What are some things you want to accomplish in life

I know exactly what you mean because that's how I felt when my older son started full time school and I had lots of free time...that's when I realized I never did anything I wanted to do. Don't get me wrong. I was very happy staying home and looking after the family and my life revolved around them (still does)...but then I realized that I have to make the time for myself too and I slowly started doing what I've always wanted to do. I started by going back to studies...I enrolled at a university and it wasn't as tough as I thought. I realized I can do all the things that I wanted to do without compromising on the family ...it was just about putting my mind to it. And you know what the best part is? It showed my family that you can do what you want if you put your mind to it. I can do all the talking I want and tell my kids that they have to do what their heart desires...but I'm showing by example and I think it works better this way. So, my advice to you...take small steps and start with your dreams....it's only the first step that is difficult to accomplish. If you can be a mother, you can be anything you want coz that's one of the toughest jobs in the world!

This is so true. thanks so much for responding and giving me hope of finding new goals to reach. I love my children and my husband with all my heart, but there is still that part of me that wants to do something just for me. Thanks again and God bless

This is very true...if i can be a mother, i can be anything. Thank you so much for all of your encouraging words. You have truly been a blessing. God bless

Try doing this instead, look into the future and say I want to do this and that instead of saying, I should've done this and that. Look towards the positive and not the negative because the negative is the past which brings one down. The positive is the future and brings a person up. BTW, thanks for the best response!! I was pleasantly surprised! *grin*

No problem...you deserved it. And thank you again. I will definitely try to stay on a positive note about things from now on. God bless

Thanks so much for the encouraging words. I know that there are a lot of times I take for granted being a mother when there are other people out there that can't have them. I love my children more than anything, there is just something about finishing school or having a good job that makes me feel better about me...let's face it, motherhood goes very unappreciated, can be exhausting and demanding at times, and not a whole lotta time for you. Not that I mind it all the time, it's really rare that I just want to get away and have some time for me. It's sounds like you are really happy with what you have though and that is wonderful and as long as God is beside us, who are we to complain. You weren't preaching...i definitely felt so much better after reading your response. Thank you and God bless

I totally understand that. I did graduate with a diploma, but I had a hard time with it and didn't get to graduate with my class. I graduated 3 months later after having to argue my way into them letting me take a test to get my diploma. They didn't look to highly at me because i was in high school and pregnant. But i stood firm and stood my ground and got my diploma. I'm sure you will be able to get your G E D...it may take a while, but sooner or later you'll be able to achieve that goal. Thanks for responding and God bless

Sometimes thinking can get the better of us hon. You're not alone in that. But as the saying goes, when one door closes another one opens right in front of us. So please try to keep your spirits up hon and keep looking ahead, especially to that wonderful day when your man comes back home to you. You definitely have things to look forward to. Hugs to you.

Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words. I can always count on you to make me feel so much better about the way things seem to be always going. I will definitely try not to dwell on the past and the what if's so much. I know that God blessed me with three beautiful children and I couldn't be happier about that. He also blessed me with a wonderful husband, so I guess I really can't complain to much. Guess I was just really down when I started the discussion and needed to vent a little. Satan does that sometimes, likes to put those thoughts of "what if" just like you said. Thanks again so much and God bless. big hugs to you as well

But of course Sgtswife. Updates to this may come as discussions. Some of the subjects might be out there, but I do talk about how things are going (usually on the weekend threads). Have a good night. :)

hey programmer, those are all really great goals. It is definitely is important for you to continue being who you are and not changing that. All of the things you talk about seem wonderful. keep me posted on them and thank you so much for responding. God bless

thanks...i will definitely be looking for them and you have a good evening as well. God bless

well i'm sure that you will be able to achieve that. just have faith and let God lead you through it and things can definitely happen for you. Good luck and God bless

I appreciate the response. I know you always want to achieve more goals in life, or most people do, but really the only thing I wanna do for me is go back to school and when my daughter gets in school find a really good job. That is important to me. I will be a stay at home mother until she enters school which is another 2 and a half years, but when that time comes i want to have a respectable job that I can be proud of. Thanks for responding and God bless

didn't think of it that way. thanks for responding and God bless.

Well, good luck to you on achieving that goal. keep me posted on how it goes. thanks for responding and God bless

it sounds like you really know what you want out of life and that is awesome. i think finishing school and building a career to help support a family is a wonderful idea. I'm sure you have grown a lot stronger. Thanks for responding and God bless

Good luck to you and God bless

I think you might have read my discussion wrong. I am a child of God...I don't want to be. Not that I don't appreciate you writing me back on this issue. If I didn't have God, I honestly don't know where i would be. He has been my rock through all my trials and accomplishments in life. Thanks so much for responding and God bless you

The time definitely flies by. It's like, my oldest will be 10 in May...where did all that time go. Makes me feel kind of old even though i'm only 28. LOL! You should definitely take up your painting again if that is what really made you happy in the past and with your kids older now, you have that opportunity. Good luck and keep me posted on how it goes. God bless

Thanks for responding and congratulations on your little girl. Make sure you help your wife out as much as you can and be understanding with her if she has a bad day every now and then from sleepless nights. Just trying to help, since i'm a mother of three and know how men can get sometimes when they aren't getting alot of attention due to the baby or they get upset when their wives have a bad day. LOL! Honestly though, i wish you and your wife and new baby all the best. Children are a blessing. God bless

Sounds like you really have your head on your shoulder. Congratulations on your job. i hope that it's everything you wanted and more. Your right, there is absolutely no use in crying over spilt milk...doesn't do you any good what so ever. Good luck to you and thanks for responding. God bless

Being a mom is wonderful, most of the time. It is good that you were able to finish school and are working right now. I'm sure that you would make a wonderful teacher. You seem to have a heart for children. You'll make an excellent mother one day. Thanks for responding and God bless

Those seem like some really great goals you have set for yourself. And good luck to you in the future in becoming a mom. if you feel that you are here for that purpose then that is something you should definitely do when the time is right for you. Good luck and God bless.