Get A Life!!!

@Rozie37 (15505)
Turkmenistan
January 4, 2008 6:05pm CST
I try to be as nice as possible when I post on Mylot. But, I do not like to feel pressured about responding to people. We are not required to respond to every one's respomses as far as I know. So don't send me rude comments about not replying to you. If I have something to say, I will say it, if I don't I will grade your response and keep going. I was both shocked and hurt the other day when I got a comment from someone who was upset that I had not responded to her. The next time someone does that to me, I am going to report them because I don't like for people to try and make me feel obligated to do something. I don't need that kind of pressure. If you respond to my topic, it is because you choose to. But, do not expect to hear from me, because you may not, at all.
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I generally attempt to respond to all, just because I feel that if people take the time and mind set to reply to my discussion, I should acknowledge that reply. Sometimes life takes over and I do not have the time or energy, but I do make the attempt.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
5 Jan 08
I can see if they choose to do a third and fourth response to my discussions, but they get paid for the first one, so they are not really doing me a favor.
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Oh, well, that's cool. I'm here for discussion and conversation not money so I do appreciate all responses and try to reply to keep the discussion going. I love to see a discussion of mine with a ton of replies and replies under the original replies. It makes me happy to see that a topic that I started, began a conversation. And I do enjoy the conversation. Your reasoning is your own and more power to ya. Take care.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
8 Jan 08
I am sure that you would not appreciate someone who demanded that you reply to them either. A response is a choice, like I said before.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
5 Jan 08
I do not mind if someone does not respond to me and if someone does not respond to a post I make, I feel that they do not want to show their ignorance and for some people making a fool of themselves is the worse they can do. I do not like to know that someone out in internet space is on the floor right now rolling over in laughter. And there are some posts I respond to might get plenty of flames. There are some comments I do not want to write either.
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
5 Jan 08
But if a person feels stongly about an issue, shouldn't they have the guts to back up their assertions? I know you wont' reply. I'll be shocked if you do.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
6 Jan 08
All I am saying is that on this site, a response is a choice.
@Flight84 (3050)
• United States
5 Jan 08
There really are some childish people on Mylot. So what if someone doesn't respond back? It doesn't mean that their comment wasn't read or appreciated any less. Maybe you didn't have time, or maybe you just didn't have anything further to add. I would rather someone say nothing than give me a generic 'thank you for responding', ya know? Don't let it get to you too bad, Rozie! Some people here are just really petty.
@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
6 Jan 08
It really got to me at first because I had never seen anything like that on Mylot. I was thinking, Why is she picking on me? What did I ever do to her?
@disvachic (10125)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Now thats terrible.How can somebody get mad because you did not respond to their comment.Sometimes you cant get to everybody or like maddysmommy said you find yourself repeating the same thing.If I dont respond I have read and I rate them with them with the (+) but for the member to get mad is real petty.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
6 Jan 08
It was real petty. But, I gave her a nice response, anyway. I had to get my anger in check before I could even deal with this one. The nerve of some people.
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@theprogamer (10543)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I try to respond to things when I can, and I'd be lying if I said having a zero response discussion didn't bother me. But, people are going to respond to what they want and what the can, same as me. Hopefully people won't grossly harass each other over the event. I've seen members complain of not getting responses plenty of times, but at the very least its their own discussion. Bringing it to another person's discussion, especially a friend's discussion, that's just crude and terrible.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
6 Jan 08
That is just the point, she is not my friend, and from her username, she will never be my friend.
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I agree. Sometimes you might not have anything to say about a topic even though they come from your friends. Most of them understand that.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
6 Jan 08
This was a person who responded to my discussion and then got an attitude when I did not respond to her response.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I'm with you on this one Rozie. I use to try and respond to every response I received on a discussion but I found that I was repeating myself and sometimes not making any sense at all on their response LOL if I have something to say I will, and if I don't then I just move on. Some people are just picky - I liked the way you responded to her though :) It was very polite and nice!
@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
5 Jan 08
It is very draining when you try to reply to everyone. You do end up repeating yourself and it is a waste of time, sometimes.
