Deadbeat Dads

@Kowgirl (3491)
United States
December 29, 2007 7:26am CST
Well I have seen it all when it comes to being a Deadbeat Dads A friend of mine was asked to mail a package for a man who was visiting her next door neighbor. He said his friend forgot to take it that morning. Since he didn't have any way of getting to the post office she agreed to put it with her packages she was mailing that day. Well when she arrived at the post office they said all packages had to be checked before shipping. When the beeper went off the man opened the package to check it out. It was ok to go so they rewraped it and it was sent on its way. That night when she saw her neighbor she said something to him about the toy that was in the package.( It was a wii ) That's when he told her that his friend did things like that so the mailing stamp on the package would be different from where he lived(another state). That's how he was dodging having to go to jail for not paying his child support. He said the Deadbeat Dad has been doing this for years...he has not seen nor talked to his children in all those years. He has legally changed his name and is living high. Driving a new car every year, even owns a beach house and a boat. I was outraged to think of how he was living high on the hog and his kids may not even have a decent meal every night. After all it's hard enough to get by when 2 parents are working much less when a woman is trying to make ends meet while raising 3 kids. And get this, He has never seen the youngest. He left before he was born. Do you know of any deadbeat dads? Don't you think her neighbor should turn him in?
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@nicolecab (923)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I know if that it was me I would have turned him in a long time ago. I really just do not understand some people. I do not know how that father sleeps at night. I guess when it comes to women we have no paticence with these sorts of things. My heart really goes out to that mother.
@Kowgirl (3491)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I got so mad I think it even raised my blood pressure a notch or two. I told my friend that she needs to find out his real name and she can turn him in or even tell the right people about her neighbor, who can tell them where he is and his real name. There are a lot of Deadbeat Dads out there who are working that don't pay. It sure is sad that they can do that to their own flesh and blood. I hope they live to regret it.
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
29 Dec 07
Her neighbor, why doesn't your friend turn him in. That is just outrageous to know that is going on and not do anything about it. He is breaking the law on so many levels. I for one am not one to get into other peoples business, but when it comes to something like that I would be on the phone to the cops. And I would hope the neighbor knows that they are an accessory to the fact, they are assisting him in avoiding arrest, which is harboring a fugitive. I would hesitate for a minute, I'd be on the phone.
@Kowgirl (3491)
• United States
29 Dec 07
Yes, thats what I said ... Turn him in, those kids have suffered enough. I hope he does the right thing and calls family services ASAP. But you know how men are...he probably wont.
@SanDslnrs (269)
• United States
30 Dec 07
That is really terrible! I can't believe how many fathers, and yes, sometimes mothers, do not care enough to want to make sure their children have food and clothing to eat. My exhusband hardly ever sees his kids, even though they are grown now. He doesn't worry about anything regarding them. It makes me so angry. This is their blood!!! This is a very sore subject with me...I hope these kids are doing well, and not suffering or being deprived of anything.
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
30 Dec 07
if it were me i would turn the jerk in even if i had to hire a PI to find out his real information.. The thing is though, sometimes it's better for the family all around to have nothing to do with him and not even know where he is or if he even still exists... The reason i say this is what if he was in their lives, these kids could have a father like i had, a man that if he couldn't get away all he did was abuse abuse abuse... made the family so scared that they couldn't even make a call to have him taken in to custody. that's the kind of person a family doesn't need around... It's just too bad that the kids have to be involved in such a situation where they feel unwanted and will probably end up with that hanging over their heads the rest of their lives. I truly do hope that these kids understand that A) it's not their fault and B) that man is a horrible low no good for nothing man, and a disgrace to this world... Mind you i guess, and i hate to say this, but at least he sends a gift right?
@cosylvia (401)
• China
30 Dec 07
lol,my poor english ,i cant exactly understand it ,,forgive me,in real world have little deadbeat dads..wish you have a good day
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 07
That is so awful and I really hope that one Day he will get caught and will be told to back pay It is terrible that someone can ignore their Children like that
• United States
29 Dec 07
Yes she should turn this %&*^&* in!!! I would never think someone would go that far as to avoid child support. I have a deadbeat dad in my life as well, but he doesn't go to such extremes. I know exactly where he lives, but he is not living high on the hog (serves him right) He comes to all the court dates, he just doesn't pay or see the kids. I think the kids are better off without him, and even though I am hurting for income, I believe that the government or support kids will get a hold of him eventually.