Losing connection with family...
December 11, 2007 9:15pm CST
I'm sure there's others out there who feel the same way, so i'd really appreciate anyones thoughts about this. My family mainly is myself, my wife and son.. My parents, brother and grandmother (most members which was connected are no longer with us) There's many who attended my grandmother funeral I know very little about, yet it's fitting a jigsaw together which has missing pieces. family has always been important for to me but with envolving lifes I understand it's hard. Most of my mothers side is already gone, however my fathers side has a lot of family I care about. I've been thinking about visiting some of the ones which are reachable, although I don't know where they live. (I do need to talk to father about it) Have you ever experienced losing/moving apart from your family? it's quite an horrible feeling, being open. at my grandmothers funeral I actually started to get scared that no one would show at mine... :( ~Joey P.s I'd like to attempt to get family gatherings together, sounds quite nice. :)
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12 Dec 07
It hasnt happened to me.All relatives are really close to each other, both from mothers side and from fathers side.One or two of them we dont get along very well, but that doesnt mean we have lost connection. Family gatherings happen often, either for celebrations or for birthdays and weddings, even sometimes for Christmas or Easter.We eat together and generally have a good time.I can understand why you feel sad about it, and i wish you manage to form a new bond with them, and be connected ever after.
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12 Dec 07
I know what you mean Joey, but this is part of growing up, so to speak. And you know you have already grown more than me, having started a family yourself. It is not easy but it is not that common for one to stay with his family (the one he was born in) for the whole life. Unless you happen to be rich and your family happens to be close-knitted too. So you have uprooted from your primary family and started your own family. You are the mini patriarch here and when Jake marries and have kids, you will be a granddad! :P I think you need to talk more with Kate and share with her your fears. You are one family and should share weal and woe. And perhaps, you might want to join some clubs and societies and further widen your social circle.
13 Dec 07
I know what you mean Joey. I've left my family over 20 years ago to come here. Hubby has his family here, but I have no one of my own family. They are all over 7 hours away by plane and with an ocean in between us. I miss them every day even though we talk often over the phone or the internet. I miss their company but also the things we used to do as a family since my husband's family is very different. My family use to find every "excuse" to arrange get togethers that every one would attend. Birthdays, special days, holidays or even just because it was a sunny day LOL anything would do:) ANd the rule was that there was never to be arguments or fighting on those gatherings so it was always fun and enjoyable. I really miss that. THere were give a gift days, bring a friend days, share the news days.... I guess it wouldn't work here. If we were going to do that with hubby's family it would be more like be the grumpiest day, stop talking to someone day, official put someone down day or knife a family member in the back day LOL SO it's a good thing they don't do it heheheh
• United States
22 Dec 07
My family is scattered throughout the US and Canada. We don't see them very often. My family in Alberta comes to visit my grandmother about once a year and my great aunt who lives in Indiana comes every few years. We also have family in South Carolina but we don't ever see them. I don't really mind that I never see them. I mean I've never really seen them so it's not like I am missing out on something. I am happy to see them when they do come around.
• United States
22 Dec 07
Yeah, I know that feeling. My parents and I haven't seen each other for 6 years. We were never a very close family to begin with. So, my only family now are my daughter and my husband. His family are very nice to me. So, in a way, I lost my family and gain a better family through my husband.