Attention seeking ex...?

New Zealand
January 8, 2008 5:22pm CST
Hi everyone, I need some advice I think... My ex(father of my two children) rang me the other night in tears claiming pain in arm left arm and not being able to breathe. He told me to tell the children he loves them. My thoughts are that he is and always has been a pathological liar and attention seeking drama queen. I texted him the next day and asked how he was feeling. Have yet to hear back from him. Do I believe that something was really wrong and keep trying to get in contact, or run the risk that I'm falling for his crap yet again? Or my other thought is that he has found out for the first time I am actually busy this weekend and this is his way of sabotaging that time away for me.(The children are supposed to stay with him this weekend.) I don't want to run after him and 'mother' him if nothing is wrong, I'm not into playing those types of games anymore. I am pretty sure though that if something was wrong his mother would call me, as we are still friendly and in contact with each other. Anyone have any thoughts on this? I have thought maybe I should text him just to say the kids are doing fine and looking forward to seeing him.
1 person likes this
3 responses
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
8 Jan 08
i think you have figured it out. there is no better way than tell him or text him that "the kids aredoing fine and looking forward to seeing him." i think this will work better. it is really tough if you have already fallen to a trap (ex lying). you will never know what to believe.
• New Zealand
9 Jan 08
I did that, text him and let him know they are fine, happy, well, looking forward to weekend, and would you believe it.... he said he is looking forward to it too!! Not a mention of the other night at all!! Silly man. Why am I not surprised....
@subha12 (18441)
• India
9 Jan 08
I think he is just taking advantage by making these gestures. Don't believe him as you have the experience before. I think he was taking advantage as he was jsut taking your time and is thinkng that you will run after him.
@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
9 Jan 08
Just accept him as he is and if he is lying then its up to him. Just stay calm and do what you have to do as her ex. If he is really in pain I think he knows what he has to do and you as his ex knows what ou can do to help him. AS regards to his children let them see if their father is really in pain or what. They will tell you for sure if he does.