Save the drama for your mama.

@kiobug (2250)
United States
January 9, 2008 1:37am CST
Okay so kb has been resurrected. Work has been crazy with christmas and all that. And Valentines day is right around the corner. You all have been in my thoughts and I wish you all well and hope none of you have faced any hardships recently. As for me, well my boyfriend and I....four years plus....well im not sure whats going to happen there...dont really know. Basically I screwed up by hanging out with some guy friends but lied about it...and so for some reason him telling me I couldnt do that anymore, etc...made me feel different for the first time in four years....Basically im looking for input. I dont expect a lot since I ditched yall for like two months....but hey. I cant change whats already happened.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
9 Jan 08
I don't consider that you ditched us but merely you took a long needed break and that's ok. I've done it and so have so many others. We all need a break from here every now and then or it'll consume us and it won't be a thing to enjoy anymore. If you feel differently now and aren't sure what you want, that tells me that you're ready to move on. Nothing wrong with that. Life goes on. What is wrong is lying to yourself about it and your significant other. Another thing, you already know, you should'nt have lied to your boyfriend because it shows guilt even if you haven't done anything. If you did something, always own up to it. It's better that he knows the truth than to find out you lied, that way you can deal with it right then and there and get it over with instead of worrying about "him finding out". In what ever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck!
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@kiobug (2250)
• United States
10 Jan 08
I know but at the same time why did I start crying about it today for the first time in four days...Im just really confused...scared...unsure...its like hes my safety net...or training wheels. And worst of all what if six months from now I want to get back together?
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
10 Jan 08
I try to use this mind set no matter what the situation is. "It was the right thing to do at that time." Even if later on it turns out to be the wrong thing, it doesn't matter for it was the right thing for you at that time so it was never wrong.
@kiobug (2250)
• United States
12 Jan 08
Thats really good. Its like a spin on well it didnt seem like a bad idea at the time. Haha. But it hella makes sense. I like it. Thanks. That helped a lot.
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@carolbee (16243)
• United States
11 Jan 08
If your boyfriend doesn't like you hanging out with your guy friends and you care about your boyfriend of 4 years, I'd stay away from the guy friends. Guess it depends on what is more important to you.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
12 Jan 08
Hey girly. I know you said I didn't have to reply, but I felt the need anyway, and why not, since I already read the whole thing? :P Sounds pretty complicated. I can see how you'd be upset over having already given up so much for your bf and still constantly having to isolate yourself from people who would be your friends. I can also understand the impulse to lie because you're doing something you know he won't approve of, even if what you're doing isn't technically wrong. It's frustrating to feel like you have to answer to someone all the time, even when you haven't really done anything wrong. I've been there. Having been with your bf steadily for so long since a young age, it's easy to understand how you might be thinking about a change. And when you're thinking that way, even behaviors that you accepted before can become intolerable. Personally if I were you I think I'd tell the bf that I will have friends, I will choose my own friends, but I won't lie about spending time with them when I do so. *shrugs* When time goes by without you doing anything about it, he's just going to believe even more that it's okay with you that he tells you what you can and can't do so much... and so it's going to be harder to break out of that without breaking off the relationship.
@kiobug (2250)
• United States
12 Jan 08
Good advice. And thats what happened. And we have talked about it here and there and he has become more understanding that I do need to experience stuff and what not. Basically im not going with the flow on this this time. He can be the one to obey me on his end. : )
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