Will you change?

@maean_19 (4662)
Philippines
December 3, 2007 1:03am CST
If your boyfriend or girlfriend asks you to change something, will you definitely change it? Sayings say that you can not really change one's personality even how close you are to him or her. It is you who will adjust to any flaws on him or her. Acceptance that is prevailing than letting someone you love to change his or her flaws. But, if that would be the question, what would you do?
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11 responses
• China
5 Dec 07
I get rid of smoking for my girlfriend eventhough i do not want to do so.
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• India
4 Dec 07
i think changing ur behvaiour i mean moulding the behaviour in a relationship is necessary to be in relationship it helps the relation to work smooothly...but if the person is askin to change ur personality thn ask him/her to lov u as ur n not by changin ur personlity...bcz wen u lov someone u tend to lov the person wid all the flaws n good qualities in the person...so changing the person completely changes ur person whom they lov
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• China
4 Dec 07
my choice is say yes.i love the girl,i wanna do everything 2 make her happy,2 be with her.so i will try my best to change.
• India
4 Dec 07
no..icant chnge it unless until i get affected or i dont like that habit...
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@wrongway (277)
• United States
4 Dec 07
I think when you ask your partner to change something about themselves, you are in actuality changing the person you fell in love with. For instance, you have short hair when you and your boyfriend first met. Now he asks you to let it grow, so you do. Now we all know there is so much more you can do with long hair than you can with short hair, so now you are spending more time on your hair. Pretty soon he wants to know why you spend more time on your hair. Next he begins to feel you might be getting pretty for someone else and jealousy sets in. Before you know it you are fighting all the time and can't understand why. I think when people ask their partners to change they eventually fall out of love with them because they are not the same person anymore.
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@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
3 Dec 07
It would all depend on what he was asking of me or wanting me to change. The way I figure is, he knew how I was and what type of personality I had before we moved in together, we've been together only 2 1/2 years, so yes we still discover new things about each other. But I don't think he would ever ask me to change the basic way I am, nor would I ask him to change one single thing about him. We accepted each other for who we were, and it's the main reason we are so good together. And there were some minor differences after all I was raised in the South and he is a born Yankee, lol. But, the North and South can live together well.
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@diillu (5128)
3 Dec 07
If someone would love me then I guess that person wouldn't want to change something good of me. If he wants to change then that would obviously be something bad about me. And I would be glad to change that things of me for my lover. If that changes makes then really happy then I would be glad to do so.
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@reanne (83)
3 Dec 07
if this is the only way not to ruin our relationship, y not.... if i really can't change it, at least he saw that i did really tried my best and to show him that i do really love him..... :D..tc
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• Philippines
3 Dec 07
if it is for better, why not. :)
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@noriko (1254)
3 Dec 07
it depends what does he wants me to change. if it is a bad habit for example like smoking then i would change it. but if it is just a petty thing then i would not. as karen capenter sang.... you got to love me for what i am
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@wahptb (188)
• Canada
3 Dec 07
I wouldn't change because my girlfriend told me too but if she told me that she didn't like something about me I would do my best to change that thing just to make her happy. I love seeing my girlfriend happy and it takes so little.
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