everything fell in to place and everyone was happy.
Some mothers even get depressed and that can be really bad for mother and child. Since you are not aware of this aspect, you speak from your personal viewpoint.
I am in no way trying to put down the time mothers spend with their kids. I am only telling about another side to the same coin.
Again, you are very lucky that being at home is something that you enjoy doing and you have used that to the maximum for the benefit of your child:)
God bless!
@zhouyanhua (21)
• China
21 Nov 07
It's sounds faraway for me.But i think if i have a baby,i will prefer to take care of him or her by myself.I want to in company with my kids in her childhood,i want to give him or her all my love,and i'm sure that it's a memorable times in my life,only once.House matters may be trivial but not intolerable if you can find the beauty of your life,help yourself to it and good luck :)
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
29 Mar 08
You are right bcoz I couldn't enjoy the time in upbringing my kids I used to be alons most of the time taking the responsiblities in and out of the house which made me spend less time in their company and used to be very tired and distressed. But now, I'm being a little happy as they are growing and I'm also trying to enjoy my daily routine as there is no other way.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I think that each person is different. Some people choose or have to go back to work after having their child because of either financial necessity or because they just can't be a stay at home mom. Some ladies are able to because they are in a better position to and they can accept being a stay at home mom. I know I had a very hard time at first staying at home, because I just didn't feel like I was contributing financially and it made me feel guilty. I think that working part time and having more time at home is a good choice for me right now. I haven't begun working because I am waiting for my husband to come home on leave. Once he goes back to Iraq, then I will begin my search. I am also in college online as well. Stay at home mom's have so much to do, I can understand you feeling overwhelmed and intolerable. It sounds like you need a break!
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
21 Nov 07
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Hi vsraovsr.
To be a housewife or a working woman, and for which is the better job to do, being a wife one's have to discuss with husband to beholden with collective responsible and mutual respect to each other for decision making.
With consent from lovely husband will cherish wife's working environment if working would be the choice as decision making. First and foremost the cherish and happiness life must take first. Once ignored will exacerbate the current good family relationship.
But many advantages being a working mom. The formal outdoor activities and relationship.
HAPPY DAPPY.
@zhangvicky (258)
• China
22 Nov 07
Sometimes busy can make life full. You can make a plan to make full use of your time, then you will find you are really enjoying the happy life with your children and your husband..
@navneetrai_26 (411)
• India
21 Nov 07
one has to balance between being a working woman & a perfect home maker. a woman of substance is one who can excel in both of the fronts.
@jennyp08 (68)
• United States
22 Nov 07
You know what I am the working person in my marriage right now and my husband is a stay-at-home father. So many people are aganist him doing that.Why is it okay for a women to stay home but not a man? My husband is going to school as well too. I am very thankful that he is home with my 3 children because it's too unsafe to leave your children with anyone and anyplace of business anymore.