@19ewf84 (463)
• Austria
5 Jan 08
I can understand why you are angry. Some people here just don't understand that everyone can choose for him/herself to answer or not. What do some people think we are doing here? Or what the "job" of others is?? Some people should grow up..
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
5 Jan 08
That's true, she needs to grow up and leave others to do what they choose to.
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• United States
5 Jan 08
well I sure hope the person gets that life. I thought this was about get a life on the sims. LOL I guess it shows me how addicted I really am. I don't feel a person has to answer a person if they don't want to. It is polite and proper to some and to others they could care less. It's no biggie one way or the other. I hope your feeling better by time you go to bed. I sure do hope the person who did this,does not do it again.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
5 Jan 08
What are the sims. Are you speaking of the Simpsons show?
@SViswan (12095)
• India
5 Jan 08
Sounds fair to me! You don't need to respond to all your friends' discussions. I don't respond to all my friends' discussions and all mylotters on my friend list do not respond to mine. What's the point of responding when you have nothing to say or if the discussion does not interest you? lol...maybe you should just delete this person from your friend list.
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
6 Jan 08
The person is not even my friend.
@SViswan (12095)
• India
7 Jan 08
lol...so the thing is this person is not on your friend list and is upset that you didn't respond to a comment? Maybe you didn't think it warranted a response? I do that quite a lot. If it's just a response that really doesn't need a response, I rate it and leave it at that.
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@RosieS57 (892)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Good for you, Rozie with a Z. There are other things more important than living all day here at MyLot. I come here also to do what I want, when I want. If it were meant to be a job, would we be posting for pennies? Nope! Don't feel pressured - just enjoy the minutes you spend here. :-)
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
5 Jan 08
You said it just right. This is not suppose to be a job, it is suppose to be fun.
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@RosieS57 (892)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Proving my point, Mooch. The kids are your job, myLot isn't. It is secondary to working with your kids on schoolwork. Life consists of the kids; it doesn't revolve around myLotting. Being as myLot is not a job, our fellow myLotters are being unreasonable when demanding replies to everything they write. Who are they, our bosses? No. I do have all day, if I wanted to, to spend here. It is obvious I don't spend more than a few minutes and not every day, either. But even if I did I would be out of line to say to friends here that they must type something every time I type something. That is NOT what myLot friends are for. They are just more likely than most to share the same interests, is all -- not to be used to make myLot their job.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
13 Jan 08
Some responses are so beautiful they need no words.We know when to write and when not to.It is not obligatory.Well certain people get carried away with their new venture in this arena.That is the problem.They are more ignorant than rude.
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@mrsjbelle (1641)
• United States
13 Jan 08
I agree with you. I only have so much time here. I will do what I want to do. If you want to be my friend Great! if not thats fine to. I dont have time to respond to everyones posts. I choose the ones I have something in common with & something to reply about and do:)
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@Springlady (4011)
• United States
8 Jan 08
I agree, Rozie. There is way more to life than this website! I enjoy coming on here occasionally and respond to topics I find interesting and important to me. But I do have a huge life outside of the internet! Many people to share my time with, etc. God bless!:)
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• United States
5 Jan 08
Rozie friend I agree with you. I was taught that if you do not have anything nice to say say nothing at all! I think we as humans forget this at times. If I do not like what someone is saying in their posts I do not respond becuse I feel it makes things worst.
@Lindalinda (4116)
• Canada
5 Jan 08
I am with on this. Although it is nice to get a comment in fact it is not required and the Mylot guidelines discourage people from thanking the responders. I have noticed that Mylot has become more of a chat forum for groups of people rather than a discussion forum. I have no problem with that but responders should not automatically expect a comment. If I respond to some ones discussion the most I hope for is that they read my response. You are not obligated to do anything else nor should you be reprimanded by another poster. Happy posting!
@ersmommy1 (12605)
• United States
7 Jan 08
I agree with you. I haven't come across many rude people her. Sorry if you have.My lot is supposed to be a fun place to be. Some people may just take things to seriously.I hope you will continue to have fun, and keep posting.Try not to let anything anyone types here hurt your feelings. Life is too short! Have a good day.