would you love me if i have no money?

China
December 6, 2007 7:10pm CST
i wanna tell you something.i fell in love with a man who being regarded as a rascal in other's eyes.that's,he has no money,no formal job but just idled about bars n rinks day by day.BUT HE TREATED ME RIGHT.BUT I JUST FELL IN LOVE WITH HIM.the worst,i made my first love with him at the coming spring festival...actually,i have no feeling for such this.our love story just lasted 3 months then i was too scared to run away coz many friends around me just suggested me let go;we wouldn't be happy since we just live in difference world.BTW,i always cried in night when stayed with him but i don't know why.just wanna cried.maybe such love was unfair for him but also unfair for me!what damnable he tried to part and just see whether i love him or not!!!why i should be under such pressure just because of such love!!!i was scared of my future at that time.so i run away finally.GOD,please let all memory die away...but why i dream him last night?...suddenly i remember a Chinese song,would you love me if i have no money...
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10 responses
• United States
7 Dec 07
Are you a woman? I heard someone say women aren't capable of love. Well anyways I say you still love him but you don't want to love him any more. I say it is possible to change what you like but I never met anyone will successfully did that. You can go back to him or do things to keep you busy. You could worry about other things. My dreams are usually satisfied expect for that one dream actually it is two dreams that involve two different things.
• China
8 Dec 07
i should answer yes for your first question.i'm a woman. maybe you're light.i love him but i don't want to love him.that's exactly correct.how strange it was!i'm not trying to take him back or doing something nonsenSe.my life should be ordinary but not up and down all the time.no dream last night...anything is good today but just cold.take care.
• United States
8 Dec 07
For me it is better to deal with the problem than to forget it. You can still love him but ypu don't have to be with him. You should just keep moving forward.
• China
10 Dec 07
i do agree with you.have a good day.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
7 Dec 07
You have such a pure heart I would say because you were able to love a person who could not reciprocate yours. Even so you tried to make it work but it didn't. Maybe what you can do right now is to pray and hope that he will realize that what you shared for him is something precious that no one can ever give to a person that is like him. I do not suggest that you stick with him and force yourself to him if he doesn't want to. I won't judge you if you chose to love a person that cannot love you. What I see in you is a person who just wants to share your love which is more important than anything else. Learn from this experience so that if when one day you find one that can love you back then you could finally be happy.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
In time you will be happy for as long as you keep this experience as a learning experience and be a good girl yourself. Find a person that will love you as you are and not force you into him loving you.
• United States
8 Dec 07
I just personal belive money does'nt bring true happiness . That comes within us our heart from within our Spirit or inner soul is where our true happiness comes from . Think of these people in Thrid world country with nothing to thier name and a lot of times you still see that smile on thier face.I ask myself how can that be? I think they some how much know it is'nt money riches that make you happy.They know the secret of true happiness that brings contentment.
• China
10 Dec 07
thanks for coming again,frog-.em.there's no a standard for happiness.have a nice day~
• Australia
7 Dec 07
If I feel in love with a woman that had no money, I would still love them. As long as they make an effort, that's good enough for me.
• China
8 Dec 07
surely it should has a precondition that as long as make effort...that's truth i might still live with him as long as he could make an effort.but the real-life is real-life.i cann't say i'm not a realist.let the past be a guide.
• United States
7 Dec 07
I don't really think that your problems follow the song. If you love me if I have no money...isn't really the only thing wrong with this guy. He doesn't have any money, or any desire to get it. And by the sounds of it, there is more then just that as an issue...You are better then that!
• China
8 Dec 07
thanks,aidenofthetower. "coco,is it just because that he has no money?" i always ask myself for this.finally,i negate it!it shouldn't feel like that!i suppose he knows the reasons.if he could make progress,the result should be much different.i don't know where he is.i cancelled the last email and deleted his mail address after broke up...let god bless him in the future.
• United States
7 Dec 07
Money does'nt make a person but having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ makes a person rich.
• China
8 Dec 07
suddenly it reminds me of one says,money is not everything,but everything should be nothing without money.do you agree with that?
@blueman (16516)
• India
7 Dec 07
..should have made a better choice...nyways love is love....money or no money..
• China
8 Dec 07
thanks blueman. sometimes,love is love,money is money.but sometimes,love should be based on money...oh,LOVE n MONEY are the undying topic in the world.let it go.
@youless (87141)
• Guangzhou, China
7 Dec 07
I am so sorry to hear that. Frankly, I think you deserve someone better. You know there are many men in the world and you don't have to stick on this one. I am not very interested in such kind of man. It is not because he has no money and a formal job. It is because he spends time on bars and being idle. Why doesn't he try to learn something or look for a job. It is better than killing the time in vain. And I don't think he treats you very well. You have to know that a man who loves you won't make you cry and break your heart. Forget about him, you will meet the right one in the future.
• China
8 Dec 07
thanks youless. i don't know whether he's better than before or anything else.tell you the truth,the reason i loved him at the beginning was just to save something for this man;but i realized it's so unpractical at the end;i'm not Jesu.the result is that i became depraved with him for a so long time.how absurd it was!anyway,he's gone from my life.thanks for your kind regards,youless.
@menctomas (278)
• Philippines
7 Dec 07
hey coco, it is alright to love and let go and move on. you say that HE TREATED YOU RIGHT, when your response above to another comment is that he is still staying with his ex and just had a baby. i am so sorry that this thing is happening to you but what don't kill will only make you stronger. i really believe that. its never about the money really when it comes to true love. however, wasn't your relationship a bit one sided? i hope you be well and that you find a true love and loves you back.
• China
7 Dec 07
it's alright,menctomas.thanks. he explained that he just broke up with the girl and he said the girl just had an abortion.according to his words,the baby was just the girl's purpose,and the girl asked him for money to abort.how blamed it was!shall i trust such pretext?oh...it's not important for coco now.such as you said,just love,let go and move on. thanks for your nice wishes and i hope i can find someone to love me back.goodbye my past life..i won't dream him anymore..
@mizrak07 (557)
• Philippines
7 Dec 07
Money should not be involved where true love is, but it's true we cannot live on love alone, practically speaking. If he has no money but you love him, that is true love. It's just that maybe your friends are concerned on how he is going to support you, you mentioned he has no job and drinks a lot. Naturally people who love you will be worried, how are you going to live with a man like that. I hope he finds means to improve his condition for he cannot live like that forever. He has to show some effort. He does not need to be rich, you have already proven that to him, but he needs to strive so he can support you. If he does that maybe your friends (you haven't mentioned your family) will finally accept him.
• China
7 Dec 07
thanks mizrak! actually,the worst is that my sister-in-law realized this and warned me she would expose such thing to my parents if i strick to do so!that's the supreme pressure for me and i could not stand it anymore!i still remember she and her husband drew me out and weeped and told me they knew him(the man) still stayed with his former girl friend and the girl just has a baby!WHAT A SHAME!!!i went down and held my head into my arms and cried and said nothing...what i could say then??!my deep heart just said,it's too late sister...absolutely,i love him but just detest his idlesse!i already tried to hearten him but nothing works.WHAT HE COULD GIVE ME IS DISAPPOINTMENT AND TEARS.i hate such life!!so i'm gone.