How do you feel when...
December 16, 2007 11:29pm CST
people look down on you? I went to the latest, brand new shopping mall in Kuala Lumpur to check on the stuff that they are selling there. It was a Sunday and I didn't really bother to look good that day. I was alone. Normally, I will only 'take care of myself' whenever I am going out with my husband or any of my family members. I don't want them to feel uncomfortable walking beside me whenever I start to feel like becoming a shabby person *laughs* I went into a branded boutique which sells a very expensive clothes. There were only four customers - a local couple and two foreigners and right after I stepped in until I came out from the boutique, no sales promoter seemed to care to attend me.Two of the girls were talking near the cashier counter. One of them just looked at me when I entered the boutique - just a glance and continued their conversation without any attempt to come forward and greet me. I was angry with them. They might think that I don't have that buying power, looking at my appearance. I was cursing and telling myself that I won't go to the same boutique anymore, not in a near future. I might be angry but when I cooled down, I kept thinking why people always look down on you - just because of your physical appearance? Ever happened to you before? Share your story with me and others.
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17 Dec 07
hi .i certainly would not go back to that store again and if i was really mad i would ring up the store manager and let them know what you thought of their lousy service and you were going to let all of your friends (all the rich and famous names you can think of at the time)know about their lousy service and how they discriminate against people for simply being themselves.when i shop i always dress for comfort ,not to be a fashion plate.i save my dressing up for going out.i have complained to shop owners before as i was treated like a idiot because i did not understand something the sale person was saying and they just gave me one of those looks,as if i was a fool and boy by the end of it that sales person wished they had never laid eyes on me.so do not feel alone we have all had lousy experiences.don't let it upset you,we pay good money for what we purchase and we should have good service.cheers sue
17 Dec 07
You are very very correct…one more reason why I always keep away from these boutiques and expensive places. They charge you the heavens yet the quality is not much to die for. You would get the same quality items from any other good quality but non-boutique stores. And bonding with a fellow Asian you know very well how these shops treat us locals when there are foreigners around! Apart from that most shopping malls coming up in India are way too overcrowded for anyone to notice your dress. These are teeming with shoppers with different expenditure capabilities and I love visiting them in whatever I am wearing. No one here will bother to look at you just coz you are dressed shabbily. They are much better than the stand-alone boutiques.
17 Dec 07
Well, something like that happened to me when i was in Jamaica for a stopover. I stayed in a hotel with a beautiful harbor... Now the company that hire me will pay a my meal and it was either veal or oxtail... i was not in the mood for either of the two so i asked for the menu and i was quite ready to pay for myself... but the waitress didn't want to show me the menu and she said "Everything is expensive"... i was quite shocked with what she said... i told her i have money so she showed me the menu but did not bother to ask what i wanted... I did not want to argue since i am in a foreign land... i tossed the menu aside and told another waitress tha i will be having the veal instead... after that... i never wanted to go back to that country ever again...
17 Dec 07
that was awful..you should have go in front of those sales attendant and flaunt them with all your buying power..:) I can't imagine how shocked they are.. i don't remember it happening to me (as I avoid those expensive shops) but last time I overhaerd a customer talking to a sales agent of cellphones and she was making an argument of how the slaesman treated her as if she cannoy afford to buy the kinds of cellphones in display..because maybe she lloks so plain, wearing t-shirt and jeans.. It's bad that people treat people and judge them according to thier looks.. Cheer up dear! and go back there again when you intend to buy something from thier shop and tell them how you ahve felt about yur first visit so they would be aware of thier attitudes.
• Hong Kong
23 Jan 08
Well. You shouldn't feel unhappy with some people's unprofessional attitude and besides have you ever noticed that some richest people in the world disguise themselves in "not looking so good". Anyway, I seldom go into those branded stores because I know the sales people would look down on me (my thinking, I really don't know) because I don't have anything branded fixed on my appearance! I figure if shopping/ window shopping is supposed to be fun, happy and rewarding, I would rather go to those stores which suit my budget, taste and appearance better!
22 Dec 07
sometimes i also go out with simple clothes when i go for shopping. i prefer to be comfortable when trying dresses or just going around. ^__^ i haven't experienced the same thing though. or maybe i just don't take notice of it. ^__^;; but most of the time someone would approach me and ask for what i am looking for. anyway, this has happened to my nieces though. i was with them when it happened. i was dressed up but they were wearing house clothes. i picked them up from the hospital where we visited my nephew. we went to a UK store and i told them to look for something they would like and i would buy it. as i was searching for clothes, i heard one sales attendant said, what are those kids doing there? referring to my nieces. i looked at them angrily although i didn't say a thing. when i was paying they asked, oh so those kids are with you. i sneered at them and said yes. i was angry but not that angry to swear of not coming back there again. ^__^ i guess because i saw in their faces that they were ashamed of their behavior. you should have brought something from that store and slammed your money to their faces! LOL or better yet, you should have taken some money and kindof showed all your money in your wallet. LOL i hate people who look down on others. they should look at their selves first in the mirror.
• Guangzhou, China
18 Dec 07
I think sometimes it will happen everywhere. People just know to judge others by their clothes and I have to say that's so wrong. Some people just don't care what to wear, but actually they can be so rich. If you experience that you are looked down upon because of this reason, then never mind. Who cares. They are only salesmen in the stores. They won't be better than you.
18 Dec 07
I used to be very upset before with this type of treatment, but I can't be bothered now. Their loss not mine. As far as I am concerned, if they do not treat me properly, then I will take my business elsewhere and call the store manager to tell him or her why I am not coming back, but just to give him or her the heads up. The store may be losing business because the sales people are snobbish. Sales people should always remember that saying--never judge a book by its cover--because a lot of people who can afford to buy stuff just don't bother flaunting it. Take care and season's greetings!
• United States
17 Dec 07
I wouldn't take it personally, I don't care what anybody thinks of the way I look, I would've just walked over to them (and I've done it before), and ask them, "do ya'll work here, or just stand around because you're in Security?" I've run into people like this before, and the more snobbish they are, the more I let them have it!! More than likely their boss is out of town,or out to lunch, because a good boss man is aggressive and greedy, and he won't let you stand around like that! I did run into one owner that was snobbish like that, and as soon as I felt it, I let him have it, and by the time I left, he was glad I was leaving!
17 Dec 07
That happens to me at Mcdonalds. i wear shorts and slippers...and fall in line. It was suppose to be my turn, when 3 foreigners came, the crew who is about take my order, look at me and say that he would serve the foreigners first so I could walk behind them. My blood boils and talked with the crew in French! and immediately complain with her supervisor. lols! That really made her look stupid. I hate the treatment that she gave me....
17 Dec 07
Well, I'm in the habit of going out to malls or anywhere with little regard of what I wear and look so I experience what you have more often. earlier today, I got that look sales people and stares again while looking for gifts at a relatively high end store. I'm not rich but I do have the money and my credit limit on my credit cards are high. I'm well-educated so they have no right to belittle me. I speak fluent english so what I do is, I'd inquire about an item in english and keep talking to them in english. Most sales ladies here have a hard time responding in english. They'd freeze and i'll give them that look they were giving me earlier on so they too get that feeling of being looked down upon. I treat them as they treat me. If they were nice to begin with, then I'd be all nice and polite too. they can't judge me by the way I look; it's simply unfair.